Anal pleasure preparations

[sweet T]

Butt Plugs? Are they worth the while?

I am going to be giving my lover a special gift soon! He has had this before(18yrs) We have beaded anal toys to relax with, but i personally want to know if a butt plug is benefical to loosening up. He has a large thick cock and I want to be able to enjoy our experience quickly, without any discomfort. Any suggestions would be appreciated.. Thanks sweet T

 

[Guest]

 

[Wantonica]

A little too much to drink, then in total agreement with Emerald... lots of lube. Slippery when wet is the best motto.

Smiles,
Wantonica

 

[CelticFrog]

my best advice other than LUBE-ity LUBE LUBE is quite simple:

don't psych yourself out. Remind yourself that there are a great many people out there who LOVE anal penetration, myself included. Granted, the first man who ever fucked me senseless in this particular fashion is now my husband, and it took... hm... I think three times before I realized how good it felt.

Something I've noticed with my own anatomy and alignment is that I can really only accept and enjoy anal sex if he is entering me from behind, either doggy style or me bent over straight legged hands on the ground open to every possible ministration... oh god, I hope he gets home from work early tonight...

Honestly, the magical 3rd time's the charm happy time was just that, when I happened to be walking towards our bedroom for a good fucking and my husband decided to stop me where I was in the living room and bend me over right there. We had already been enjoying fun in the kitchen, so that helped my personal lubrication's availability, and he also brought me seconds away from orgasm in that manner before he pulled out and with some but not much warning... well... yeah. Mmm. I never thought it was possible to orgasm from it.

I need to stop now.

*sigh*

Ang

 

[Guest]

I have found that tequila works wonders! And yes, tons of lube. Just make sure ya have Tide cuz you'll be washing some sheets brotha'!


Vibes are nice to begin with, or plugs or fingers, tounges, but yes definately shower. That should be a given!

 

[NYSubGrpplr]

An enema help keeps things a lot cleaner.

 

[Guest]

True but gawd how that just takes the romance out of the entire experience. But then, so could another incident!!!!!!!!

 

[NYSubGrpplr]

It doesn't have to be right before, depending on the volume it could be anywhere from a few hours to a day or so prior.

 

[Lust Engine]

If nothing else to reduce the mutual ick factor, shower together just prior to.

Consider it anal foreplay!

Have fun!

 

[Guest]

What's this I hear about Anal-Eze? Does that help matters? My gf and I try it and I know she wants it but I'm, um, shall we say a bit too thick and while we have managed before I wasn't completely hard at the time and probably didn't use near enough lube. And she gets tense and nervous.


I don't think it had anything to do with the Haitian woodoo mask I had on. Sorry, couldn't help that one!


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You have an entrancing kiss~ the kind that leaves your partner bedazzled and maybe even feeling he/she is dreaming. Quite effective; the kiss that never lessens and always blows your partner away like the first time.

 

[Lust Engine]

What's this I hear about Anal-Eze? Does that help matters? My gf and I try it and I know she wants it but I'm, um, shall we say a bit too thick and while we have managed before I wasn't completely hard at the time and probably didn't use near enough lube. And she gets tense and nervous.

I've always wondered about this stuff too. I've never tried it but somehow using ANY type of numbing agent (I'll assume that's what it does) seems to be defeating the purpose.

Anyone with experience using this stuff??

Call me old fashioned but I'd always settle for helping her relax & working her way up to it coupled with lotsa lube.

 

[Guest]

Call me old fashioned but I'd always settle for helping her relax & working her way up to it coupled with lotsa lube.

As would I. But it would be fun to spring a tube of that on her and then chase her around the house, haha!!!


http://live.quizilla.com/user_images/G/ghettokitty/1047299736_entrancing.jpg


You have an entrancing kiss~ the kind that leaves your partner bedazzled and maybe even feeling he/she is dreaming. Quite effective; the kiss that never lessens and always blows your partner away like the first time.

 

[Lust Engine]

As would I. But it would be fun to spring a tube of that on her and then chase her around the house, haha!!!

Hopefully it's a small house!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Guest]

Yeah I'll leave that to the pro's and just do it the old fashioned way. Thanks for the head's up!




http://live.quizilla.com/user_images/G/ghettokitty/1047299736_entrancing.jpg


You have an entrancing kiss~ the kind that leaves your partner bedazzled and maybe even feeling he/she is dreaming. Quite effective; the kiss that never lessens and always blows your partner away like the first time.

 

[sweet T]

Whatever you do, DON'T use Anal-eze. It numbs the pain, but the pain is there for a reason and she could have a lot of tearing and not realize it. If she's not relaxed enough to take it with plain lube, then don't do it. You could really injure her.

I am so glad to see this thread warming up!
I asked the same question in the BDSM cafe and have recieved wonderful advice!
Pink Orchid is correct, Do NOT force! Relaxation is the key! With lots of foreplay!
I want to try the pleasure plug for obvious reasons.. but also to play with on my own.!

T

 

[Lust Engine]

Yeah I'll leave that to the pro's and just do it the old fashioned way. Thanks for the head's up!

Phew... see what I meant? Anything that numbs an area couldn't possibly be that good. And after that stuff gets around on the BOTH of you, I think it defeats the purpose of feeling it all.

Heck, I'd want to feel it all but if it included those kinds of risks, I'd pass.

 

[sheath]

Honestly, the magical 3rd time's the charm happy time was just that, when I happened to be walking towards our bedroom for a good fucking and my husband decided to stop me where I was in the living room and bend me over right there. We had already been enjoying fun in the kitchen, so that helped my personal lubrication's availability, and he also brought me seconds away from orgasm in that manner before he pulled out and with some but not much warning... well... yeah. Mmm. I never thought it was possible to orgasm from it.

I need to stop now.

*sigh*

Ang

DAMMIT, why did you STOP?

More, more, more!

S.

 

[dcraz]

A word of advice for beginners

Another good piece of advice is to lay on your back and let her be on top. This helps her relax, she can go at her own pace, pull out quickly if she needes to and will certainly give her piece of mind knowing that you cannot get carried away and keep pushing if it hurts her.

Let her drive the pace of the action.

And what ever you do, go easy. But if you DO fail, try try again! Had a girlfriend once that loved anal sex. She could come much faster and harder that way than during vaginal sex.

Good luck.

DC

 

[CelticFrog]

DAMMIT, why did you STOP?

More, more, more!

S.

LOL darling,
If I kept going, I would have had to wake up the youngin, pack him into his carseat, hope he fell asleep on the way to Daddy's work, find a way to get Daddy out of work without leaving said youngin in the car and walking into the building, find a dark spot in the parking lot (there are none that I've ever found), manage to hide from the security forces people that are continually driving through that parking lot at it is around one of the gates to the flightline, avoid the firemen whose building is next door to his, and fuck him senseless in whatver spot I could find without being too far away just in case the almighty screamer woke up. I'm sure I missed steps in there, but lordy that alone would be hell.

Why would I have to go through all this trouble if I have myself? Because a)we don't have a dildo that I think I would like in my ass -- too smooth and slender and boring, b)I don't want to have to work that hard and be so much more flexible than I really am, and c)I just prefer to be rammed by him -- anyways, if I got off anally without him, I think he'd feel sad that he missed out on it. Many times I'm so worn out after it that I can't go again for a day or two. At least not in that hole...

Ang

 

[jracer347]

wondering??? what prep work is needed before anal sex...i know lots of lube and go slow..but far as not getting poop on your deal?? have her go to the bathroom first??? or will you still get some on your deal???....hmmmmm...help

 

[Lust Engine]

wondering??? what prep work is needed before anal sex...i know lots of lube and go slow..but far as not getting poop on your deal?? have her go to the bathroom first??? or will you still get some on your deal???....hmmmmm...help

"On your deal"?

Even if she does go to the bathroom there's still a chance of residual poop on your deal. The closest thing is for her to have an enema prior to.

And if you can't deal with a little poop on your deal then anal sex isn't gonna be your thing.

 

[Guest]

Just remember, if ya NOT in a hotel it wasn't the pillow chocolate left by the maid LOL!!!!!



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Exhibitionist movie! You'd get off on letting ANYONE and EVERYONE watch you have sex...even small children, you sick sonofabitch! Kinky is your middle name, Daddy being the first.

 

[DuckLover]

wondering??? what prep work is needed before anal sex...i know lots of lube and go slow..but far as not getting poop on your deal?? have her go to the bathroom first??? or will you still get some on your deal???....hmmmmm...help

Yet another reason to wear a condom during anal sex, even in a committed relationship -- it keeps you clean. (It also prevents any sort of infection!)

 

[DuckLover]

First, LUBE is definitely the #1 key to good anal sex. No matter how much you're using, add a bit more. There's no such thing as too much.

Second, I DO find that warming up with fingers and vibes is very helpful. Doing so gives the muscles a chance to stretch and relax around a smaller object before inserting his penis.

Third, letting her be in control of the pace, especially the first few times, is important. If you want to be a really great anal lover, be sure to 1) finger your own ass, 2) let her finger your ass, and then 3) let her insert a toy in your ass. The better you understand the experience of being on the receiving end, the better you will be on the giving end.

Fourth and lastly, I recommend that you never pull out rapidly. As has been mentioned on other anal threads, the rectum is not nearly as tough as the vagina; it's sensitive and fragile. Rapidly pulling your/his penis out can create painful and dangerous amounts of friction.

Good luck and have fun! (I sure do!)