Anal Play with GF

[fsumusic1981]

Last night, my girlfriend was giving me a blowjob when I asked her if she'd like to play with my anus. She asked me if I had showered during the day, and I told her "no." Then, she asked if I had went to the bathroom (poop) that day, and I told her "no," and that I was clean from the night before when I showered.

She told me that she didn't want to do it and that she found anuses "scary" and "gross." So I went back to getting the regular ol' blowjob. While blowjobs are great, I'll admit my feelings were a little hurt that she turned down my suggestion. She is not prone to sexual experimentation, and it took alot for me to ask her to do that.

Now, some may say, "If only you'd showered..." But I've asked her about three or four other times to do this, including after I had showered, and she has turned me down.

I've told her the anus has many nerves and it could bring great feelings of pleasure to me. Then I will mention that she knows this from when I give her rimjobs. She loves them and becomes dripping wet. She'll respond that even though she enjoys getting rimjobs and having me finger her ass during oral sex, she does not feel comfortable with even touching the outside of my anus.

Which brings me to my question...

Should I even pursue this any futher with her, or is it a dead end? Should I just leave my desire for anal play to the times when I masturbate?

I would ultimately like my girlfriend to feel comfortable with the idea of giving my pleasure through anal play, as I enjoy it tremendously. Ideally, I would like her to feel comfortable and to enjoy using small dildos and strapons on me. But first things first. If I cannot get her to touch my anus while giving oral sex or a handjob, I do not think I can realistically expect her to engage in these other kinds of anal play.

Where should I go from here? Should I talk to her further about this, telling her how I feel and how much I would enjoy it? Or have I already asked enough? Has she already told me how she feels, or is there room for me to ask again?

On a side note... Preferably, I would like to keep secret my desire to use dildos and strapons until she becomes comfortable with more elementary forms of anal play. I do not plan on bringing this up with her.

Any and all advice and comments are appreciated, especially from those of you who have been through this.

-Peace

 

[oo0_boo_0oo]

Does your g/f like anal play herself?

 

[Bobmi357]

There comes a time when no means no. That doesn't mean she will be always against the idea, but for right now its an out of bounds topic which I suggest you forget about. Maybe in a couple years she'll change her mind. But all you're going to do by bringing it up now is piss her off.

 

[fsumusic1981]

Yes, boo, my girlfriend enjoys anal play.

 

[SexyChele]

Okay, a big secret here: I do not find men's anuses as attractive as a woman's. This is just me, I know, but men are (sometimes) hairier than women. Also, where women seem to be more discretionary regarding things such as passing gas, men seem to not worry about such things. This causes me to keep in mind what that part of the body is used for on a normal basis. It's not an attractive thought. And this could be where your g/f is coming from.

Luckily, the man I'm with does not want me to engage in anal play with him, though he likes to play with me anally. It works for us. However, he would want me to engage in play, I would feel far more comfortable if I were to use rubber gloves. Perhaps you could suggest this? Or have some available?

However, it is probably more likely that she just isn't into it. Maybe in a few years, maybe never. You've stated what you would like. Trust me, she knows it. If the idea ever appeals to her, she knows you would be recepted to it. This may just be something you have to let go of.

 

[fsumusic1981]

Thanks for the advice Chele and Bobmi. I agree with you both and am going to put this desire on the back burner. She knows about it if she wants to do it. And I don't want to make her uncomfortable by bringing it back up.

Thanks again.

-Peace

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

If I cannot get her to touch my anus while giving oral sex or a handjob, I do not think I can realistically expect her to engage in these other kinds of anal play.

You may be wrong there, fsumusic. While I enjoy any and all things done anally to me, I don't like fingering a guy's ass. I do, however, love fucking his ass with vibes, and of course my big strap on.

I think you should have a vibe handy next time, and ask her to use it on your cock, your balls, and then, ask her to use it lower....to run it over that sensitive area between your ball sac and your asshole, and then up and down your asscrack. If you moan appreciatively, she may get into it!

Her problem might just be the thought of getting shit on her fingers.

Good luck!

 

[Horndoggy]

I'm in the same boat you are in. My wife has played with my anus and has even inserted a vibrator a time or two (early in our marriage) but refuses to get anywhere close now. I have asked, suggested that I give myself an enema, and have even showed her stories and pics of male anal play but she wants nothing to do with it. I resignedly came to the conclusion that it isn't going to happen. Maybe in the future but not now.
As suggested above, I would just leave it alone for now. Maybe some day it will happen. In the meantime, go over to the stories section and look under the Fetish area...there are some great male anal play stories there!!

'doggy