Anal owwies

[sweetcyanide]

Ok here it goes.

My boyfriend REALLY likes anal sex. And me, being the open minded person that I am, decided to give it a go awhile ago. Well, the pain was beyond terrible. Not normal, from all that I've heard...
sharp, stabbing pains WAY up into my gut, to the point of tears.
Now I've talked to some other g/f's and they say it can be very pleasurable. I feel like I'm missing out, and don't really want to take this to the doctor.

I'm very relaxed when we try it, and yes, lots and lots of lubricant.

Has anybody experienced similar problems, or have any advice of what I might try to make it easier?

 

[Skibum]

You are not alone Sweetcyanide. My wife has tried and failed at this also. You are not abnormal. Some people simply can not tolerate anal penetration.

 

[sweetcyanide]

Damn.

 

[SpecialK]

Hmmn.... I'm just gonna postulate a guess here, but maybe the angle of entry is wrong?

Also, despite being relaxed and well lubed, it's still something you need to take a lot of time with. Make sure you control the action. Don't let your boyfriend go deep until you are ready to let him. Take it an inch at a time. If he really likes anal sex and wants to add this to your sexual activities, chances are, if he follows your speed, he'll end up getting it more often, whereas if he slams in too fast and too far, you won't like it and probably won't let him try it again.

The first time I tried it I found it really painful as well simply because my boyfriend was too zealous. Once he took things at MY pace the next time we tried, I found I was able to enjoy it. Hope the suggestions help.

K

 

[Wizard]

Let me ask a silly question here, Have you worked up to this?.....I mean me and the wife spent alot of time with butt plugs and a nice slow easy finger....I mean a long time just letting her get the feel and relaxed to the situation........and yes Lube lube lube............

 

[sweetcyanide]

Yes, we've worked up to it, and he's pretty good with taking it at my pace.

It hurt so badly the first time that I told him no more.

I think I'm willing to try again though.

That should be a nice surprise for him when he gets back!

Thanks all, and specialK...good tip, I'll control the speed next time around.

I was just wondering if the pain was normal or if everyone else who has tried it had no problems. I think my inquiry was answered.

 

[RemovedByRequest]

A major help for me

My husband and i got it down by using a goodsized vibrator in my vagina while he went very slow getting in. It had always been unbearable and I'd cry and cry, but I persisted cause I knew there had to be a way. SpecialK is right, the angle is extreamly important. If you try again, try with a vibrator in you at the same time, up on high. It sort of massages you inside to the point that you wan't feel as much pain. There will always be some degree of pain at first entry, but once he's in and you get going there's nothing more satisfying. Good luck, Sweetie

P.S. rub or have him rub your clit too, man does that do the trick for me. Try lying on your back, with pillows under your ass while he enters instead of good ol' dggy style. That is less stressful.

 

[Bliss]

Sweet,

Are you using anything to lessen the pain? Like this http://partners.accessadult.com/literotica/store.cfm?id=704&user=34077032-200009041500

That, the right position, patience and like Wizzie said, starting with smaller objects, will get you there. It's bound to hurt the first several times, all sex usually does.

Good Luck!

 

[sweetcyanide]

Thanks Bliss, I didn't even know they made stuff like that! That'll definetely be on my shopping list!


Also, blondeAndBare, that's a really excellent idea, I'll give it a whirl *grins*

Thanks all.


I'm glad I found this place, it's good for questions like this.

 

[Bonnie Wee Lassie]

I read the thread and think you found your help but I wanted to just say that was the funniest thread title I have seen so far.
Anal owwies......ha ha that was a good one. Sorry Am I the only one who laughed when they saw it.

 

[Skitten]

You should make sure also that he is nice and hard if he isn't sometimes it will really hurt so make sure that. And lots of lube regardlsess. And the fact may be you can't tolerate, but before giving up try some new things like positioning and such. Good luck hope the advice helps some.

 

[Golden]

trawl the back numbers ...

over the months there's been lots of good advice on this BB ...

here's my 2cents ...

when you do get around to it...
1. relax
2. relax some more
3. start with fingers or a small dildo; lube with vaseline or cunt juice
4. condom or wash before you put his cock back in your vagina.
5 relax some more and chill
6. Await wet fart.
7. and another
8. end of sensible advice.
9. oh, except to say if the initial pain doesn't stop, tell him to get out and stay out ... some girls love it and some girls just don't. If you don't, then it's more than ok to say no, it's compulsory!



Bit like marmite really!


also Try

http://www.literotica.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/000003.html

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=10616

or just do a search on ANAL in the subject on the general or how to boards ...

good luck - hope you end up enjoying!

 

[dancinvixen]

Hmmn.... I'm just gonna postulate a guess here, but maybe the angle of entry is wrong?K

This is a really big thing. I know from my own personal experience that the angle of entry has a lot to do with it. Some people can use the missionary style for this, but others cannot. Myself, I can only accept it if I am in doggy style. The main thing being, really work yourselves into it. some people just cannot ever go from kissing and foreplay straight to anal sex. So try a different angle, have him really ease his way inside of you, use a really good lubricant, also water helps too, and try to remember that faster is not always better until you get the hang of it. <g>

 

[Strange Girl]

dancinvixen, If you know as much about dancing as about all these other things, I wanna watch. Seriously.

 

[dancinvixen]

I know much about all sorts of things. <g> and yes, I am a very wonderful highly energetic dancer. <g>

 

[hambone]

Just takes practice

My man had been wanting and trying anal sex for some time. Found it very painful, and begged to quit (which he did). Then we tried to go slower with one finger. Recently, he pulled out his butt-plug he had bought, and we had a new toy to practice with, and help me to losen up.
I had always thought I would never go for anal sex. Then, while practicing with the plug, he masturbated me, and I had the most intense orgasm. Now, anal sex is just another position we can try if we like. Go for it.