I've never had anal sex and my fiance is begging me to try it - though he's never had it either! I'm afraid we'll encounter quite a few difficulties in the process - and neither of us will recieve any pleasure or satisfaction. I've heard from many of my girlfriends that it can also be quite painful (though losing my virginity wasn't exactly a walk in the park, either), and I'm not one to keep going if something hurts really bad. Plus, I'm a little worried about the sanitary aspect of it all - or, more precisely, of the inside of it all. Any advice you could offer would be great appreciated - I'm kind of nervous but I know how much he'd enjoy it, and I'm quite eager to find out what it's all about myself...
anal how-tos for beginners
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You might check out the How To listings in the story index there are quite a few on Anal Sex.
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Vixandra is right on with her answers. I always say if it seems like Too much lube, it's almost enough. Remember YOU are in charge on this one. Go VERY slow!!!!! You tell him exactly what to do "slow, stop, slow, stop" If a few drinks relaxes you then have a couple extra. LOL If you're not a drinker than just take it very slow and make sure you're ready and comfortable.
About the sanitary part, you can use condoms if that is a concern.
About the sanitary part, you can use condoms if that is a concern.
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Take it very slow, especially when first inserting. Use plenty of lube, as mentioned above...
And if it starts to hurt, push down like you are trying to poop. This will open up the sphinkter muscle and allow more room.
Also, it helps if your partner is not gigantic. But if he is, have him go only half way until you get comfortable with it.
And if it starts to hurt, push down like you are trying to poop. This will open up the sphinkter muscle and allow more room.
Also, it helps if your partner is not gigantic. But if he is, have him go only half way until you get comfortable with it.
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Maybe I don't have the muscle name correct - not so good on my anatomy. But you get the point.
Key word S L O W
Make sure there is plenty of foreplay.
Oral with a little anal fingering is nice (both ways)
Lubrication is important.
Be gentle and tender.
Insert the head and pop it out and repeat.
When penetrating... go s l o w
If it hurts... communicate...
Have him pause... as you relex... you will draw him in.
Once fully penetrated... soft slow strokes.
Soon enough... you will want it harder and faster.
Play with your clit for further stimulation
ENJOY your gift to one another.
Make sure there is plenty of foreplay.
Oral with a little anal fingering is nice (both ways)
Lubrication is important.
Be gentle and tender.
Insert the head and pop it out and repeat.
When penetrating... go s l o w
If it hurts... communicate...
Have him pause... as you relex... you will draw him in.
Once fully penetrated... soft slow strokes.
Soon enough... you will want it harder and faster.
Play with your clit for further stimulation
ENJOY your gift to one another.
Okay I am at work and I am a lousy writer so this is on the quick and please forgive the lack of formatting, spelling and general abuse of the English written art.
First you should go out and get one of those Fleet disposable enemas and use it so you know that you are all nice and clean there (Its not as bad as you might think). Next take and lay some blankets down on the floor and get a good mood going (yes I did say floor). If you lay on your belly and get a nice warm slow backrub with plenty of oil, paying special attention to your lower back, ass, crotch, butt and upper legs. Your job is basically to relax as much as possible while he plays around with your body. To help you relax you might think of what my wife and I think about… MAO or Mutually Assured Orgasm meaning everyone is going to cum before the nights out so don’t worry about it and let it just happen. Okay basically after you get all the fingering and prodding done as part of your massage making sure that he uses plenty of KY (no such thing as too much) you might try using a very small pointed vibrator just in the entrance of your ass… this helps kind of loosen things up and has a slight numbing effect. You don’t want to let him go too deep because unlike your crotch your bottom has a definite limit to how much it can take before it says no more. If you get the urge to push then just gently push away because it will help open up the muscles more and remember you clean yourself out with the enema before hand so you wont have anything to move out so to speak. If you still feel uncomfortable at this point then don’t be afraid to yell stop and move on to more back rubbing and try again another day, It may take a few try’s at the back and ass rub to get you comfortable with associating anal play with pleasurable sex (Believe it or not your mental state has more to do with this than anything else). If you still have some doubts then there is a little trick I use on woman. I get some Ambasol toothache jell and put a little of that on my finger and slowly work it in with a combo of KY and the oil and using for the rub. This will numb everything for about 10 minutes which gives time for they guy to get inside you and loosen you up that way when it wares off you are sort of loosened up enough so it wont be uncomfortable for you. So okay we got the lube the rub the ass foreplay what next???? Ah the position, Okay the position I find that woman can take cock the most comfortable is on there backs. You sort of lay down on your back and pull your knees comfortable up towards your chest and the man eases in. The position also allows the guy to gently rub the woman while he is inside of her and I know my wife really has incredibly strong orgasms that way especially when I alternate from her crotch to her ass (DON’T TRY THAT UNTIL MUCH LATER AND IF YOU EVER DO TRY IT DON’T BE SURPRISED IF YOU END UP IN THE DOCTORS OFFICE A FEW DAYS LATER) When everything is all done you may get what I call Jelly legs so I suggest that you lie still for a while. I actually continue the rub on my wife while she relaxes and her body returns to normal. My wife and I do this a lot and every ex girlfriend I have ever had going to back to the age of about 14 has submitted her ass to me and all but two were first timers. How did it end up…. Well my wife and I do this about twice a month and she actually craves it. My exes all liked it too and would ask for it if I didn’t do it every three months or so. I really could go on in on about how to do this and frankly without making some sort of training video its almost impossible to describe everything but keep it slow, passionate and gentle and make sure everyone cums before the end of the night that way the next time you have sex you will be able to relax better knowing that no matter how much foreplay takes place and if things don’t work out as planned everyone still has a good time.
First you should go out and get one of those Fleet disposable enemas and use it so you know that you are all nice and clean there (Its not as bad as you might think). Next take and lay some blankets down on the floor and get a good mood going (yes I did say floor). If you lay on your belly and get a nice warm slow backrub with plenty of oil, paying special attention to your lower back, ass, crotch, butt and upper legs. Your job is basically to relax as much as possible while he plays around with your body. To help you relax you might think of what my wife and I think about… MAO or Mutually Assured Orgasm meaning everyone is going to cum before the nights out so don’t worry about it and let it just happen. Okay basically after you get all the fingering and prodding done as part of your massage making sure that he uses plenty of KY (no such thing as too much) you might try using a very small pointed vibrator just in the entrance of your ass… this helps kind of loosen things up and has a slight numbing effect. You don’t want to let him go too deep because unlike your crotch your bottom has a definite limit to how much it can take before it says no more. If you get the urge to push then just gently push away because it will help open up the muscles more and remember you clean yourself out with the enema before hand so you wont have anything to move out so to speak. If you still feel uncomfortable at this point then don’t be afraid to yell stop and move on to more back rubbing and try again another day, It may take a few try’s at the back and ass rub to get you comfortable with associating anal play with pleasurable sex (Believe it or not your mental state has more to do with this than anything else). If you still have some doubts then there is a little trick I use on woman. I get some Ambasol toothache jell and put a little of that on my finger and slowly work it in with a combo of KY and the oil and using for the rub. This will numb everything for about 10 minutes which gives time for they guy to get inside you and loosen you up that way when it wares off you are sort of loosened up enough so it wont be uncomfortable for you. So okay we got the lube the rub the ass foreplay what next???? Ah the position, Okay the position I find that woman can take cock the most comfortable is on there backs. You sort of lay down on your back and pull your knees comfortable up towards your chest and the man eases in. The position also allows the guy to gently rub the woman while he is inside of her and I know my wife really has incredibly strong orgasms that way especially when I alternate from her crotch to her ass (DON’T TRY THAT UNTIL MUCH LATER AND IF YOU EVER DO TRY IT DON’T BE SURPRISED IF YOU END UP IN THE DOCTORS OFFICE A FEW DAYS LATER) When everything is all done you may get what I call Jelly legs so I suggest that you lie still for a while. I actually continue the rub on my wife while she relaxes and her body returns to normal. My wife and I do this a lot and every ex girlfriend I have ever had going to back to the age of about 14 has submitted her ass to me and all but two were first timers. How did it end up…. Well my wife and I do this about twice a month and she actually craves it. My exes all liked it too and would ask for it if I didn’t do it every three months or so. I really could go on in on about how to do this and frankly without making some sort of training video its almost impossible to describe everything but keep it slow, passionate and gentle and make sure everyone cums before the end of the night that way the next time you have sex you will be able to relax better knowing that no matter how much foreplay takes place and if things don’t work out as planned everyone still has a good time.
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I've found that if I have an orgasm first by some other means, I'm waaaay relaxed and wet, and it makes anal penetration easier (and likely to orgasm again!) Try that.
Oh yeah, plenty of lube, go slow, like everyone says.
Oh yeah, plenty of lube, go slow, like everyone says.
