anal help

[Guest]

my partner and I have been discussing anal play for sometime now. We both enjoy rimming each other and I have personally experieced the joy of his thumb. and now two fingers. We would like to adventure further but in speaking with a friend of mine her experience was horrifing she said it was not the pain... but she was sick to her stomach fro two days everytime she moved she was running to the bathroom and it was a huge MESS. That the pleasure was not worth the after effects. Any comments, suggestions or help. I love the please we are experienceing now and we both wnat more. Also andy suggestions on how to get my partner to let me go further than rimming him?

 

[SexyChele]

It's been my experience that I react differently sometimes after having anal sex.

What I have found to be most comfortable is to engage in anal sex after having a bowel movement. This helps to minimize any "mess" that may be experienced during sex. Also, it helps to put your mind at ease, which is very, very important.

There have been a few, very rare (for me, anyway) times that I have had "loose bowels". And that was usually if I hadn't gone to the bathroom before engaging in anal sex. Having talked about it with one of my partners more experienced in anal sex, once I engaged in anal sex after a "movement", I discovered I no longer had that problem. However, sometimes if I engage in anal sex several times in one night, and there is a great deal of seman in the anal cavity, then I sometimes have "loose bowels" the next day. However, just this past Saturday I engaged in anal sex 4 times without any ill effects. I also engaged in anal sex twice Sunday night, also without any ill effects.

Sometimes anal sex may leave a woman constipated for a couple of days - which is easy enough to take care of, but something to be aware of.

The best advice I can give is to engage in anal sex after a bowel movement, be totally relaxed (may take a lot of time, especially the first time), use LOTS of lubrication, and have your partner go SLOW and GENTLE. The last 2 points cannot be stressed enough. For me, it has been times when my partner either moved too fast, or started becoming rough that I experienced problems or discomfort, either during sex or afterwards.

Also, being that it is your first time, be prepared - some women do experience "loose bowels" after anal sex, others become constipated, others have no side effects. (I've been lucky in that I eventually had an experienced partner that taught me how to fall into the final category) For me, anal sex is a great pleasure, but common sense and following simple advice should be followed.

Also, very important! After engaging in anal sex, it is VERY important that both you and your partner thoroughly cleanse the anal area (woman) and the penis.

As to how to get your partner into more than rimming, what I have found to be effective is giving a man a slow, teasing, thoroughly enjoyable blow job. I mean REALLY drag it out! When he finally can't take it anymore, and you are bringing him to climax, slowly (slowly is the operative word here - no fast, hard movements) insert just the tip of one finger into his anus. Chances are he will be begging for more and/or will cum almost immediately.

I'm sure you will get other advice as well. Good luck to you and enjoy!