anal advice

[Guest]

I decided that I'm going to fuck my g/f in the ass tomorrow. If she's up for it, great, but what do I do if she doesn't want to? I've never asked her about it, so I don't know how she'll react. Should I loosen her up like I would if she wanted to, or do it dry? For the guys that have done both, which is more enjoyable?

 

[MissTaken]

Ummmm, You should ask her first! It isn't something that goes over well if it is a surprise.

I am hoping you are asking what will be more enjoyable for her. For you, it will be either way.

Yes, you need to make sure she is in a high state of arousal and very relaxed.

Playing there with your finger (s) or mouth can be helpful. Get her used to he idea. Then, very slowly enter....when she is ready. Your thrusts should be slow and gentle with her taking the lead. If she begins to feel pain, she needs to press down with the same pressure she would use if she were going to the bathroom.

Regardless of what the porn movies show, anal is something that needs to be approached with care and concern for your partner. Her health and well being are at stake if you rush into it and do not take proper precautions.

Most of all, if she choses not to do it, don't.

It is well worth your effort to make it enjoyable for her as I expect, you may want to do it again.

Do a search on lit. REcently there was a thread like this and Sexy Chele had a lot of great information and advice.

 

[lilfrk]

I decided that I'm going to fuck my g/f in the ass tomorrow. If she's up for it, great, but what do I do if she doesn't want to? I've never asked her about it, so I don't know how she'll react. Should I loosen her up like I would if she wanted to, or do it dry? For the guys that have done both, which is more enjoyable?

Lemme see...do you think you'd like it if your gf decided she was going to fuck your ass tomorrow and didn't ask you. She just bent you over and shoved a dry strap on up your ass? I'm guessing not. Use some common sense if you wouldn't like it done to you she isn't going to like it either. Talk to her first and then if she likes the idea go from there...SLOWLY like MissTaken said.

 

[SexyChele]

I decided that I'm going to fuck my g/f in the ass tomorrow. If she's up for it, great, but what do I do if she doesn't want to? I've never asked her about it, so I don't know how she'll react. Should I loosen her up like I would if she wanted to, or do it dry? For the guys that have done both, which is more enjoyable?

Now, c'mon - you're not for real here, are you?

What do you do if she doesn't want to? That's easy - run like hell before the cops arrive to arrest you for rape.

If you push yourself on a woman who says "no", constitutes rape, whether she's your girlfriend, wife, or a casual acquaintance.

Of course, she could always use the "Lorena Bobbit" school of revenge, couldn't she? I'd recommend not pissing a woman off when it comes to anal penetration. But I think you might be a tad young to understand that.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

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[Romanticstone]

Communication, Communication, Communication.....

Find out her position on such things before 'ramming it to her'.
If you are uncomfortable just bringing it up 'out of the blue' or just cant find a good segue into the topic, try 'feeling her out' while playing (but don't make plans on going all the way immediately). Try exploring the new territory as part of your sex-play, stroking, or licking the area...possibly light pressure to her anus while massaging her while going down on her. If she seems receptive to this, you might go as far as slowly and shallowly (not past the second knuckle) inserting ONE finger, but be sure it's well lubed (vaginal secretions or a little saliva should suffice if you take it slow).
-Whether she is receptive to, or seems totally repulsed by your advances, you now have smooth ramp toward openly discussing the subject.

 

[Guest]

My first anal sex experience...

My husband got anal sex on our wedding day. It was a first for both of us and his greatest fantasy.

He had KY Jelly ready, which was greatly appreciated. He started out by gently stroking my ass cheeks and kissing them lightly. As I got hotter, he spread my cheeks and licked my ass hole. I couldn't believe how exciting that sensation was! When I was ready, he slid me to the edge of the bed so he was kneeling on the floor and my ass was hanging off the side of the bed. He slicked up his cock with Ky jelly and very gently slide his cock into my ass. When I told to wait or to slow down, he did.

After all these years, I still love anal sex, thanks to his slow consideration for this new bedroom sport. I'm happy to say that I could even reach delicious orgasms with his cock planted firmly in my ass. If you think of your g/f's comfort first, she'll likely be happy to accomodate you in the years to cum.

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: anal advice

Lemme see...do you think you'd like it if your gf decided she was going to fuck your ass tomorrow and didn't ask you. She just bent you over and shoved a dry strap on up your ass? I'm guessing not. Use some common sense if you wouldn't like it done to you she isn't going to like it either. Talk to her first and then if she likes the idea go from there...SLOWLY like MissTaken said.

C'mon.. that's a pile of horse shit! When it comes to sex, the theory of treat others the way you want to be treated does NOT apply, sorry.. unless you're gay, which I'm not. I mean, I get blowjobs from my girlfriends, that doesn't mean I want to give one. I don't expect my girlfriends to eat pussy just because I eat hers.

Sorry, that just doesn't apply. Nice try though

 

[dreamer]

wow

I am amazed at this. YES, contrary to your <cough Troll cough> belief. It applies with sex EVEN more than anywhere else.

I feel sorry for people that haven't grown up enough to have experienced sex with someone they actualy care about and who cares about them. Hell, even in the most severe BDSM relationships trust, communication, and compassion matter. (Not that I'm an expert there..maybe we should as Cym)

Anyhow, Luvinit has the right idea...think about it.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

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[lilfrk]

Re: Re: Re: anal advice

C'mon.. that's a pile of horse shit! When it comes to sex, the theory of treat others the way you want to be treated does NOT apply, sorry.. unless you're gay, which I'm not. I mean, I get blowjobs from my girlfriends, that doesn't mean I want to give one. I don't expect my girlfriends to eat pussy just because I eat hers.

Sorry, that just doesn't apply. Nice try though

Well if you don't believe it's a valid point then you are not old enough or mature enough to be having sex. Which also means you're not old enough or mature enough to be visiting this site.

 

[nj-voyeur]

how i did it

I cant believe you even asked this question. Would you try to have sex with a girl with out asking her first. Even if you were on a date, you still would have to have some kind of talking about it. the same goes for anal with your girlfriend.



Well here is how i got my wife into it. We do it about once every 10 times we have sex. And i'd say 75% of the time she cums from it. It still surprises her that she likes it so much.

The first thing i did was show her a story from a porn magazine on anal sex. The story was about a girl trying it for the first time and how much she liked it. After reading it i asked what she thought of it. I meant the story in general but she said it sounds like fun. I asked what she meant and she said in the ass. So try to talk about it first. Then maybe find a story her to get her turned on to the idea.

Then you have to do your anal foreplay. LICK HER ASSHOLE! DO IT!. she will love you for it. Then finger it while she is riding you. Now, thats one my wife ASKS for everytime we have sex.

To be honest its going to take you several weeks and several times having sex before you get to do anal. And its going to take several times doing anal before you bang her in the ass. I mean before you get a real good, porn movie fuck in there. it takes patience son.