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this is well worth a watch, especially if someone you know has dementia. it turned up on my facebook feed and it has to be the best demonstration I've seen.
the daughter-in-law' comments to her husband at the start made me want to scream though.
 
Thanks for sharing. I have a woman that works w/ me and she's been scaring me lately with some of the things she has done and said.
 
Until you've had to deal with someone close that has dementia and/or alzheimers, there's really no way to understand what it's like or how difficult it is. You make the best of it and enjoy the time you have with them, and enjoy the memories too... my thoughts and prayers go out to anyone else that has to understand what it's all about.

Thanks for the link.
 
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my three tips for dealing with people who have dementia.

#1, smile. when people are smiling we usually assume everything is ok. it's reassuring. and if you're concentrating on smiling, your face isn't giving away the anger, fear or frustration that you're feeling.
#2, don't tear down their world. if they think it's 1972 don't argue, confuse and upset them. their long dead husband can be at work today if they need that reality.
#3, sing. their favourite songs, childhood nursery rhymes, something from their era. music memories often hang on even after they forget their own children. there's something magical about music, and these moments of recognition and joy can change the mood of an encounter in an instant.
 
That was hard to watch. I spent 8 months as a caretaker for someone with Dementia and this brought back a lot of bad memories. I wish I'd watched this then; I would've had more understanding and more patience with Dixie. The guy's new wife should've gone through that, btw. She definitely needed some understanding.
 
It's a cruel and awful disease. I had two grandparents who suffered with that and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy.
 
I won't watch because I had three years and more close up with it. It's a cruel wicked disease because you lose them twice. I never corrected my dad, when I went to see him and if he asked if I had come straight from school I'd just say yes. If he asked about a long dead relative I'd say they will be along in a bit, no point in hurting him over and over.

I was very lucky in that he always knew who I was, it would have broke my heart if he didn't recognise me any more. Towards the last 10 months or so he became increasingly violent and a few times lashed out at me which was hard but I knew he'd be mortified if he knew what he was doing. I'm also lucky because the nursing home which specialised in dementia was fantastic. Every member of staff was fantastic and they were all devastated when he went. I wish everyone who had this fucking thing could be so lucky, the poor care and abuse of dementia patients I just can't watch though, but I do think they should be boiled in oil.
 
Horgina Fortesque-Ramsbottom said:
I won't watch because I had three years and more close up with it. It's a cruel wicked disease because you lose them twice. I never corrected my dad, when I went to see him and if he asked if I had come straight from school I'd just say yes. If he asked about a long dead relative I'd say they will be along in a bit, no point in hurting him over and over.

I was very lucky in that he always knew who I was, it would have broke my heart if he didn't recognise me any more. Towards the last 10 months or so he became increasingly violent and a few times lashed out at me which was hard but I knew he'd be mortified if he knew what he was doing. I'm also lucky because the nursing home which specialised in dementia was fantastic. Every member of staff was fantastic and they were all devastated when he went. I wish everyone who had this fucking thing could be so lucky, the poor care and abuse of dementia patients I just can't watch though, but I do think they should be boiled in oil.
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Garnate said:
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You know one of the funniest and sweetest things after he passed, one of the carers there said to me "we're all gonna miss him calling us cunts!" One of them wore these horrific rose patterned leggings all the time, my Dad adored her but told her she looked a right cunt. She wore them to his funeral and stage whispered an impersonation of him to me in church. Ha!
 
Horgina Fortesque-Ramsbottom said:
You know one of the funniest and sweetest things after he passed, one of the carers there said to me "we're all gonna miss him calling us cunts!" One of them wore these horrific rose patterned leggings all the time, my Dad adored her but told her she looked a right cunt. She wore them to his funeral and stage whispered an impersonation of him to me in church. Ha!
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The apple doesn't fall far from the tree, I see :D I think that was awesome of her.
 
cowslinger64 said:
Until you've had to deal with someone close that has dementia and/or alzheimers, there's really no way to understand what it's like or how difficult it is. You make the best of it and enjoy the time you have with them, and enjoy the memories too... my thoughts and prayers go out to anyone else that has to understand what it's all about.

Thanks for the link.
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I've mentioned this before, but my very best friend's mother has Alzheimers. I've known her for 50 years (!!!) this coming May. The truly scary thing is that she always....ALWAYS....recognizes me, but doesn't always recognize her own children.
 
At one point we thought my mother had developed, rather suddenly, dementia. We finally called her GP to come and look at her, the same day the district nurse was due to change her pain killer patch (Tramadol 1 per week)

When I went for the box that should contain 4 patches I found it empty, when the nurse turned her over to examine her back, the reason for the pain killers, we found that Mum had put 4 patches, a months supply, onto her self in about 5 days. Turns out she was stoned.

I only found out after she died how deaf she was, which she tried to hide, so she used to try to guess what we had said and reply to us, this led to some bizarre conversations.
 
[QUOTE i=RobDownSouth;65194247]I've mentioned this before, but my very best friend's mother has Alzheimers. I've known her for 50 years (!!!) this coming May. The truly scary thing is that she always....ALWAYS....recognizes me, but doesn't always recognize her own children.[/QUOTE]

Well this is my mom we're dealing with. I've always had a special bond with her and she's always been my favorite person. When I learned that she had it I was devastated and very angry. It took a long time to get past that.

We laugh with her and make light of her confusion which helps immensely. Trying to convince her otherwise when she thinks the things she does, never helps. Her reality, no matter how illogical it may seem is just as real to her. Sometimes that is really hard to deal with, so you have got to be patient and not lose your cool cause that only exacerbates things.

I do have a whole newfound respect for my dad, he has stepped up to the plate and taken care of her.. I came back home to help and together we'll make it work.

I will add... She takes a couple xanax a day which helps her moods immensely and helps with the roller-coaster ride.. It especially helps in the evenings when the "sundowners" wants to take over. I recommend talking to your doc about giving them... It's made a big difference for us.
 
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cowslinger64 said:
I do have a whole newfound respect for my dad, he has stepped up to the plate and taken care of her.. I came back home to help and together we'll make it work.
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don't let pride or guilt stop you getting extra help if/when you need it. some families will put themselves through hell because they feel like it would be disloyal to ask for help, but sometimes it really is for the best.
 
dolf said:
don't let pride or guilt stop you getting extra help if/when you need it. some families will put themselves through hell because they feel like it would be disloyal to ask for help, but sometimes it really is for the best.
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Thanks... No, no pride or guilt here. She's still quite manageable.. At least for now. She can't be left totally alone, and needs her basic needs taken care of like cooking and laundry. But she bathes herself, feeds herself whatever is made and likes to do dishes. She does rather well, but she can't be taught anything anymore. She smiles and laughs a lot and I'll take that over a lot of things any day. And every day I walk in the house to see her she smiles and reminds me how much she loves me. So to me, those little things help make up for some of the other things we have no control over.
 
Horgina Fortesque-Ramsbottom said:
You know one of the funniest and sweetest things after he passed, one of the carers there said to me "we're all gonna miss him calling us cunts!" One of them wore these horrific rose patterned leggings all the time, my Dad adored her but told her she looked a right cunt. She wore them to his funeral and stage whispered an impersonation of him to me in church. Ha!
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This is amazing. :D
 
I didn't even bother clicking the link. I'm dealing with this right now with my dad. :(
 
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