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Many Thanks
Thanks for the vote of confidence *grins*
I agree that it's true sometimes.
Unfortuneately guys are like kids in a toy store in a at least two ways:
1) We have the tension span of a child. As soon as we see a new toy, we forget about the old one.
2) Adhering to the life philosophy "He with the most toys at the end, wins" We try to hold on to as many toys as possible to attain true happiness and inner peace.
Armchair philosophy at best, but still true in some cases. Now I have enjoyed rather mindblowing blowjobs before, where the last thing on my mind was the A-Team marathon on TVLand; it's just that, unforutneately most things in life are mundane.. or in the middle, and they're peppered with moments of really good and really bad.
I'm not sure if I'd live long if every time that I had a sexual encounter of some sort it were mindblowingly perfect. I'd probably stop going to work and never leave the bed for lack of energy
Thanks for the vote of confidence *grins*
I agree that it's true sometimes.
Unfortuneately guys are like kids in a toy store in a at least two ways:
1) We have the tension span of a child. As soon as we see a new toy, we forget about the old one.
2) Adhering to the life philosophy "He with the most toys at the end, wins" We try to hold on to as many toys as possible to attain true happiness and inner peace.
Armchair philosophy at best, but still true in some cases. Now I have enjoyed rather mindblowing blowjobs before, where the last thing on my mind was the A-Team marathon on TVLand; it's just that, unforutneately most things in life are mundane.. or in the middle, and they're peppered with moments of really good and really bad.
I'm not sure if I'd live long if every time that I had a sexual encounter of some sort it were mindblowingly perfect. I'd probably stop going to work and never leave the bed for lack of energy
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see, now I'm bummed.
I was talking to Zeta about this last night. I read your first post ala wanting a beer not a blow...and became very discouraged. Since I saw Behind the Green Door when I was 12, I've been enamored with the idea of giving head. I love it...where some girls just put up with it...I LOVE IT. Up until recently, I considered it my favorite kind of sex (we won't go into what replaced it, butt I can tell you it's fun). Anyway...I love it but I've always had this dilemna. I've always wondered if I was any good at it. And you know, you can't discuss it with your girlfriends because how the fuck would they know and you never know if Guys are being honest. If you are terrible, they probably aren't going to tell you...either way they'll tell you you're good...so it's no use. Honestly, I think what I lack in technique I make up for in earnest desire, and I think most times I'm quite good, tho I have my not so hot moments. Still, in the back of my mind there has always been this fear that guys are really thinking about some car, or game, or whatever instead of really being into it. Now I see it's more than just a fear. I'm seriously considering never giving head again...I don't think I'll ever find it attractive again, because the only thing really appealing to me about it was the idea that guys really got into it...now TWO people tell me this isn't really the case, one of whom I consider a friend, and I'm not sure I'll ever feel the same about it...
I was talking to Zeta about this last night. I read your first post ala wanting a beer not a blow...and became very discouraged. Since I saw Behind the Green Door when I was 12, I've been enamored with the idea of giving head. I love it...where some girls just put up with it...I LOVE IT. Up until recently, I considered it my favorite kind of sex (we won't go into what replaced it, butt I can tell you it's fun). Anyway...I love it but I've always had this dilemna. I've always wondered if I was any good at it. And you know, you can't discuss it with your girlfriends because how the fuck would they know and you never know if Guys are being honest. If you are terrible, they probably aren't going to tell you...either way they'll tell you you're good...so it's no use. Honestly, I think what I lack in technique I make up for in earnest desire, and I think most times I'm quite good, tho I have my not so hot moments. Still, in the back of my mind there has always been this fear that guys are really thinking about some car, or game, or whatever instead of really being into it. Now I see it's more than just a fear. I'm seriously considering never giving head again...I don't think I'll ever find it attractive again, because the only thing really appealing to me about it was the idea that guys really got into it...now TWO people tell me this isn't really the case, one of whom I consider a friend, and I'm not sure I'll ever feel the same about it...
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A grain of salt
My apologies, shanier.
You have to take everything I post with a grain of salt. A big one at that. Like this big *holds fingers about an inch apart*
I think I might be able to cheer you up though. I can let you in on the single weakness of guys. *winks*
While untrue to Holloywood and pop psychology, men do NOT think about sex every 8 seconds. What a load of crap. I couldn't even crap if I thought about ANYTHING every 8 seconds. It's an abuse of statistics.
However *grins* Men CAN be made to think about sec at a moment's notice. I mean ANYwhere. McDonald's, Canoeing in whitewater, a funeral... anywhere, anytime, a man can be distracted into focussing purely on sex. We're like those Cobras in the sukhs of the middle east. A guy plays a little tune on a flute and all of a sudden they're hypnotized.
If you can capture a man's imagination, and make him think 'Sex' then not only will he enjoy the blowjob, but he will most likely brag about it the next day to his friends.
And how do you capture a man's attention? Nothing easier. Just do something unexpected. We're like deer in the headlights when it comes to women doing unexpected things.
Some suggestions:
1) Just reach into his pants and grab ahold of his cock hard.
2) Talk dirty to him in public.
3) If he's watching TV, just sit next to him and start
masturbating. Nothing breaks the mood of Monday Night
Football like a horny woman sitting next to you about to come.
4) Try new things. While all he really wants may be the
"bread and butter" of regular sex, trying new things
will assuage his ego. Men like to feel that they're
competent in all areas. Test him
5) Dare him. Men have a biological imperative to accept
any and all dares. Dare him to wear your underwear
to work. Dare him to take your favorite toy up his ass.
Dare him to make love to you in the front yard at 2:00 AM.
I hope these help, not that you're by any means an amateur in the ways of women and men. I just feel obligated to help cheer ya up, since I was responsible for putting you in a bummy mood.
And if it helps any, I'm sure you give outstanding head *winks*
My apologies, shanier.
You have to take everything I post with a grain of salt. A big one at that. Like this big *holds fingers about an inch apart*
I think I might be able to cheer you up though. I can let you in on the single weakness of guys. *winks*
While untrue to Holloywood and pop psychology, men do NOT think about sex every 8 seconds. What a load of crap. I couldn't even crap if I thought about ANYTHING every 8 seconds. It's an abuse of statistics.
However *grins* Men CAN be made to think about sec at a moment's notice. I mean ANYwhere. McDonald's, Canoeing in whitewater, a funeral... anywhere, anytime, a man can be distracted into focussing purely on sex. We're like those Cobras in the sukhs of the middle east. A guy plays a little tune on a flute and all of a sudden they're hypnotized.
If you can capture a man's imagination, and make him think 'Sex' then not only will he enjoy the blowjob, but he will most likely brag about it the next day to his friends.
And how do you capture a man's attention? Nothing easier. Just do something unexpected. We're like deer in the headlights when it comes to women doing unexpected things.
Some suggestions:
1) Just reach into his pants and grab ahold of his cock hard.
2) Talk dirty to him in public.
3) If he's watching TV, just sit next to him and start
masturbating. Nothing breaks the mood of Monday Night
Football like a horny woman sitting next to you about to come.
4) Try new things. While all he really wants may be the
"bread and butter" of regular sex, trying new things
will assuage his ego. Men like to feel that they're
competent in all areas. Test him
5) Dare him. Men have a biological imperative to accept
any and all dares. Dare him to wear your underwear
to work. Dare him to take your favorite toy up his ass.
Dare him to make love to you in the front yard at 2:00 AM.
I hope these help, not that you're by any means an amateur in the ways of women and men. I just feel obligated to help cheer ya up, since I was responsible for putting you in a bummy mood.
And if it helps any, I'm sure you give outstanding head *winks*
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Re: A grain of salt
Well, firstly I want to thank you for taking the time to address my concerns...that means a lot and the fact that you're a pretty darn good writer only makes that better.
I also want to say that I HONESTLY appreciate your tips...lol and in fact, have often used them myself...ask my boyfriend what was on the news last night...he won't know. Know what he does know? I had a great orgam masturbating for him.
My problem hasn't ever been getting men interested in sex (though I am SOMETIMES too shy to initiate, but that's rare). My problem is the actual act of giving head...which as I mentioned I actually like. If I'm sitting there going to town, and he's thinking about sports, or beer, or whatever, I'd be crushed. It's not that I need to be 'good.' I have no problem accepting that I could totally suck (and not in the good way). What I do want is the opportunity to get better, so an honest partner is crucial. If he's thinking anything, then I don't think I'm doing it right. I'd prefer he was feeling and reacting...
does that make sense?
Midnighter said:
Well, firstly I want to thank you for taking the time to address my concerns...that means a lot and the fact that you're a pretty darn good writer only makes that better.
I also want to say that I HONESTLY appreciate your tips...lol and in fact, have often used them myself...ask my boyfriend what was on the news last night...he won't know. Know what he does know? I had a great orgam masturbating for him.
My problem hasn't ever been getting men interested in sex (though I am SOMETIMES too shy to initiate, but that's rare). My problem is the actual act of giving head...which as I mentioned I actually like. If I'm sitting there going to town, and he's thinking about sports, or beer, or whatever, I'd be crushed. It's not that I need to be 'good.' I have no problem accepting that I could totally suck (and not in the good way). What I do want is the opportunity to get better, so an honest partner is crucial. If he's thinking anything, then I don't think I'm doing it right. I'd prefer he was feeling and reacting...
does that make sense?
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Re: Re: A grain of salt
If it is hard, you have his attention, please consider he may use a distraction to prevent from having the fun over too quick.
shanier said:
If it is hard, you have his attention, please consider he may use a distraction to prevent from having the fun over too quick.
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Perfect Sense
Of course it makes sense *grins*
It's the same for men. It's often joked about that when a man asks, "How was I? Was it good for? etc." after sex, that he's being insecure. Let's think about this.
It's also widely known that in those tingly numb moments after a male orgasm, when all the testosterone in his body is still in shock, he's actually thinking CLEARLY. Women are constantly after men to "open up and share what you're feeling". And believe me, there is nothing more open than asking about how he was in bed.
I would think that two honest partners would want to evaluate each other in every way; especially sexually. Ask questions, give advice, make hints, get involved. Nothing... and I mean NOTHING good in this world ever comes from guess work. *grins*
I have had bad blowjobs before. the kind where you go, "whoa there... why don't we try something else, like <enter raunchy expletive here>". I've never said anything to any girl who's given me a poor blowjob, but if asked by one on how she did, I think I'd be most likely to answer honestly. I wouldn't be brutal or mean about it. Most likely I'd make it humorous, and I'd be sure to keep in close physical contact with her to reassure her that it's not HER that I don't like but her technique.
We should also face the fact that, "You can't please everyone." I think this safely encompasses that beauty, as well as pleasure, is in the eye, or in this case cock, of the beholder. Your techinique may dazzle 9 out of 10 men. And the other guy may just have something else in mind when he's looking for what he wants in a blowjob. Less tongue, more teeth. Less teeth, more balls. Etc, etc. He may want to come in your mouth, he may want to come in your face. He may like it the same every time, he may want variation.
I think the only cure is: experimentation with copious amounts of honesty. Find out what works for you and your partner. It may change if you change partners, or you may have hit upon a magical technique that every man falls in love with *grins*
Thank you, by the way, for complimenting my writing. I've been toying with the idea of writing a stroy for Lit for quite some time, but I'm a tad on the perfectionsit side, and despite my gentlemanly demeanor, I have way too many fetishes to be healthy
*writes out his prescription for shanier* Blow three cocks and call me in the morning
Of course it makes sense *grins*
It's the same for men. It's often joked about that when a man asks, "How was I? Was it good for? etc." after sex, that he's being insecure. Let's think about this.
It's also widely known that in those tingly numb moments after a male orgasm, when all the testosterone in his body is still in shock, he's actually thinking CLEARLY. Women are constantly after men to "open up and share what you're feeling". And believe me, there is nothing more open than asking about how he was in bed.
I would think that two honest partners would want to evaluate each other in every way; especially sexually. Ask questions, give advice, make hints, get involved. Nothing... and I mean NOTHING good in this world ever comes from guess work. *grins*
I have had bad blowjobs before. the kind where you go, "whoa there... why don't we try something else, like <enter raunchy expletive here>". I've never said anything to any girl who's given me a poor blowjob, but if asked by one on how she did, I think I'd be most likely to answer honestly. I wouldn't be brutal or mean about it. Most likely I'd make it humorous, and I'd be sure to keep in close physical contact with her to reassure her that it's not HER that I don't like but her technique.
We should also face the fact that, "You can't please everyone." I think this safely encompasses that beauty, as well as pleasure, is in the eye, or in this case cock, of the beholder. Your techinique may dazzle 9 out of 10 men. And the other guy may just have something else in mind when he's looking for what he wants in a blowjob. Less tongue, more teeth. Less teeth, more balls. Etc, etc. He may want to come in your mouth, he may want to come in your face. He may like it the same every time, he may want variation.
I think the only cure is: experimentation with copious amounts of honesty. Find out what works for you and your partner. It may change if you change partners, or you may have hit upon a magical technique that every man falls in love with *grins*
Thank you, by the way, for complimenting my writing. I've been toying with the idea of writing a stroy for Lit for quite some time, but I'm a tad on the perfectionsit side, and despite my gentlemanly demeanor, I have way too many fetishes to be healthy
*writes out his prescription for shanier* Blow three cocks and call me in the morning
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Midnighter,
Again, thank you for your time. I appreciate it most earnestly.
I understand and appreciate what you have to say, and I'll have to let some of it sit, before I get my mind around it. Thanks for giving me something to ponder.
One point I would like to make is that I'm not insecure about my ability. I have faith that I'm either okay at it, or at least open enough to be honest with my partner and become okay at it...
I think my problem is probably mental, anyway...I mean I never believe when anyone tells me sometime complimentary...and I have a supremely tough time believing what men say about oral sex...and your earlier post just put it into my mind that maybe guys really aren't honest, and it's not just in my head...and I'm not worried that I'm not good at it...I have fun with it and that's what counts...what I do worry about is being duped, doing something and thinking it's ok, when it really isn't.
If you don't want it or don't like what I'm doing, for christ's sake tell me...I'd rather have the opportunity to be better at it, than to be a clueless moron with your shaft down my throat while you think about your MGD.
but that's just me, I think.
Again, thank you for your time. I appreciate it most earnestly.
I understand and appreciate what you have to say, and I'll have to let some of it sit, before I get my mind around it. Thanks for giving me something to ponder.
One point I would like to make is that I'm not insecure about my ability. I have faith that I'm either okay at it, or at least open enough to be honest with my partner and become okay at it...
I think my problem is probably mental, anyway...I mean I never believe when anyone tells me sometime complimentary...and I have a supremely tough time believing what men say about oral sex...and your earlier post just put it into my mind that maybe guys really aren't honest, and it's not just in my head...and I'm not worried that I'm not good at it...I have fun with it and that's what counts...what I do worry about is being duped, doing something and thinking it's ok, when it really isn't.
If you don't want it or don't like what I'm doing, for christ's sake tell me...I'd rather have the opportunity to be better at it, than to be a clueless moron with your shaft down my throat while you think about your MGD.
but that's just me, I think.
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I just meant for you to show me what you'd be doing if you weren't online...dhere25 said:I didn't eat my brakfast this morning so I might be a bit slow LOL. Can you explain the dare better or am I over thinking it
but I believe you've been capped by a lovely young woman.
BTW, you are dead WRONG, reading is exceptionally sexxxy!!!
