An egg toss...

[Shankara20]

When I was a young man many years ago I worked for a grocery store company. My job was to design and open restaurants for them. I was rather new to the company, and having not come up through the ranks starting as a bag-boy, I was an “outsider” - as it were. I was not part of the “in-crowd” and unsure of myself.

One morning while standing it the kitchen of our about-to-open restaurant, in my business suite all nice and proper, the Executive V-P, my boss’s boss’s boss picked up a raw egg and lobbed it to me. I nearly broke my neck going to save that egg from death on the floor. After allowing me time to regaining my composure, the Exec V-P told me “just because I tossed you an egg, doesn’t mean you have to catch it”.

This story has returned to my mind again and again these past several weeks as I have seen thread after thread fall apart with “you said” then “I said” then “I did not say” then blah blah blah – a lovely civil conversation goes all to hell.

I have a suggestion.

If someone posts something that might take the conversation down that ugly blah blah blah path, don’t catch that egg – don’t post a reply. (I get lot’s of “no reply”, but I think that is just because some people are jealous of my panties – hell all they gota do is ask, I’ll let just about anyone in ‘em – but I digress)

If a reply would make you feel better, how ‘bout – “incoming egg” or “no thanks I watching my cholesterol” or “hey! it hit the floor”

Anyone have other reply suggestions to an unwanted egg toss?




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[tealsphynx]

Thats an awsome thought there Shankara. I could've spared myself plenty of issues in life if I had just decided to let the egg hit the floor. I'm a little blah at the moment so I don't really have any ideas on how to do it, but it's a great idea over all.

 

[Shankara20]

Thats an awsome thought there Shankara. I could've spared myself plenty of issues in life if I had just decided to let the egg hit the floor. I'm a little blah at the moment so I don't really have any ideas on how to do it, but it's a great idea over all.

and you have had one mess to up off the floor already today....


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[tealsphynx]

uhm...thanks, I think. I'm out of sorts, I think the laundry fumes are getting to me.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Sir Shank it may not appear largely evident but I have self censored and modified ever since I arrived at the Boards for a wide variety of reasons. On some days here I will write and erase 2 posts to each 1 I submit. I also work quite hard at shelving/dispersing the emotions associated as not to discriminate against people because I have previously taken 'issue' with their opinions. I also give my self short 'Lit breaks' when aspects of frustrations outside of here or caused by partipating here may affect how I contribute and more importantly stress levels bleeding into offline contentment.

Having said all that there are in fact on occasion, 'personalities' who provoke others one way or another and do not commit here for the wellbeing of the 'Community'. There is only so much ignore feature or humor that can compensate. Dammit Shank on occasion I want to catch the egg.......... See paragraph one however for what usually happens 99% of the time.

 

[tealsphynx]

Oh, Ok. Wow, it's been a long day. I'm putting whatever's in the washer in the drier and quitting for the day. Damned Downy.

 

[Rebellious_Sub]

When I was a young man many years ago I worked for a grocery store company. My job was to design and open restaurants for them. I was rather new to the company, and having not come up through the ranks starting as a bag-boy, I was an “outsider” - as it were. I was not part of the “in-crowd” and unsure of myself.

One morning while standing it the kitchen of our about-to-open restaurant, in my business suite all nice and proper, the Executive V-P, my boss’s boss’s boss picked up a raw egg and lobbed it to me. I nearly broke my neck going to save that egg from death on the floor. After allowing me time to regaining my composure, the Exec V-P told me “just because I tossed you an egg, doesn’t mean you have to catch it”.

This story has returned to my mind again and again these past several weeks as I have seen thread after thread fall apart with “you said” then “I said” then “I did not say” then blah blah blah – a lovely civil conversation goes all to hell.

I have a suggestion.

If someone posts something that might take the conversation down that ugly blah blah blah path, don’t catch that egg – don’t post a reply. (I get lot’s of “no reply”, but I think that is just because some people are jealous of my panties – hell all they gota do is ask, I’ll let just about anyone in ‘em – but I digress)

If a reply would make you feel better, how ‘bout – “incoming egg” or “no thanks I watching my cholesterol” or “hey! it hit the floor”

Anyone have other reply suggestions to an unwanted egg toss?




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Now Shank, where are you with this advice right before my mouth flies open?! But thank you for the reminder... and the suggestion...

No new ideas for the list here, just simply going to take the advice.

 

[SpectreT]

As a recent particiapant in an eggfight...

Nope. You always gotta catch the egg. Or make the person that threw it clean it up personally. To do anything else is to encourage egging on a global scale.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I'm with rebecca and Spectre T on this one. Perfection is a lovely thing to attain to, but unfortunately, if we are honest, and we are individuals with individual experiences, there are always going to be differences of opinion on some level and everyone has a right to defend or question what is posted. My opinion is it is what discussion is all about otherwise we get a lot of back patting, silence, or fake agreements, none of which help discussion flow on a discussion forum, or encourage growth and honesty.

Catalina

 

[Shankara20]

uhm...thanks, I think. I'm out of sorts, I think the laundry fumes are getting to me.

I was doing a little thread jumping there, I had just read your Downy post and in my own sick little mind connected it to the egg toss. Sorry for the confusion.

 

[Shankara20]

Dammit Shank on occasion I want to catch the egg..........

I do enjoy my own amount of egg catching and egg tossing myself...

 

[Shankara20]

Now Shank, where are you with this advice right before my mouth flies open?! But thank you for the reminder... and the suggestion...

No new ideas for the list here, just simply going to take the advice.

I'll be there in the back of your head to nag nag nag...

 

[Shankara20]

Nope. You always gotta catch the egg. Or make the person that threw it clean it up personally. To do anything else is to encourage egging on a global scale.

Point taken.

Once in a while an egg lobber might slow down the toss if no one hands then the next egg to toss. Just a thought

 

[Lilith]

Why is it I see this thread and all I can do is picture a subbie with spreader bar between his ankles, hands cuffed behind his back, with a spoon clenched in his teeth carrying a raw egg balanced on the end of the spoon while I keep changing the "finish" line?

I know egg toss not egg race.

 

[Shankara20]

I'm with rebecca and Spectre T on this one. Perfection is a lovely thing to attain to, but unfortunately, if we are honest, and we are individuals with individual experiences, there are always going to be differences of opinion on some level and everyone has a right to defend or question what is posted. My opinion is it is what discussion is all about otherwise we get a lot of back patting, silence, or fake agreements, none of which help discussion flow on a discussion forum, or encourage growth and honesty.

Catalina

I love a good hearted respectful take-no-prisoner discussion. It just sometimes reaches a point where someone states something that is more "personal attack" then "aggressive point making". Not catching that egg could be an option.

 

[Shankara20]

Why is it I see this thread and all I can do is picture a subbie with spreader bar between his ankles, hands cuffed behind his back, with a spoon clenched in his teeth carrying a raw egg balanced on the end of the spoon while I keep changing the "finish" line?

I know egg toss not egg race.

hmmm, my stainless steel ass egg just came to mind....

 

[Lilith]

Funny, now it's come to my mind too

 

[Shankara20]

Funny, now it's come to my mind too

subbie would have an egg at both ends

 

[jadefirefly]

I'm gonna go find myself a picture of an egg and start using it.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I love a good hearted respectful take-no-prisoner discussion. It just sometimes reaches a point where someone states something that is more "personal attack" then "aggressive point making". Not catching that egg could be an option.

True, but we all have our imperfect moments for a variety of reasons, often not known to others looking on but possibly well founded...and it is worth noting that communication through a PC screen with anonymous posters is not the most conducive to always getting the message or intent correct. Often in those situations, not catching the egg would actually miss an opportunity to have something clarified and cleared up (perhaps for others aswell), not to mention get to know each other better and give others the opportunity to not be seen in a mistaken light they did not intend.

Catalina

 

[saw_man1]

I have occasionally seen what you describe. I have even participated in it. But I haven't seen enough of it to cause me to lose any sleep. I blow it off and move on but I can see how someone who is overly sensitive might have a harder time dealing with it. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons so many people have come and gone here.

I applaud your efforts Shank but I think you’re tilting at windmills.

 

[Shankara20]

I'm gonna go find myself a picture of an egg and start using it.

something like this?

http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g38/nbright1969/clip2/06-egg.jpg​

 

[Shankara20]

True, but we all have our imperfect moments for a variety of reasons, often not known to others looking on but possibly well founded...and it is worth noting that communication through a PC screen with anonymous posters is not the most conducive to always getting the message or intent correct. Often in those situations, not catching the egg would actually miss an opportunity to have something clarified and cleared up (perhaps for others aswell), not to mention get to know each other better and give others the opportunity to not be seen in a mistaken light they did not intend.

Catalina

once again, point taken

I think, in review, I was attempting to suggest something for those few moments here when someone posts something that gets anger started. I see people do egg-not-catching a lot with mini-hijacks, they just let them be.

 

[SpectreT]

This whole thread reminds me of the closet exchange in th movie Wierd Science. It's been a few years since I've seen the film, but the party they threw got crazy when their attempt to make another Kelly LeBrock Computer Genie went haywire. They did what any reasonable geeks would do in that moment; they hid in the closet. I don't remember for sure which order they spoke in, so if I'm wrong, bear with me:

Wyatt: Gary, do you feel like a chicken right now?

Gary: Wyatt, if I could shoot an egg out my ass right now, I would...

 

[Shankara20]

I have occasionally seen what you describe. I have even participated in it. But I haven't seen enough of it to cause me to lose any sleep. I blow it off and move on but I can see how someone who is overly sensitive might have a harder time dealing with it. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons so many people have come and gone here.

I applaud your efforts Shank but I think you’re tilting at windmills.

I tend to start my windmill tilting when I have time on my hands and I'm not tired. Truth be told, I like that little story and took advantage of some open personal time last night to use it.

I do not see much out right acrimony here in BDSM Talk or the Cafe, aside from a few trolls - and they can be fun to take on. I like it here and the folks that hang out here.

Now, I have a few windmills to tilt this morning