An apology, to the man I love

[Cherry]

Last night, I posted a thread with a question that seemed to me at the time to be hypothetical ... but in retrospect, I made more personal by adding questions in the body of the thread.

I appreciate all of your answers. However, I cringed at the thought that this wonderful man of mine would be totally embarressed and hurt to see me address them publically (instead of directly to him) ... as he has always been completely honest with me.

I'm starting this thread, rather than saying it there ...hoping that the other one will sink into the back pages soon.

In fairness to my man, his life's experiences have made him the man he is today. The man he is today is a loving, loyal, nurturing, totally unselfish, good hearted individual, who I absolutely adore. I don't doubt him ... I do trust him unconditionally.

It was foolish of me to start a thread that I already knew the answer to.

Babe, if you read any of these ... I am sorry.

 

[Shades of grey]

Cherry,

Your honesty in you apology was very nice. I did'nt read the other post you spoke of out of respect for your hope to see it fade away, and i also hope that if anyone else replies to this one they will refrain from reading it as well.


Just curious, do you have a sister?

 

[Cherry]

~ smiles ~

Just curious, do you have a sister?

Yes ... she has three kids! ... very taken.

Sweet of you, just the same.




My apology was very necessary.
When I saw the answers, I realized that I had given a bad impression of him ... one that he didn't deserve. I felt terrible!

 

[Dhalgren]

On asking for opinions on such topics, you will most likely receive
knee~jerk reactions from some people..

Do I think people are incapable of change?
How silly to ever assume a human can’t or won’t grow.
With each experience…we grow and learn.

Is cheating absolutely horrible?

Actually I don’t believe a human should be judged on what they do as a growing process. This involves evolving as a person put on this Planet to use their own free will.

And yes, people get harmed when they are deceived…and with that hopefully we learn from the mistakes involving that.

Did he learn and grow from these past experiences?
To love better, be a more honest partner…open and more communicative about his needs?

Well, Cherry..your instincts and intuition can tell you the answers far better than anyone else’s opinions..
-including my own-

(…but)
I think your apology says a lot..
~smiles~

 

[TigerClaw]

Last night, I posted a thread with a question that seemed to me at the time to be hypothetical ... but in retrospect, I made more personal by adding questions in the body of the thread.

I appreciate all of your answers. However, I cringed at the thought that this wonderful man of mine would be totally embarressed and hurt to see me address them publically (instead of directly to him) ... as he has always been completely honest with me.

I'm starting this thread, rather than saying it there ...hoping that the other one will sink into the back pages soon.

In fairness to my man, his life's experiences have made him the man he is today. The man he is today is a loving, loyal, nurturing, totally unselfish, good hearted individual, who I absolutely adore. I don't doubt him ... I do trust him unconditionally.

It was foolish of me to start a thread that I already knew the answer to.

Babe, if you read any of these ... I am sorry.

If it is the thread I think it is...........
If the love you have for him is the strongest you have ever had............
If the love he has for you is the strongest he has ever had.........

Then you will fight for each other. You can inquire or comment on things regarding your partner on Lit. If any one judges you or him it really should be of no concern to either one of you. What matters is your feelings for each other and how you deal with it.

I am not a possesive person by nature. But with the shit LTR has had to go through at home and on the boards I am protective and possesive of her. I have posted displaying that possesiveness. Most are ok, some have I am sure insulted people.

This actually bothers me more then it does her. But we talk about this and everything else. She is the most special person I have ever met. I have no doubt that we will never turn from each other because of the communication that we have. Even if you or he states something on the boards that hurts the other talk about it. This public apology goes a long way in fixing things. But it is the communication that both of you have in private that really matters.

Good Luck I hope he understands.

 

[KillerMuffin]

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[Cherry]

Thank you, Muff

Could I be so bold, to ask everyone to let the other thread of mine die?

Sorry, I know it's a little obnoxious to ask, and that you have the right to post wherever you please ... but, I would really appreaciate it if you would consider my request.

Thanks

 

[Cherry]

Of course, if you want to help me bury it ... that would be great, too!

 

[Cherry]

damn

There it is again

 

[sudsy]

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