AmPic thread feedback

[Sensualdreamer]

Okay this is a multiple choice (public) poll.

After having had a PM session about those AmPic members who host a pic thread and then in their opening page make comments along the lines of - "I want honest opinions" or "Does my body look good/bad" or "I'm open to whatever comments you have". I want to know how many of you AmPic members actually DO want a variety of opinions, and then I want to know how many members who reply actually HAVE posted less than flattering comments (all b/c the poster had asked for them)

Ultimately I don't understand why when an AmPic member states they want "honest" feedback -be it positive or negative- why the hell do other Litsters feel the need to chastise someone who has left their opinion?!

As discussed w/ another litster I commented that TOO many people post on the AmPic threads and ask for open/honest opinions -stating they want the good OR bad and then if someone should post something unfavourable it's never the original posters fault for having asked - but suddenly the fault of the person who was honest (as asked for)...

naturally the reply was "That's quite simply because when people ask for 'honest feedback' they're being naive. nobody likes to hear negative comments..."

I really would like some feedback on this issue.

 

[constant70]

Okay this is a multiple choice (public) poll.

After having had a PM session about those AmPic members who host a pic thread and then in their opening page make comments along the lines of - "I want honest opinions" or "Does my body look good/bad" or "I'm open to whatever comments you have". I want to know how many of you AmPic members actually DO want a variety of opinions, and then I want to know how many members who reply actually HAVE posted less than flattering comments (all b/c the poster had asked for them)

Good question, I have never posted negative responses, but then I'm just too nice. Does the OP really want honest opinions? I doubt it, personally if I don't like what I see I move along, if I like I say so, simple really

 

[Lilac_Sky]

My mother raised me, "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all." And that is how i approach AmPic threads. If i like the pics, I say so. If i don't, I don't say anything.

 

[Mz_Cunningham]

My mother raised me, "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all." And that is how i approach AmPic threads. If i like the pics, I say so. If i don't, I don't say anything.

Do you always do everything your mother raised you to do?

But yes, I was raised the same, and personally even if asked for honest opinions on here I wouldn't say anything, because when people put "I want honest opinions" what they mean is that they aren't feeling particularly good about themselves and are hoping for good reactions, I don't blame them, who doesn't want someone telling them how gorgeous and attractive they are?

However if you put that, I think people should be aware that this is the internet and not everyone is their friend, so if you ask for honest opinions you will end up getting the naked honest opinion, I don't really disagree with that, they asked for it and they are giving it.

On the other hand, there are even a select few of those people who will go out of their way to make the pic poster feel bad and ugly, even if they didn't ask for all opinions and I hate that bit, that is just cruelty.

 

[Sensualdreamer]

Good question, I have never posted negative responses, but then I'm just too nice. Does the OP really want honest opinions? I doubt it, personally if I don't like what I see I move along, if I like I say so, simple really

If they don't want honest opinions, why the hell do they ask for them...that's my question Hopefully some of our AmPic posters will give some feedback - and thanks for yours

My mother raised me, "If you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all." And that is how i approach AmPic threads. If i like the pics, I say so. If i don't, I don't say anything.

I get that, but every now and then you'll find various pic threads that actually DO ask for the good & the bad...why is it such an issue if a person does exactly that? I mean say that the pics are a decent start but something about a pic makes it less than flattering. Do you then just focus on the good and laud and heap praise on the person -failing to be honest about what makes the pic a turn off? How does that help them?

Granted it's Amateur, not professional, but would you seriously say "hey great abs" and then fail to suggest that perhaps he may want to buy new underwear b/c what he's wearing looks like they're 20 years old?

 

[constant70]

If they don't want honest opinions, why the hell do they ask for them...that's my question Hopefully some of our AmPic posters will give some feedback - and thanks for yours

Well like a poster hinted above, it is more a case tell me the truth, but only the nice bits really. I suppose it validates the feeling of honesty in your intentions to ask for the truth even though you may not want to hear it

 

[r_baby]

I think it's more interesting when there is both positive and negative feedback, when I had a photo thread I liked getting all sorts of comments, as long as they weren't rude. I mean when all comments are the same/positive, then it can be a bit dull, whereas if there is 'constructive criticism' the poster has something to work on = more interesting.

Saying that though, if there are photos I don't really rate, I just won't say anything at all, I don't want to upset or offend anyone, and unless they ask me specifically, or I know them quite well, I'll generally keep and less than positive feedback to myself.

 

[Kahlo]

I can't speak for others, but negative/neutral feedback is ok with me as long as it is delivered well and not too intrusive. lol There are people that have given me constructive criticism that I have really valued and helped me with my photos. I guess I come at it from a different angle though, as I really like the photography aspect of it. Most of the constructive criticism is in terms of photography, not in relation to my body. On the other hand though, people can go too far with their constructive criticism. I don't want to hear exactly how I should set up a photo. I guess if I feel if someone is so specific about the photo they want to see, then they should just shoot their own photos. I take pride in my compositions, if I set my photos up how everyone wanted, they would no longer be mine.

In terms of comments I give, it depends on the person. Most of the time I just don't say anything if I do not like a photo. I understand that images are subjective and just because I don't like something, or would have done something different, does not mean that everyone else feels the same way or even that I am right. There are people I feel comfortable giving constructive criticism to, though, but again it is mostly in terms of photography, not their body.

 

[constant70]

Ah constructive criticism is altogether something different, and probably comes more after a good relationship has developed between poster and viewer, I suppose it all comes down to the individuals involved and what kind of rapport they have

 

[Kahlo]

Ah constructive criticism is altogether something different, and probably comes more after a good relationship has developed between poster and viewer, I suppose it all comes down to the individuals involved and what kind of rapport they have

That is true. I think that when most people ask for all feedback, good and bad.. they want the bad to be constructive. I doubt anyone is looking to be mocked and shredded by other posters because of their photos.. Well.. unless they're into that type of thing. lol..