Ambitious sexuality?

[dirtylover]

Just wondering how people tackle their own sexuality...

edit to add: I'm aware that the question doesn't make a huge amount of sense. Maybe more interesting to talk about how deviant we are...(minds and reality)


Hmmm,yes - how much dirtier is your mind than reality?

 

[damppanties]

None of the above.

I know exactly what I am. I just don't get much opportunity to do it.

 

[NoJo]

Sorry, my option is mssing too.

I'm unhappy with my sex life but unable to take it further.

 

[Guest]

I'm the last one. For sure. And, very happy with my sex life.

Lou

 

[damppanties]

Ok, now go clean the dog muck.

 

[Guest]

 

[dirtylover]

dampy: yeah, guess i'm a bit like that too...

Joe - (don't answer if too personal) but what's stopping you? For me, it's generally that I'm a bit kinkier than who I'm with, not that I'm that kinky...

 

[dirtylover]

Lou - lucky you! (actually my sex life tends to be pretty good too, just never quite as hardcore as in fantasy land)

Another question: are women usually the limiting factor in kinkiness btwn couples? And are lesbains more kinky than striaght women? Or are these gross generalisations?

 

[NoJo]

Okay, I was taking the piss. I just don't like admitting that I'm contented.

If you'd asked me that question about four years ago, I would have answered the last option for sure. I've had two "experimental" periods in my life - 19-23, 40-43. Enough for about twenty years of erotica each. So I'm due for another bout of hedonism sometime in my mid '60's, I guess.

One thing I've never "admitted", because it would seem like boasting, but it's true. My wife is a major wank fantasy, and is stared at in the street the whole time by guys and women. She's also into variety. I'm really lucky. People just couldn't figure out how a guy with such an incredble looking wife would ever want to screw around with other women.

If I need to explain it to you, then you're a woman.

 

[damppanties]

are women usually the limiting factor in kinkiness btwn couples? And are lesbains more kinky than striaght women? Or are these gross generalisations?

NO! not necesarily. yes.

 

[dirtylover]

NO! not necesarily. yes.

- just my personal experience then, and my preconceptions, amd my love of all generalisations.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I'm rather content with my sex life, I just wish I had sex more often.
I'm rather open-minded, and if Hubby would tell me he'd like to try a new position he read about in Acrobatic Digest, I'd give it a go.

There is this one... not really fantasy, but still... that I'd like to try, and that's Tantric Sex.
You know, the kind where you focus more on the intense pleasure of being close to each other, than the actual boom-boom.

I've heard it's supposed to give you very high levels of pleasure, if you do it right.

 

[Liar]

Content witht my moderate level of kinkyness but, due to singleness, in search of someone to get moderately kinky with. Open for suggestions.

#L

 

[PorscheLynn]

I went with "generally open to new ideas" but of course, this doesn't completely hit the nail on the head. This is a complex question. For one thing, I am open to new ideas, but I've tried and enjoyed about as much as I think I'm going to enjoy, honestly. If my boyfriend (or girlfriend, if I had one right now) suggested something that I hadn't tried, and I liked the idea, I'd happily go for it. I guess what it is is I'm open to new ideas, I just don't think there are that many left (that my s.o. would suggest anyhow). I used to be that last option, but having expermented with so much, it's cooled to what I voted as.

God I love my sex life. Well, except that we don't have enough of it... we don't live together.

 

[gauchecritic]

I couldn't vote because my option was "I'm unhappy with Joe's sex life and couldn't be further from the truth."

Gauche

 

[Guest]

I've never thought of my sexual life in terms of ambition; that seems more suited to career planning. I either wanted it or didn't. However, in the past year I've discovered (been guided toward?) aspects of my sexuality I had not known. That was great, esp. given my age. So I look forward to the rest of the sex in my life, but not ambitiously. It's more of a calling, I'd say.

Perdita

 

[GodBlessTexas]

People just couldn't figure out how a guy with such an incredble looking wife would ever want to screw around with other women.

If I need to explain it to you, then you're a woman.

lol...I'm not a woman. I understand ya, SJ.

 

[English Lady]

I answered the last one...I think my hubby is the same! We constantly try new things and explore our fantasies. I am soooooo lucky

 

[CharleyH]

I was extremely content on January 1, when I decided to get rid of all my lovers, and FENG SHUI my bedroom. Then discontented that the feng shui actually worked, and there was more creativity but less passion. I couldn't take it after a few days, and decided maybe I'd better reverse-feng shui?

But I didn't, and thank god. I got more than I could have imagined a couple weeks later- so contentness slipped out the door, and elation has been riding ever since

I forgot to vote - I didn't see anything that applied.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

See,Charley, there's an old saying "Be careful what you wish for, coz you just might get it". '


I'll be more than happy to give tips about Feng Shui to anyone interested. I've been studying the subject for years.

 

[fifty5]

Sorry, my option is mssing too.

I'm unhappy with my sex life but unable to take it further.

Close, Joe, but for me I'd have to change that to 'scared shitless about AIDS, STDs, etc.' rather than merely 'unable'.

Oh yeah, plus no-one's said "OK" in what seems like a long, long time....

f5 (sobbing into his beard)

 

[Guest]

 

[SlickTony]

Actually, on the whole I'm happy with my sex life, but I do have a few desires that in order to fulfill them, I'd have to be someone else. But then, that's what writing erotica is for.

I've never quite understood the concept of tantric sex. After I ended my first marriage I figured that someone, somewhere, owed me about 4 years' worth of orgasms and worked busily to try and collect.

As John Donne said, "Whoever loves, if he do not propose/the right true end of love, he's one that goes/to sea for nothing but to make him sick..."

 

[Guest]

Tony, that is so cool that you quote Donne in a post about your sex life. Thanks.

Perdita

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I don't like to mix up sex with feeling sick. Atleast not for a few more years.