Am I the only one?

[Escierto]

Stickygirl, you are exactly right. I am an old man and I somehow managed to change my thinking completely. Unfortunately it is rare and my only optimism comes from seeing younger generations and their open mindedness. When I think back on how I changed it was an internal gradual process. Thank God!

 

[Delawareguy]

I definitely cannot make you care anymore than I can make you read or think.

And yes, I knew what you meant. That's why I referred to it as a 'Freudian slip'.

I get the feeling that you would not be brave enough nor feel comfortable presenting as you wanted if you did not kowtow to cultural standards within your community. I wonder how you would treat your own XY chromosome kid if they showed a propensity toward non-traditional gender roles at an early age.

Would you make your son have short hair? Would you demand that a daughter wear makeup and shave her legs?

So many melting snowflakes change their minds when something hits home. Unless or until something does you will probably never have an understanding beyond your own myopic views. Again, I may be misjudging you, but I really do not need to care about you, do I?

Still no answers to any my many questions? Who is ignoring who? Why are you even here? Lol.

I am not ignoring you but your rhetorical questions are simply that. I'm not going to waste my time trying to explain myself because you don't care anyway. And I am very okay with that. But I am not sure you are completely "okay" with yourself. Your need to be here seems to be an effort to find like-minded people to calm your insecurities. Much like the insecurity behind the reason for the OP's original post. And the like-minded have as expected circled the wagons in support. How brave.

You like the term snowflake and use it often. I guess you use it to belittle people and make yourself feel better. It's laughable and predictable. Those outside of your circle find you and your ilk to be nothing more than circus freaks to be laughed at anyway. You just support the stereotype by acting in form. Which is at least entertaining, if nothing else. And I guess that's why I commented in this thread in the first place.

 

[stickygirl]

Stickygirl, you are exactly right. I am an old man and I somehow managed to change my thinking completely. Unfortunately it is rare and my only optimism comes from seeing younger generations and their open mindedness. When I think back on how I changed it was an internal gradual process. Thank God!

Ah well - you are the exception that proves the rule. Older people who have that rare gift of an enquiry mind are a joy to the world

There was a musician I knew a few years ago, in his seventies but despite his years he made me feel a slouch. I always felt uplifted and optimistic after speaking to him. I am still gutted that he sadly died after a short illness. The world was robbed and I didn't get the chance to know him better...

 

[Escierto]

Ah well - you are the exception that proves the rule. Older people who have that rare gift of an enquiry mind are a joy to the world

There was a musician I knew a few years ago, in his seventies but despite his years he made me feel a slouch. I always felt uplifted and optimistic after speaking to him. I am still gutted that he sadly died after a short illness. The world was robbed and I didn't get the chance to know him better...

Oh thank you! That’s the nicest thing anyone has said to me in a while.

 

[AlexBailey]

I am not ignoring you but your rhetorical questions are simply that. I'm not going to waste my time trying to explain myself because you don't care anyway.

Oh come on, please? Did I exceed your limited attention span? Entertain me. Just answer this one question. I'll keep it simple for you:

Why do people get upset by how someone else pressents?

(As for calling you a snowflake; yeah, I was fighting troll fire with fire. That's right BTW, this sissy was once a wildland firefighter!)

 

[Delawareguy]

Oh come on, please? Did I exceed your limited attention span? Entertain me. Just answer this one question. I'll keep it simple for you:


Wow, insults and belittlement. But then again, I should know it comes with the territory. It's predictable, like the sunrise.

I do not get upset with how someone presents themselves. I simply find it amazing that they want people to accept them as normal and treat them as if they were. What does bother me is when someone tries to claim they were denied their rights because someone did something they feel was motivated solely by how they present themselves and nothing else....of course because people should never judge them and should accept them for whatever form of humanity they have chosen to be that day.


(As for calling you a snowflake; yeah, I was fighting troll fire with fire. That's right BTW, this sissy was once a wildland firefighter!)

I don't care anything about what you do or have done, but I hope you were beating your chest like a good Alpha male while you wrote that. You mentioned it only to emphasize the differences (you need everyone to be aware of) in your biological gender as a male and your "preference" to present as a female....because it goes against what is expected and makes you feel special, or different, or whatever it is your are looking for by playing as a girl. I'll leave that for the mental health experts to determine. I will just stay amused by it.

And so is most everyone else. But that is what you truly want anyway. To be on stage for all to see. Powder up sweetheart.

 

[AlexBailey]

Wow, insults and belittlement. But then again, I should know it comes with the territory. It's predictable, like the sunrise.

OMG. You just earned another melting snowflake award. You are complaining about being insuted? Look at what you wrote in your first reply on this thread: (count the insults)

You're on here crying and looking for help like a whining little bitch but you're a guy. A wimpy guy who wants to be a woman, but still a guy.

And that's how most others view you. Those outside your little network of equally delusional friends.

You came on her and shit the bed, now you complain about your dirty sheets and call it 'predictible' and 'with the terretory'. Wherever you go, there you are...




Tell you what, I'll let you off my hook after this post because you said:

I don't care anything about what you do or have done...

Great, so you don't mind what I wear in public? Good to know.

...but I hope you were beating your chest like a good Alpha male while you wrote that.

Lol. You are the first person who has ever called me an alfa-male.

...You mentioned it only to emphasize the differences (you need everyone to be aware of) in your biological gender as a male and your "preference" to present as a female....because it goes against what is expected and makes you feel special, or different, or whatever it is your are looking for by playing as a girl.

There is so much ascription in there, so many assumptions... This is where the value of your forum input flatlines. You are becoming a complete waste of time.

...I'll leave that for the mental health experts to determine.

The mental health experts tend to define cross-dressing as a mental illness when it is something that causes stress or dysfunction in someone's life, so seeing people here 'reaching out' is a good thing. It makes the world a better place for many forum readers and writers. What is there about cross-dressing that is intrinsically harmful to anyone? It is only a 'mental disorder' when it makes someone unable to function.

Again, why does fashion have to be gender specific? (Actual question. Not solely intended as rhetorical.)

But that is what you truly want anyway. To be on stage for all to see. Powder up sweetheart.

Sure, I love a stage. I've performed in front of thousands, mostly as cis, but sometimes enfemme. I was broken hearted as a kid when my parents wouldn't let me do gymnastics or be a cheerleader. Lol. Oh, I was a bad kid when I was little! I wanted long hair and to wear skirts and tights because I really just wanted all of the attention. :eyeroll: (please don't miss the sarcasm in that last line) I actually ended up closeted for years. I think my parents efforts to discourage me played a big role in fetishizing my interests. Lol. Oops.

 

[muycurioso]

Am I the only bisexual person who likes to fantasize about being promiscuous but is super freaked about the reality of it?

On the rare occasion I've had a one-night stand I get crippling anxiety about STDs which makes me never want to do it again. But when I try to actually "date" guys, gay guys seem to assume I am just looking for sex because I'm bi, and the few bi guys I've met do actually seem to be just looking for sex...

I'm starting to wonder if that stereotype is rightly deserved. Given that this forum is labelled as a place for LGBT advice, but it's full of threads about sex and kinks, it seems to me like it contributes to that stereotype, and consequently prejudice against BT people.

At the same time, am I the only T-girl who is horrified by "sissy" porn? I watched a "sissy hypnosis video" and it made me feel sick; I've never had that reaction to porn before. I get that it has a right to exist, but it seems to me that it is porn (like other porn) made for a specific audience, in this case bi guys who are still in the closet, at least publicly. I think that sissy porn contributes to negative stereotypes about transgender people. I've been treated as a "sissy" by people in my real life even though that is not how I want to be treated.

Maybe I'm just a special snowflake, but I can't help but wonder how many other bi T people come to this forum and end up just feeling alone and hopeless rather than actually finding meaningful advice/help from the LGBT community

you are not a snowflake. I dont care for the humiliAtion and aBUSE. that is no fun. It is a free country, so i say no to nastiness and abuse. I would like some plaYFUL teasing but not like mistress craP. MY opinion and I am entitled to it

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

First time sucking at a glory hole I drove to the nearest story bought a bottle of mouth wash and rinsed. After that I carried a small bottle at all times. A girl never knows when she may need to rinse. Not that it would help

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

If you have a dick......you are a guy. Not a girl.
You're on here crying and looking for help like a whining little bitch but you're a guy. A wimpy guy who wants to be a woman, but still a guy.

And that's how most others view you. Those outside your little network of equally delusional friends. Sorry, that's the truth.

I want to throw you down pull your pants off and suck your dick untill you cant cum anymore then keep sucking until you scream. No realy I do. I love big strong men.

 

[cubbyfire04]

Am I the only bisexual person who likes to fantasize about being promiscuous but is super freaked about the reality of it?

On the rare occasion I've had a one-night stand I get crippling anxiety about STDs which makes me never want to do it again. But when I try to actually "date" guys, gay guys seem to assume I am just looking for sex because I'm bi, and the few bi guys I've met do actually seem to be just looking for sex...

I'm starting to wonder if that stereotype is rightly deserved. Given that this forum is labelled as a place for LGBT advice, but it's full of threads about sex and kinks, it seems to me like it contributes to that stereotype, and consequently prejudice against BT people.

At the same time, am I the only T-girl who is horrified by "sissy" porn? I watched a "sissy hypnosis video" and it made me feel sick; I've never had that reaction to porn before. I get that it has a right to exist, but it seems to me that it is porn (like other porn) made for a specific audience, in this case bi guys who are still in the closet, at least publicly. I think that sissy porn contributes to negative stereotypes about transgender people. I've been treated as a "sissy" by people in my real life even though that is not how I want to be treated.

Maybe I'm just a special snowflake, but I can't help but wonder how many other bi T people come to this forum and end up just feeling alone and hopeless rather than actually finding meaningful advice/help from the LGBT community

Met a guy online one night when I was on the road. Sexy black guy looking to get sucked. He was super nervous. I suspect married and first time with a guy. I was a bit inebriated and let my horniness get the best of me... I dropped to my knees when he arrived and started sucking. He moved to the bed on his back and I continued sucking. He urged me to move up and ride him, and I didn't resist. I needed it.

Didn't bother with a condom, as I figured I'd let him shoot in my mouth or something, but he didn't last long. I rode him harder as he spasmed uncontrollably. I knew he was cumming, but I didn't stop as he flooded my ass.

He hurriedly gathered his clothes and left. I immediately felt regret and emptiness. It was the only time I'd been so irresponsible. I was turned on but felt so ashamed of myself. I showered for an hour, stroking myself off and then I was completely panicked and shivering. I tested myself every 30 days for the next year like clockwork. Thankfully, all was well. The juice wasn't worth the squeeze, though. I'll never put myself in that position again. No, you're not alone... Thankfully.

 

[starfish71]

To stick to what were the original questions...

No, I don't think you are the only one (bi or otherwise) that fantasizes about being more promiscuous that you might be willing to be in real life... though it may not be solely fear of STD's that is the limiting factor.

I am not horrified by sissy porn in general, but I do find sissy-hypno dumb, and humiliation promoting variety silly to harmful... like you said it is made for an audience (though I think your description of the audience is too narrow). I am not, however, a sissy, t-girl, femm, or trans... I am a man that likes to wear lingerie from time to time, and who's fantasies may fit some of those categories...

As to the pseudo-psychophysiology in the rest of the thread, I will leave it to the pseudo-psychologists...

 

[cdstefi]

Am I the only bisexual person who likes to fantasize about being promiscuous but is super freaked about the reality of it?

Nope. I fantasise about fucking guys constantly, lots of them, cock after cock after cock. But I'm a realist. I'm married for one thing and do have a limited licence to play with guys but only very carefully selected ones. And for another, I like bareback and semen, and you don't play with that without being very cautious.

 

[BiliBottoms]

Sissies are not trans women - simple as that. Transgender people often discover themselves through their sexual curiosity if they've had to suppress their natural expression and conform to binary straitjackets. More often they've always known, but when they started to present their natural gender as children they had it beaten out of them.

The problem with sissy porn is when people conflate what they see in porn to make assumptions about anyone non-binary. I do think that the political movement and representation is already working and adults over the age of 30 understand who and why trans people are. Social change takes time and effort but in the end, most change occurs when a generation dies out and take their prejudice to the grave. It was the same for gays and lesbians - it would be nice if it happened for racism and sexism too. One step at a time.

 

[Jessica616]

Am I the only bisexual person who likes to fantasize about being promiscuous but is super freaked about the reality of it?

On the rare occasion I've had a one-night stand I get crippling anxiety about STDs which makes me never want to do it again. But when I try to actually "date" guys, gay guys seem to assume I am just looking for sex because I'm bi, and the few bi guys I've met do actually seem to be just looking for sex...

I'm starting to wonder if that stereotype is rightly deserved. Given that this forum is labelled as a place for LGBT advice, but it's full of threads about sex and kinks, it seems to me like it contributes to that stereotype, and consequently prejudice against BT people.

At the same time, am I the only T-girl who is horrified by "sissy" porn? I watched a "sissy hypnosis video" and it made me feel sick; I've never had that reaction to porn before. I get that it has a right to exist, but it seems to me that it is porn (like other porn) made for a specific audience, in this case bi guys who are still in the closet, at least publicly. I think that sissy porn contributes to negative stereotypes about transgender people. I've been treated as a "sissy" by people in my real life even though that is not how I want to be treated.

Maybe I'm just a special snowflake, but I can't help but wonder how many other bi T people come to this forum and end up just feeling alone and hopeless rather than actually finding meaningful advice/help from the LGBT community

Well said and you are not alone feeling this way.

 

[Missmister]

If you have a dick......you are a guy. Not a girl.
You're on here crying and looking for help like a whining little bitch but you're a guy. A wimpy guy who wants to be a woman, but still a guy.

And that's how most others view you. Those outside your little network of equally delusional friends. Sorry, that's the truth.

Sometimes its fun to make believe.

 

[Phatfeet]

Also, to give a bit of context for this thread - the issue became more clear to me lately when I went to the doctor about an x-ray for a ski injury I sustained. It was the second time I had been to this doctor and he'd seen my shaved legs, and his demeanour immediately changed from one that was respectful and empathetic to one that was awkward and condescending.

While I have little to say regarding the other aspects of this thread, I did feel compelled to reply to this one aspect.

I am neither a sissy, nor transgender, nor anything really but a typical mans-mans in looking the part, being the part and working in a male dominated industry even. I say all that to say this though, that I greatly dislike body hair. I always have and have fully shaved for years. I mean long before it was the cool thing to do starting in the early 1990's!

Your experience is your experience of course, but for me, medical professionals have not once cared that I shave not only my legs, but most of my body hair off. I have had annual physicals, injuries requiring surgery, trips by ambulance, etc, and only once was shaving of body hair mentioned. It was when a technician put sticky probes on my legs and simply said, "its a good thing you shave your legs because these won't hurt so bad when they come off". No other words about it... men and women doctors, men and women nurses, and men and woman paramedics in the 30 years I have been doing it.

And they shouldn't because it is far more common then you think. In fact 15% of men fully shave body hair off, its just few know about it. That seems like a small percentage until you put it in perspective... for every 300 men the average person sees in a day (600 people per day), 45 of those 300 men statistically shave their body hair off! So it is way more than what you would initially think! Some are competitive bicyclists. Some are competitive swimmers. Some just like to wear shorts without leg hair being seen. And some are like me and just dislike body hair. But it is far more common than you think, and medical professionals see it often.

Considering my dealings with medical professionals over 30 years, and their non-reaction to it, I am surprised that doctor treated you in such a way. So please know this, it was probably just that one doctor. Men fully shaving body hair is not that unusual, and in fact, I predict it is going to be more normalized just as when I started shaving in the early 1990's it was odd, but today 2/3 of men shave their genitals (200 out of 300 men you are likely to see in a days time shave their genitals). It is 2025; razors are cheap, it takes little time, and as more men realize its not that odd, it will only increase in percentage. But a rarity for medical professionals to see... nope... not at all.

 

[ColtonWrites]

I'm curious - do ypu identify as a woman? Do you present as one?
If the answer to both questions is yes, then part of the problem IMO is that you're attempting to date gay men. Gay men don't like women.

I'm not saying that you should just dive straight into dating straight men, either, but if you're more likely to find the right open-minded straight or bi man to date you as a woman, than you are a gay man. If you go out with gay men just because you have a dick...well, of course they think you re just there for sex - you set that expectation.

Present yourself as a person first and a set of genitalia second and you'll find people to treat you that way.

 

[stickygirl]

That DG guy did spend a lot of time hanging out with us LGBTQ folks on this thread!! On a serious note, this made me pretty sad from the original 2021 posts

I do think that the political movement and representation is already working and adults over the age of 30 understand who and why trans people are. Social change takes time and effort but in the end, most change occurs when a generation dies out and take their prejudice to the grave. It was the same for gays and lesbians - it would be nice if it happened for racism and sexism too. One step at a time.

Wow... were things looking so optimistic only four years ago? How quickly opinions have changed but then, when you have billionaires putting money into transphobic campaigns, this is what happens.

 

[Phatfeet]

That DG guy did spend a lot of time hanging out with us LGBTQ folks on this thread!! On a serious note, this made me pretty sad from the original 2021 posts

Wow... were things looking so optimistic only four years ago? How quickly opinions have changed but then, when you have billionaires putting money into transphobic campaigns, this is what happens.

I agree.

On the surface it looked so great, of people embracing change when really they were only exploiting people for their own agenda. Of some, dancing proudly as if supporting to the fullest, only to find out that they were raking in millions on the backside by way of bribes from being paid to promote the change by pharmaceutical companies to change laws so they could push synthetic hormones by thousands of people.

It was the ultimate betrayal of the LGBTQ community, but then corruption betrays everyone in some regards.