Am I sub?

[space283]

I am wondering, if I am a sub type. There are certain types of humilation I like, humiliating me, but no types of humiliating others, but it seems that the sub is actually the master in most scenarios I read about, because if the Domme doesn´t do what the sub wants, it´s like game over,So anyway, I´m confused and new to this arena, could someone explain?
Take care,
space283

and here is a cutie I just made up after reading your signature phrases,
"Discipline is a hard one to master"
cya and thanks in advance..

 

[MissTaken]

Only you can know if you are a "sub" and to what degree.

Read, learn, research, ask questions. (The monster thread has lots of good information and links)

What makes you really hot?

What makes you wilt?

What aspects of D/s are appealing? You will better be able to answer this after having learned more about the lifestyle.

Caution! Don't get caught up in labels. There are too many...just be you and find the partner who makes you tingle, makes you sleepless with need, who can best fill those needs.

Good Luck....


Miss T

 

[space283]

Link to monster

Thank you for your advice, but I am feeling a bit lost on this site, can you give me a link to the monster thread? I can only find references but not the thread itself, Thank you in advance.
space283

 

[MissTaken]

Here you are. Try this. I am not as computer savvy as I would like to be.


http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39661

 

[Ebonyfire]

I am wondering, if I am a sub type. There are certain types of humilation I like, humiliating me, but no types of humiliating others, but it seems that the sub is actually the master in most scenarios I read about, because if the Domme doesn´t do what the sub wants, it´s like game over,So anyway, I´m confused and new to this arena, could someone explain?
Take care,
space283

and here is a cutie I just made up after reading your signature phrases,
"Discipline is a hard one to master"
cya and thanks in advance..

I disagree with you there. But then I do not "play a game with my sub or my slave."

I do not have any subs who master me.

Ebony

 

[James Blandings]

I am wondering, if I am a sub type. There are certain types of humilation I like, humiliating me, but no types of humiliating others, but it seems that the sub is actually the master in most scenarios I read about, because if the Domme doesn´t do what the sub wants, it´s like game over,So anyway, I´m confused and new to this arena, could someone explain?
Take care,
space283

and here is a cutie I just made up after reading your signature phrases,
"Discipline is a hard one to master"
cya and thanks in advance..

When it is said in BDSM that the sub is ultimately in charge, what we are saying is that we respect consentuality above all other factors. The sub does not control things but has the final veto, since they can withdraw their consent. That is not the same as the sub demanding that the dominant do certain things to please them. Does that make it clearer for you?

 

[space283]

I disagree with you there. But then I do not "play a game with my sub or my slave."

I do not have any subs who master me.

Ebony

I have not enough knowledge to make a statement. "It seems " is not hardly a statement, or is it? I didn´t mean it to be, I thought that I was asking a question.
Thank you and take care,
space283

James wrote;
When it is said in BDSM that the sub is ultimately in charge, what we are saying is that we respect consentuality above all other factors. The sub does not control things but has the final veto, since they can withdraw their consent. That is not the same as the sub demanding that the dominant do certain things to please them. Does that make it clearer for you?

Thank you, I understand my misuse of the word Master, It is clearer!
Take care,
space283!
( I have a lot of reading to do on this, have patience please)

 

[MissTaken]

*smiles*

We all started somewhere.

I may have stated the same question in the monster thread last year. Amazing that I can track my D/s history through lit.

 

[Ebonyfire]

That is true

It is no sin to be new. We are all new at something!

Ebony