Am I being unreasonable?

[Jelly123]

Wanna know what I think? ...... hes married.

 

[Jelly123]

SweetDommes : - Maybe you need to actively seek sub men off the net then thers maybe more chance u will meet someone genuine and in real life they will find it harder to hide their motivations.

Im sure if you went to a fetish club you would get attention.

Ask one of your Pro Domme freinds if they have any nice single clients maybe!!!.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Just for Jelly....Jelly123 - a star is born!! .....sorry SD's, hijack over.

Catalina

 

[Aeroil]

Thanks, I knew it didn't look right, but couldn't figure out what was right

And he said he was just really busy with work (since he's a truck driver like rob, I understand).

Lol, no problem, espically since I just looked it up on encarta's online dictionary.
I love that site.

 

[SweetDommes]

SweetDommes : - Maybe you need to actively seek sub men off the net then thers maybe more chance u will meet someone genuine and in real life they will find it harder to hide their motivations.

Im sure if you went to a fetish club you would get attention.

Ask one of your Pro Domme freinds if they have any nice single clients maybe!!!.

We do actively seek subs off the net, thank you - we go to the local munch, and we have gone to not-so-local munches in the past. Please do not assume that you know all of our methods simply because I have posted about one of them.

We have no need to go to fetish clubs, it's not our style and likely to attract the attention of subs who are not compatable with us at all.

And for the love of whatever you hold Holy would you shut the fuck up about Pros? I'm tired of hearing it, as is everyone else.

 

[ghosst_K&H]

Jelly,

You sub....are an idiot.

 

[A Desert Rose]

We do actively seek subs off the net, thank you - we go to the local munch, and we have gone to not-so-local munches in the past. Please do not assume that you know all of our methods simply because I have posted about one of them.

We have no need to go to fetish clubs, it's not our style and likely to attract the attention of subs who are not compatable with us at all.

And for the love of whatever you hold Holy would you shut the fuck up about Pros? I'm tired of hearing it, as is everyone else.

What I find really stupid is that nowhere in this thread have either of you asked for advice on how to find a sub. It's a case of "if the topic doesn't fit my agenda, I'll make it fit by derailing it."

Or maybe I'm giving them too much credit. Maybe it's just that reading comprehension, as well as low intelligence, are the only problems with some here.

 

[Desdemona]

Nah... it's just troll time.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

He's nagging you. It's passive-aggressive, and that, plus playing you off against your fellow Domme, reminds me of a child wanting to play the parents off against each other. Don't let him manipulate you.

 

[A Desert Rose]

This thread has more lives than Morris the cat.

LMAO

 

[D's mariposa]

Jelly,

You sub....are an idiot.

SPEW!!! Thanks ghosst, I needed that. Good job on using the small words.

 

[shy slave]

SPEW!!! Thanks ghosst, I needed that. Good job on using the small words.

Seems jelly would only understand small words anyway.

Back on topic ~ How are things now Miss Karen?

Will you continue to give him benefit of the doubt or move on?

Whichever I hope it works for you both xx

 

[Aeroil]

Actually, I talked to him last night, and after talking to him, he's out of the running. This topic has served it's purpose, I stuck to my guns this time when talking to him, and the problem is solved. Thank you to everyone who had pertanent (sp?) input.

*points at quote* answer right there shy slave

 

[SweetDommes]

Well, I just talked to the guy again - and even though he was no longer under consideration, he AGAIN started talking about his fantasies and turn ons ... when I pointed out to him that I didn't like that then and I still don't, all of a sudden he started going on and on about how selfish we are (OMG, a Domme not wanting to hear a "submissive's" fantasies nonstop ... how selfish of Her!!), and that what we are looking for doesn't exist ...

I hope that he wakes up some day.

 

[Aeroil]

Well, I just talked to the guy again - and even though he was no longer under consideration, he AGAIN started talking about his fantasies and turn ons ... when I pointed out to him that I didn't like that then and I still don't, all of a sudden he started going on and on about how selfish we are (OMG, a Domme not wanting to hear a "submissive's" fantasies nonstop ... how selfish of Her!!), and that what we are looking for doesn't exist ...

I hope that he wakes up some day.

Lol, if I'm not mistaken, Domme's are supposed to be selfish to some degree
(note: I could be mistaken)

 

[SweetDommes]

That's kinda my point here. He's supposedly submissive, but he couldn't take no for an answer. And the few (very few) times that he did ask what our interests were, it was ... I don't know ... I just didn't ever feel comfortable answering him for a number of reasons. It was always about him, and I'm sorry, but that's not how it works here. We do want our boys to enjoy what we do, but we have to enjoy it too or we aren't going to do it. When I finally drove it through his thick damn skull that I meant 'no' when I said it the first time, suddenly I'm a selfish bitch who wants something unrealistic.

When he first started his tirade, I tried to point out the flaws in it - such as his accusation that we don't care about what our boys think/how our boys feel ... I never said that I had a problem with hearing fantasies, but that I had a problem with the fact that he ONLY talked about his fantasies and I couldn't ever redirect him to anything else for more than a minute or two ... but of course, the problem COULDN'T be with him

I gave up quickly, let him finish, and ended the conversation. To an extent, I still feel bad, because when I could get him redirected for more than a minute or two (granted, it was rare, but it did happen) then I really enjoyed talking to him ... but I spent so much time trying to redirect him that overall the conversations weren't enjoyable for me, so I don't feel too bad that he will likely never talk to me again.

His loss, right?

 

[MintSoda]

That's kinda my point here. He's supposedly submissive, but he couldn't take no for an answer. And the few (very few) times that he did ask what our interests were, it was ... I don't know ... I just didn't ever feel comfortable answering him for a number of reasons. It was always about him, and I'm sorry, but that's not how it works here. We do want our boys to enjoy what we do, but we have to enjoy it too or we aren't going to do it. When I finally drove it through his thick damn skull that I meant 'no' when I said it the first time, suddenly I'm a selfish bitch who wants something unrealistic.

When he first started his tirade, I tried to point out the flaws in it - such as his accusation that we don't care about what our boys think/how our boys feel ... I never said that I had a problem with hearing fantasies, but that I had a problem with the fact that he ONLY talked about his fantasies and I couldn't ever redirect him to anything else for more than a minute or two ... but of course, the problem COULDN'T be with him

I gave up quickly, let him finish, and ended the conversation. To an extent, I still feel bad, because when I could get him redirected for more than a minute or two (granted, it was rare, but it did happen) then I really enjoyed talking to him ... but I spent so much time trying to redirect him that overall the conversations weren't enjoyable for me, so I don't feel too bad that he will likely never talk to me again.

His loss, right?

He is totally missing the point, and in my opinion, one of the finest pleasures of being a sub. ALL the thought work, planning, and fantasizing is taken completely out of your hands. My favorite part of being a sub for someone is giving over complete control. What's the point of being a sub if you're constantly pesting your domme or dom to do something specific you want. Personally I don't want to know what's coming next. Being a sub should be reactionary not proactive planning.

His loss totally. The only time I've ever done anything as a sub to tell a mistress something I fantasized about would be to leave her a note or write her an e-mail giving a fun description of a thought. If she didn't want to read it then she didn't. End of story.

You can do better than him.

 

[Aeroil]

That's kinda my point here. He's supposedly submissive, but he couldn't take no for an answer. And the few (very few) times that he did ask what our interests were, it was ... I don't know ... I just didn't ever feel comfortable answering him for a number of reasons. It was always about him, and I'm sorry, but that's not how it works here. We do want our boys to enjoy what we do, but we have to enjoy it too or we aren't going to do it. When I finally drove it through his thick damn skull that I meant 'no' when I said it the first time, suddenly I'm a selfish bitch who wants something unrealistic.

When he first started his tirade, I tried to point out the flaws in it - such as his accusation that we don't care about what our boys think/how our boys feel ... I never said that I had a problem with hearing fantasies, but that I had a problem with the fact that he ONLY talked about his fantasies and I couldn't ever redirect him to anything else for more than a minute or two ... but of course, the problem COULDN'T be with him

I gave up quickly, let him finish, and ended the conversation. To an extent, I still feel bad, because when I could get him redirected for more than a minute or two (granted, it was rare, but it did happen) then I really enjoyed talking to him ... but I spent so much time trying to redirect him that overall the conversations weren't enjoyable for me, so I don't feel too bad that he will likely never talk to me again.

His loss, right?

hehehe, Damn right it's his loss

 

[catalina_francisco]

That's kinda my point here. He's supposedly submissive, but he couldn't take no for an answer. And the few (very few) times that he did ask what our interests were, it was ... I don't know ... I just didn't ever feel comfortable answering him for a number of reasons. It was always about him, and I'm sorry, but that's not how it works here. We do want our boys to enjoy what we do, but we have to enjoy it too or we aren't going to do it. When I finally drove it through his thick damn skull that I meant 'no' when I said it the first time, suddenly I'm a selfish bitch who wants something unrealistic.

When he first started his tirade, I tried to point out the flaws in it - such as his accusation that we don't care about what our boys think/how our boys feel ... I never said that I had a problem with hearing fantasies, but that I had a problem with the fact that he ONLY talked about his fantasies and I couldn't ever redirect him to anything else for more than a minute or two ... but of course, the problem COULDN'T be with him

I gave up quickly, let him finish, and ended the conversation. To an extent, I still feel bad, because when I could get him redirected for more than a minute or two (granted, it was rare, but it did happen) then I really enjoyed talking to him ... but I spent so much time trying to redirect him that overall the conversations weren't enjoyable for me, so I don't feel too bad that he will likely never talk to me again.

His loss, right?

Sort of reminds me of a male sub we were talking to who asked to be given some tasks, but when I told him what they were he returned the next day and told me how he had done them all like a good sub, just that he had changed them a bit to adapt to what he already had on hand and found easiest for him. He is still looking for someone to serve.

Catalina

 

[SweetDommes]

Oh yeah, he sounds like a real winner ... maybe we should get the two of them together so they can bitch about how unfair life is and how horrible all Dominants are to them ... LOL

 

[catalina_francisco]

Oh yeah, he sounds like a real winner ... maybe we should get the two of them together so they can bitch about how unfair life is and how horrible all Dominants are to them ... LOL

LOL, and he of course wants to serve someone who looks like they have stepped out of the glossy pages of D/s porn, and has every piece of equipment imaginable in a perfect dungeon.

Catalina

 

[SweetDommes]

Oh, of course ... They don't want a real person, they want a situation like ... what was it, "weird science" where they created their dream girl? They want to create someone based on their fantasies and only be with that person ... if they can find someone close enough in real life then they might consider dating them

They are going to be in for a shock, huh? LOL

 

[catalina_francisco]

Oh, of course ... They don't want a real person, they want a situation like ... what was it, "weird science" where they created their dream girl? They want to create someone based on their fantasies and only be with that person ... if they can find someone close enough in real life then they might consider dating them

They are going to be in for a shock, huh? LOL

Is taking a while to realise why after more than a year of searching for this elusive queen he is still alone and lonely with only his fantasies to keep him going.

Catalina

 

[SweetDommes]

He's only been looking for a year? Hell, we looked for well over a year before we found ghosst, and have been looking for well over a year since then for our second ... do these people not realize that these things take time? Especially when they insist on having specific things that they HAVE to have and nothing else will do? At least we knew in advance that our search would be difficult (doesn't make it any less frustrating, but at least we were prepared) ...

 

[jasonlf]

LOL, and he of course wants to serve someone who looks like they have stepped out of the glossy pages of D/s porn, and has every piece of equipment imaginable in a perfect dungeon.

Catalina

My ex-gf had that disorder.

Hehe.