Am I a total freak?

[sexy_dancer]

Okay so I have always been into the whole being tied up and whipped thing. Here lately though I have become increasingly more violent. Well I should say that I have had my man become increasingly more violent, I beg him to slap me and bite me. I beg him to whip me or spank me harder. I also beg him to put his hands around my throat. It's gotten to the point where I am constantly bruised up and almost have bald spots from him pulling my hair out. My friends say that I am too dependant on the violence to get off, but that's the thing. I get off without the violence, but getting slapped or whatever makes my orgasm stronger and more intense. Is this totaly weird? I need some other imput because for once I am at a total loss! I love being his bitch, but I am starting to wonder if I am alone in loving to be "beaten".

 

[insertcutename]

You're not the only one. Recently I too have been wanting to get more violent in the bedroom. The only thing I have been able to ask for is for him to choke me. I can almost get off just by him wrapping his hands around my neck and squeezing. I have been looking around for a choke chain to use as well. He has also started slapping me in the face, which I can't get enough of.

I'm a bit hesitant to ask for him to be rougher with me though. Sometimes I just want him to let loose and beat me, just to see what it's like. I don't know if i'll like it or not, but there's no harm in trying. Well, there is but that's kinda what we want, eh?

 

[BiBunny]

Nope, not weird at all, and not alone, either.

 

[MechaBlade]

God, I love painsluts.

 

[human_male]

I'm not in the scene, but I don't think it's weird someone would want to be treated that way during sex. Sexuality's complex and leads to all sorts of weirdness.

I personally would find it weird and sad if someone wanted to be treated that way in their relationship or life in general. I suppose some people do. That's just me though.

 

[Nuggy]

I'm not in the scene, but I don't think it's weird someone would want to be treated that way during sex. Sexuality's complex and leads to all sorts of weirdness.

I personally would find it weird and sad if someone wanted to be treated that way in their relationship or life in general. I suppose some people do. That's just me though.

oh yes! www.hogtied.com

 

[sexy_dancer]

Thanks

Nope, not weird at all, and not alone, either.

Thanks Love!! I feel a lot better now! I love to be beaten! I was hoping I wasn't alone!

 

[PhilGarlic]

take advantage.

finding it a bit strange how you could beat someone you love. Slap & tickle yes beating no, but thats just me.
What concerns me more is the trust thing. How easy would it be for someone to take advantage of your 'kink,' if you are being beaten by a guy that enjoys beating you, cause thats what HE gets off on.
If a guy beats you cause thats what you want, that's OK?
You can be sure that your not alone in your feelings.
I guess having this relationship and making it work would involve a lot of love & trust. Hope you have lots of both.
Did that make sense?

 

[human_male]

oh yes! www.hogtied.com

I don't think they should tie ropes around the titties like that. I don't think that'd be a good idea.

 

[the captians wench]

finding it a bit strange how you could beat someone you love. Slap & tickle yes beating no, but thats just me.
What concerns me more is the trust thing. How easy would it be for someone to take advantage of your 'kink,' if you are being beaten by a guy that enjoys beating you, cause thats what HE gets off on.
If a guy beats you cause thats what you want, that's OK?
You can be sure that your not alone in your feelings.
I guess having this relationship and making it work would involve a lot of love & trust. Hope you have lots of both.
Did that make sense?

You're right, this type of thing does take a lot of trust, and on some levels love, tho that point is often arguable.

The people that beat me, don't usually do it just because I enjoy it, most of them do it because they enjoy it, and because I enjoy it,they involve me. And because I trust them with my life, I know they are not going to go beyond what my body can handle.

And quite frankly, if I don't end up with at least one bruse that lasts a good few days, I'm a bit disapointed.

 

[serijules]

This is a struggle for me as well...I often crave a much more intense level of "play" than Ma'am gives me, and the thing is, I know she desires it too. I'm not sure what holds her back, but it sure keeps me on my toes, wondering when she will finally let loose completely and hurt me at the level we both want.

So no, you are not alone and no, you are not a freak. Well, ok maybe you are, but don't worry, you have lots of company.

 

[PleasurePuppy]

My Master views the life style as a more natural, kind of primative, type of thing. Meaning only that we're reverting back to feeling rather than relying on what society feels is acceptable. If you think of it that way, then we're more normal than those who fight it. As long as you both are enjoying it, go for it.

 

[Tuomas]

Aside from the usual cautionary adivice to make sure none of your hard limits are crossed, and no actual damage is done, I'd like to encourage you to do what makes you feel good (although I personally don't go for it). I wouldn't worry about "addiction", as long as you keep your play quite varied, and do not start depending on pain only as a means of getting off.

The human body can take a lot of abuse, but an activity like that would cause extra stress on it. So, you would have to keep a keener eye out for physical annomalies, such as bruises that don't go away, prolonged pain in certain areas, etc. There is an area of concern: your hair. Proper hairpulling can give the same sensations without pulling out the follicules. In fact, stressing hair like this, without actually pulling it out, is widely recognized as healthy and is recomended in many scalp treatments. But actually pulling out hair is not so good.

I don't think they should tie ropes around the titties like that. I don't think that'd be a good idea.

Then don't do it

 

[Wyldfire]

Okay so I have always been into the whole being tied up and whipped thing. Here lately though I have become increasingly more violent. Well I should say that I have had my man become increasingly more violent, I beg him to slap me and bite me. I beg him to whip me or spank me harder. I also beg him to put his hands around my throat. It's gotten to the point where I am constantly bruised up and almost have bald spots from him pulling my hair out. My friends say that I am too dependant on the violence to get off, but that's the thing. I get off without the violence, but getting slapped or whatever makes my orgasm stronger and more intense. Is this totaly weird? I need some other imput because for once I am at a total loss! I love being his bitch, but I am starting to wonder if I am alone in loving to be "beaten".

No you're not. But I will say that if you have to have the pain level escalated until it involves a trip to the ER please go into coucilling.

 

[myinnerslut]

As long as you both are enjoying it, go for it.

just be safe about it, have a safeword, know your limits, etc etc. nothing wrong with being a masochist. if you wanted more infor on any of it, check on the library

 

[graceanne]

I was talking yesterday with a friend of mine. She's also kinky, and writes erotica. She was looking through the people on yahoo 360, and said 'there's a lot of weird people on there'. I laughed and said "S! We are the weird people."

It reminded me of a blurb I read in readers digest once. There was a guy, dressed in all leather, with lots of piercing and tattoos. His hair was a brightly colored mow hawk. He wa searching through this store she was in frantically, and finally pulled a toddler out from behind a rack of clothes. "Don't do that!" he scolded him, "A scary person could have taken you!"

My point? Scariness, weirdness, and freakiness are all in the eys of the beholder. No, we don't think you're a freak, but another forum full of 'nilla's might. *shrugs*

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Okay so I have always been into the whole being tied up and whipped thing. Here lately though I have become increasingly more violent. Well I should say that I have had my man become increasingly more violent, I beg him to slap me and bite me. I beg him to whip me or spank me harder. I also beg him to put his hands around my throat. It's gotten to the point where I am constantly bruised up and almost have bald spots from him pulling my hair out. My friends say that I am too dependant on the violence to get off, but that's the thing. I get off without the violence, but getting slapped or whatever makes my orgasm stronger and more intense. Is this totaly weird? I need some other imput because for once I am at a total loss! I love being his bitch, but I am starting to wonder if I am alone in loving to be "beaten".

i assure you that you are not alone. i LOVE the feel of Master's floggers on my skin and the harder He hits me with them, the more turned on i get, i love when He slaps me, bites me, or whatever it is that pleases Him. if that makes me 'weird' or a 'freak' than i do NOT want to be normal..period. 'normal' is boring any damn way, and besides this IS normal to 'me'.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

You're not the only one. Recently I too have been wanting to get more violent in the bedroom. The only thing I have been able to ask for is for him to choke me. I can almost get off just by him wrapping his hands around my neck and squeezing. I have been looking around for a choke chain to use as well. He has also started slapping me in the face, which I can't get enough of.

I'm a bit hesitant to ask for him to be rougher with me though. Sometimes I just want him to let loose and beat me, just to see what it's like. I don't know if i'll like it or not, but there's no harm in trying. Well, there is but that's kinda what we want, eh?

*grins* i agree with this post completely. Master is being alot rougher this time than He was last time and i'm loving it, though the first few swats i have to breathe through to start enjoying it but after those first two or three it feels like He can't hit me hard enough *grins*

 

[Wyldfire]

You're not the only one. Recently I too have been wanting to get more violent in the bedroom. The only thing I have been able to ask for is for him to choke me. I can almost get off just by him wrapping his hands around my neck and squeezing. I have been looking around for a choke chain to use as well. He has also started slapping me in the face, which I can't get enough of.

I'm a bit hesitant to ask for him to be rougher with me though. Sometimes I just want him to let loose and beat me, just to see what it's like. I don't know if i'll like it or not, but there's no harm in trying. Well, there is but that's kinda what we want, eh?

You might want to keep the full on ass kicking in fantasy hun. Having had it done it's not what one might hope. I was on the shelf for three monthes because of it.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

You might want to keep the full on ass kicking in fantasy hun. Having had it done it's not what one might hope. I was on the shelf for three monthes because of it.

see that's what trust is all about, i trust that Master can 'beat' me without harming me. today He hauled off with all of His toys and not once was i scared that He would go too far and 'harm' me hurt me? hell yea..that's what i want.

 

[Wyldfire]

see that's what trust is all about, i trust that Master can 'beat' me without harming me. today He hauled off with all of His toys and not once was i scared that He would go too far and 'harm' me hurt me? hell yea..that's what i want.

Toys is fine. I mean clenched fist ass kicking. I wanted to see what a true beating would feel like so I picked up a guy in a bar, never asked his name and procceeded to piss him off as we were in foreplay and got my ass beaten. This is why I say if the rough play goes as far as the er then please get coucilling.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Toys is fine. I mean clenched fist ass kicking. I wanted to see what a true beating would feel like so I picked up a guy in a bar, never asked his name and procceeded to piss him off as we were in foreplay and got my ass beaten. This is why I say if the rough play goes as far as the er then please get coucilling.

ok i believe that's a little, ok ALOT, different than asking her Master/boyfriend to 'beat' her. picking some guy up that you don't even know and then pissing him off just so he'll beat you, is just nuts....it takes alot of trust to let someone do that to you, and i as i said i know Master would never harm me, and trust me the toys can be just as damaging if not more than 'fists' but again it needs to be done with someone you trust, i would never just let anyone wield a flogger or the hands over me....that's crazy!!

 

[Wyldfire]

ok i believe that's a little, ok ALOT, different than asking her Master/boyfriend to 'beat' her. picking some guy up that you don't even know and then pissing him off just so he'll beat you, is just nuts....it takes alot of trust to let someone do that to you, and i as i said i know Master would never harm me, and trust me the toys can be just as damaging if not more than 'fists' but again it needs to be done with someone you trust, i would never just let anyone wield a flogger or the hands over me....that's crazy!!

Thanks. But you are right I wasn't in my right mind at the time. But now days I have to say I still like the rough stuff but no one and I mean no one will ever beat my ass again. I spent quite a while in councilling about my self destructive habits.

And yeah a toy can be just as bad as a fist. I know someone that had to go to the ER at two in the morning to get a lash strike sewn up.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Thanks. But you are right I wasn't in my right mind at the time. But now days I have to say I still like the rough stuff but no one and I mean no one will ever beat my ass again. I spent quite a while in councilling about my self destructive habits.

And yeah a toy can be just as bad as a fist. I know someone that had to go to the ER at two in the morning to get a lash strike sewn up.

eeek.....yea..that's a scary thing which again is why i say TRUST is a key component in letting Master beat me, though i also know accidents happen, but i do know He would never intentionally harm me, i'm glad you got 'help' for your destructive habits (as you put it) and that you won't be going through that again, i wasn't trying to harsh on you with my last post, it just shocked me that someone would actually let someone they didn't even know beat them like that...

 

[Wyldfire]

eeek.....yea..that's a scary thing which again is why i say TRUST is a key component in letting Master beat me, though i also know accidents happen, but i do know He would never intentionally harm me, i'm glad you got 'help' for your destructive habits (as you put it) and that you won't be going through that again, i wasn't trying to harsh on you with my last post, it just shocked me that someone would actually let someone they didn't even know beat them like that...

It's alright. You weren't harsh. And I'm glad you realized about the accident part. No master is perfect, and with certain toys a slight miscalculation could hurt more than intended.