Am I a bad wife?

[sylverwolfe]

I'm really into this other guy at work, & he's into me. Just looking at him gets my juices going. I really want to fuck him in the worst kind of way. But, I love my hubby, but I want to fuck this guy. I've only been married for about a year & a half, I'm used to being able to do & get what I want when I want it. I've never cheated on any man I was in a relationship with.

Any advice would be wonderful.

 

[Guest]

talk your hubby into an open marriage. Find a woman for him.

 

[Problem Child]

Get divorced now. You won't last another six months.

 

[lavender]

You're not a bad wife for having thoughts. You would be a bad wife if you choose to act upon those thoughts.

 

[Guest]

talk about 3 different opinions...

 

[Mia62]

Don't listen to the guy above me...that doesn't work for every relationship. Bad storm...baaaaddddd.

Just go home and close your eyes...morph the two into one. No one gets hurt and you both walk away happy...if you can walk.

 

[Purrde Flower]

I'm used to being able to do & get what I want when I want it.

Sounds to me you are a bit spoiled. Maybe to you the grass looks greener on the other side. If you want to eat that grass then I suggest you either talk to your hubby about it or get a divorce.

 

[Gil_Favor]

I'm really into this other guy at work, & he's into me. Just looking at him gets my juices going. I really want to fuck him in the worst kind of way. But, I love my hubby, but I want to fuck this guy. I've only been married for about a year & a half, I'm used to being able to do & get what I want when I want it. I've never cheated on any man I was in a relationship with.

Any advice would be wonderful.

fuck his brains out! then go home and look your husband in the eye, knowing that you just broke his trust. can ya do it?

 

[Mia62]

Re: Re: Am I a bad wife?

fuck his brains out! then go home and look your husband in the eye, knowing that you just broke his trust. can ya do it?

I think I just fell in love.

 

[bknight2602]

I agree talk with hubby and try to get him into an open relationship. Be prepared though it may escalate beyond your worst fears!

 

[Zaudika]

I don't think you're a bad wife. However, you may want to go over your feelings for your husband.
Personally.... and this is just me, in my past relationship when I was in love, I didn't think or look at other men sexually at all. I could look at a guy and say yeah, he's good looking, but other than that, it went no farther. Partially because I was in love, partially because I was really sexually satisfied. lol.
Either way.. if you're having these feelings, you might want to take a step back and re-evaluate<sp> your marriage and life.

 

[Zaudika]

Re: Re: Am I a bad wife?

fuck his brains out! then go home and look your husband in the eye, knowing that you just broke his trust. can ya do it?

Amazingly well put....

 

[Gil_Favor]

Re: Re: Re: Am I a bad wife?

I think I just fell in love.

aw shucks

 

[sylverwolfe]

This is the first time I've actually wanted to act upon my thoughts. I've tried talking with him (my husband, we call call him Bob) & he says 'do whatever makes you happy'. But then Bob has said that he doesn't really believe I'd do it. I've told him yeah, if you see an woman your interested in, go for it. But he has NO sex drive & I'm a nympho. I totally love him, I can't think of not having him in my life. He's 17 years older than I, which I'm sure has a lot to do with it.

 

[lavender]

If you "totally love him" you wouldn't want to do anything that was premeditated that could hurt him. If you truly love him, you would be willing to sacrficie your momentary desires of fucking, in order to live up to your commitment to him as well as continue to show him respect.

With love and with marriage come sacrifices - and one of those is giving up actions based purely upon selfish desire.

 

[Quiet_Cool]

This is the first time I've actually wanted to act upon my thoughts. I've tried talking with him (my husband, we call call him Bob) & he says 'do whatever makes you happy'. But then Bob has said that he doesn't really believe I'd do it. I've told him yeah, if you see an woman your interested in, go for it. But he has NO sex drive & I'm a nympho. I totally love him, I can't think of not having him in my life. He's 17 years older than I, which I'm sure has a lot to do with it.

Age is the explanation, not an excuse. You made a choice when you got married to deal with whatever may arise between the two of you; this is no exception.
If your husband gives you permissio, then go for it, so long as his permission is genuine. If he says he doesn't believe you'll do it, maybe that's an indicator that he isn't geniune.Either way, you've taken the right first step.

 

[mig]

Why don't you just do what you'll end up doing anyway.If not with this guy then with the next.

You don't need anyone here to give you permission.


In answer to your question,yes.

 

[Mia62]

Easy fix.

If age and low sex drive is the issue...run to nearest clinic and encourage your spouse to try Viagra.

Everyone lives happily ever after.

Or...divorce him and attempt to get the other guy until some new stud enters your vision.

 

[sylverwolfe]

If you "totally love him" you wouldn't want to do anything that was premeditated that could hurt him. If you truly love him, you would be willing to sacrficie your momentary desires of fucking, in order to live up to your commitment to him as well as continue to show him respect.

With love and with marriage come sacrifices - and one of those is giving up actions based purely upon selfish desire.

I just wish our sex life could be better. I've never had this kind of problem in a relationship before. I don't think I turn him on. I know I turn the other guy on.

 

[Mia62]

I just wish our sex life could be better. I've never had this kind of problem in a relationship before. I don't think I turn him on. I know I turn the other guy on.

Have you tried marriage counselling?

Trust me...exhaust every option before you even contemplate straying from your marriage. The guilt will never be worth it.

 

[sylverwolfe]

Easy fix.

If age and low sex drive is the issue...run to nearest clinic and encourage your spouse to try Viagra.

Everyone lives happily ever after.

Or...divorce him and attempt to get the other guy until some new stud enters your vision.

Other guy is married, wife just had a baby.

 

[sylverwolfe]

Have you tried marriage counselling?

Trust me...exhaust every option before you even contemplate straying from your marriage. The guilt will never be worth it.

He doesn't think anything is wrong.

 

[Guest]

Other guy is married, wife just had a baby.

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My, this is getting complicated, isn't it?

 

[Mia62]

Other guy is married, wife just had a baby.

Alright, honey...back away. NOW. Turn and run as fast as your little legs will carry you.

There is way too much at stake here.

 

[lavender]

Other guy is married, wife just had a baby.

Then you aren't just a bad wife - you are a bad person.

Think of the wife and the baby. You would be hurting more than just your husband and for what? To fucking get off.