Allergies and dating

[Pocketshaver]

seriously a question that isn't about sex. god must be a record on here. a first.

hmm, guess ive popped the website cherry then.

If a person cant eat anything with wheat, oats, rye, or barley, has issues with lactose. And smelling food containing those ingredients, like say a pizza or one of those frozen pasta meals cooking and afterwords, even sitting next to someone eating a reeses pieces, causes throat burning and stomach pain.

Is there a reason to even bother with the dating scene? Considering that 95% of women consider a visit to a restaurant or at least FOOD to be involved.... as part of a real date...

You cant go to those places and NOT eat, you cant take your own stuff along either. And because explaining why your not eating while your date eats her meal sucks ass. Seriously, it kills the date.

 

[kurrginatorX]

Find all the allergies, then make a picnic lunch that contains none of the above. It's a bit more intimate, yes, but it's done in a public setting, which should off-set the intimacy factor.

 

[Jada59]

There are actually dating sites for people with food allergies. Doesn't apply to me so I'm not sure exactly where. If you are the one with the allergies... Good luck to you! If the person you are dating has the allergies, you just have to make sure not to consume any of those things around them. Or have them in your house if they come over.

I used to work at my daughter's school. They put all of the kids with food allergies in one classroom. I brought their food for parties and worked with some of them as the writing/reading assistant. The only thing I had to be extremely concerned about was peanuts. I made sure not to eat any peanuts for a good 24 hours prior to going to the school.

 

[Hatsjikkiedee]

There are also a lot of restaurants that prepare glutenfree/lactose free meals if you let them now in advance. A friend of mine has those allergies, I just call the restaurant a few days before and...problem solved

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

i'd make an online dating profile that mentions your allergies.

 

[Jada59]

There are also a lot of restaurants that prepare glutenfree/lactose free meals if you let them now in advance. A friend of mine has those allergies, I just call the restaurant a few days before and...problem solved

Yes. I don't have food allergies but intolerances. Currently only egg but they do come and go. Most restaurants are good to work with their customers but... If a person has say a gluten issue, then the other person should not eat gluten and kiss them. That could make them sick.

 

[Pocketshaver]

the restaurant industry doesn't care about things like gluten issues. I recall an article in the last 10 years where the restaurant industry said it felt it was a non existent issue.

Even if you ask for gluten free pasta for example, it gets cooked in the same water that the restaurant has used for regular pasta.

And have you had gluten free food? last girl friend declared it wasn't good enough to feed to a dog.

I used to love eating. Now I have to force myself to eat. I lived on hot dogs and corn checks for half of last year because I couldn't make myself eat much more.

 

[Jada59]

the restaurant industry doesn't care about things like gluten issues. I recall an article in the last 10 years where the restaurant industry said it felt it was a non existent issue.

Even if you ask for gluten free pasta for example, it gets cooked in the same water that the restaurant has used for regular pasta.

And have you had gluten free food? last girl friend declared it wasn't good enough to feed to a dog.

I used to love eating. Now I have to force myself to eat. I lived on hot dogs and corn checks for half of last year because I couldn't make myself eat much more.

That's not true! The Old Spaghetti Factory and Olive Garden cook GF things in separate pots.

I don't know where you are, but here, we have plenty of restaurants that have GF menus.

PF Changs is another chain that does GF.

I had to cook GF for my daughter for many years. GF bread is usually only good if one can include egg and dairy. I couldn't. I did find a recipe that made a single hamburger bun and also one for zucchini bread. Both excellent. GF brownies taste just like regular ones.

Chinese food can be made GF by using Kikkomen or wheat free Tamari for soy sauce. If one must avoid soy, then use coconut aminos. Because my daughter had so many food intolerances when she was young and because I too have some, I learned to adapt. I made nacho cheese from nuts that was so good, nobody who tried it realized it had no dairy in it. Also made a raw, GF onion bread that tasted just like a hearty grain bread.

As food allergies/intolerances go, GF is an easy one to deal with. Sub in rice for pasta or use a rice, quinoa or corn pasta. Rice pasta needs to be eaten soon after cooking. If you are planning on leftovers, or making pasta salad, then use a corn and quinoa blend.

Many foods are naturally GF. Like meat, fruits and vegetables.

I will also say to the OP that I am one woman who prefers not to do things that involve going out for food. For a variety of reasons.

One being that I love to cook and my food is usually better than what I can get at many restaurants. Plus it's cheaper to eat at home.

I do have food issues, other than just the egg intolerance. One being diabetes.

I've gone to plenty of parties and brought my own food. People who know me, know that I'm a good cook and they are never offended when I bring my own food. I normally bring enough to share. Might not be a main dish but enough that I can take a bite or two if I do get hungry. Normally I will eat before or after the party.

There are also plenty of picky eater adults out there. I would consider myself to be on of them, but other picky eaters don't think I am. Apparently most picky eaters stick to things like pizza, mac and cheese, chicken nuggets/strips, French fries and stuff of that ilk. In general those are not things I care to eat. I actually prefer healthy foods and don't like to eat junk. I even tried a raw vegan diet for a time. Loved the food but there was just too much fiber in that diet for me so that didn't work.

I can't recall too many problems with food and my dating life. One exception would be a guy that I had numerous issues with, one of which was his not listening to me. He tried to insist that I take a platter of egg rolls home with me that his aunt made. Now egg issues aside, egg rolls are not a type of food (fried) that I like to begin with. He did get upset that I wouldn't take them. I figure that's his problem. I did mention prior that I wanted no food involved. We did go to the movies where normally I might eat popcorn but I had braces on my teeth at the time so popcorn was a no go.

Maybe I'm the odd one out. I do love to cook and I don't mind accommodating other people's food quirks or issues. Just in my circle of friends and my daughter's friends, there are many such issues. I can make a meal for any of them that is doable. Now what I can't do is make a meal that will work for all, but I don't even mind cooking two or three different main dishes.

 

[Hatsjikkiedee]

Yes. I don't have food allergies but intolerances. Currently only egg but they do come and go. Most restaurants are good to work with their customers but... If a person has say a gluten issue, then the other person should not eat gluten and kiss them. That could make them sick.

Hmm..good thing I don't kiss her then .

 

[Booboobear84]

the restaurant industry doesn't care about things like gluten issues. I recall an article in the last 10 years where the restaurant industry said it felt it was a non existent issue.

Even if you ask for gluten free pasta for example, it gets cooked in the same water that the restaurant has used for regular pasta.

And have you had gluten free food? last girl friend declared it wasn't good enough to feed to a dog.

I used to love eating. Now I have to force myself to eat. I lived on hot dogs and corn checks for half of last year because I couldn't make myself eat much more.

My office mate has cilliacs disease (so really gluten intolerant) , and has found lots of restaurants that accommodate. This is in Greater Boston so you mileage may vary.