Ain't that a bitch ! ? !

[SweetErika]

Kali brings up a great point that you did yourself and the woman a disservice. Let's just say she wasn't lying and thought she was being honest...even if YOU don't want a relationship with her, it would be really nice to let her in on the fact that her profile didn't seem to be that accurate to you and you want her to find what she's looking for, and maybe she needs to update it a little bit so this doesn't happen again. How you would do that without seeming like a superficial jerk, I don't know, but I'm sure there are a lot of How To forum regulars who could help you out with the phrasing.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Ain't that a bitch ! ? !

Hey, I'm just the umpire here. I call 'em like I see 'em.

And this guy was out by a country mile. (Almost enough room between him and the tag to drive your SUV through )

Before you hijack this thread and start trolling me like an ignorant asshole, let me explain the further details.

We agreed to meet at the gym and afterwards she wanted to shower and have me pick her up to go to the movies and out to eat. . She had her sister with her at the gym and she didn't want her sister to see me for some apparent reason. Only time we saw one another was when she passed through the halls and she saw me, but she was too shy to say hi and I saw her, but I didn't think it was her since she didnt' match her description or the pictures she had. Apparently I didn't find her or didn't even see her there, or even knew it was her in the hall, so I started my work out. I then got a message on my cell phone that she left with her sister and that she said she saw me in the hall....to my surprise and she said it was her in the hall, to my further surprise.

So I'm driving home and my cell phone rings and she says that she's not feeling well and has a headache. She also said that she didn't want to do anything since she was feeling sick so I got mixed messages. Maybe she didn't like me? But I just told her that she didnt' fit the descritiption she gave me or matched her pictures when I past by her in the hall. I didn't even get a chance to talk to her in person or take her out.....which I would have.

Some people replied to this thread jumping to conclusions,,,,, hope this cleared it up.

 

[TirelessTongue]

So...what exactly did you say to this woman? Did you tell her those things? What was her explanation?

S.

I told her that she didnt' look like the pictures she posted on the site. She told me that everyone agrees with me also and doesn't she doesn't know why. She is a very shy girl and she even mentioned to me that she might be too nervous to even talk to me at the gym. Eventually she felt that I started ignoring her and I didn't like what I saw.......... but she jumped to conclusions and we made up and are still talking. Hopefully I'll get to hang out with her face to face sometime.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Re: Re: Ain't that a bitch ! ? !

Guy, most of the women who have responded here have been far too kind to you. Face it, you got caught thinking with your dick and now you're trying to place the blame on your date.

Grow up or forget about having mature relationships.

I see you have no problem jumping to conclusions and start flaming the orginal poster like its second nature. Read the above posts.

Its not that I'm saying that only women have used dating websites and have decieved men, the same thing happend to a lady friend of mine where a man decieved her and was in my same situation. I'm sure both men and women are guilty of doing the same thing time and time again....... thats life.

 

[sheath]

Flaming? LOL

I find it interesting that you didn't post those pertinent details until AFTER someone said something that you didn't like...actually, until someone called you out for acting like an asshole. THEN you bother with further details. Like I said...interesting.

Take that as a flame if you want. Regardless of what your 'further details' are, my original statement still stands.

I hope the 'flaming' you have found here spurs you to be more understanding and open in the future.

S.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Flaming? LOL

I find it interesting that you didn't post those pertinent details until AFTER someone said something that you didn't like...actually, until someone called you out for acting like an asshole. THEN you bother with further details. Like I said...interesting.

Take that as a flame if you want. Regardless of what your 'further details' are, my original statement still stands.

I hope the 'flaming' you have found here spurs you to be more understanding and open in the future.

S.

Like I said before, and I'll say it again. Read the further details. I posted this thread late at night and it didn't get any responses until today. I'm not on this site as often and post nearly as much as many of the people replying to this thread.

And actually....... the flaming here makes me realize why so many people use the "Ignore" feature !

 

[sheath]

Okay, since you mentioned that, like I expected you to...

You DID have a chance to post further details. I think it was oh, around, say...between 1:30 and 2:00 CST, if my lit time is right, when you posted a follow-up. No further details there.

I mentioned how interesting it was since obviously...ummm...YOU didn't give the whole story in the beginning. And now you are crying foul because supposedly someone else did the same thing to you when it came to the pictures she sent?

I'm done now. You can go ahead and defend all you want, but you've already made your position abundantly clear.

Good luck.

S.

 

[ReadyOne]

Not relevant at this point, but when you said her face was narrower in the picture, it occured to me that the picture might have been "resized" to fit the requirements of the site, just like the avatars have size requirements. Some programs will stretch/shirink one diminsion more than another, resulting is circles turning into ovals.

 

[Latinababe]

I like this response.

Tireless, I don't understand. You think this girl is interesting enough to talk with her for so long, but then you don't even want to sit down and have dinner? Dinner involves talking. The same thing you have been doing on the phone for 3-4 hours a day for a week. So, unless you were just out for a quick fuck, why the hell did you turn down dinner?

It seems to me that you are basing far too much of your choice on looks alone. You get pictures, sure. But how many times have you had a picture taken that isn't a good representation of you? Looked at your driver's license lately?

Frankly, I'm surprised you cared what she looked like anyway. I go into internet friendships with no expectations. The interest builds up along the way. You might find this strange, but I have learned that after talking with someone for so long, with the intensity that you have talked with this woman, that his looks are the last thing on my mind. Like I said before, if you cared for something more than an fuck, you would have at least let her explain...and you would have let her do that over dinner.

YOU are the one who comes out looking bad after all this. Not her. Since this is an advice kind of board, here's mine:

Call her, apologize for acting like a pompous ass, and invite her to dinner at the nicest place you can get reservations. Show up early, be a perfect gentleman, and pay for everything. Then apologize in person and gently ask for an explanation. If you still have a problem with her looks and her personality, which attracted you to her in the first place, isn't enough? Apologize again. Drop her at her door with a friendly kiss on the cheek and walk away. But you can at least make up for being a jerk.

My two cents...

S.

Some woman do have low self esteem about themselves...maybe she didn't want to get rejected, also I used to be one that had low esteem about myself but when I started dating and men thought I had a great personality that is all that matters not looks or size I became more confinate about myself. I dunno just putting in my two cents also.

But I do agree with Sheath she made some good points.

P.S. I am not bashing you...just agreeing on her points of view.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Shit.... Latina, I understand how people don't want to get rejected. Hell, I get rejected all the time and I sure as hell don't like it. When I'm on those dating websites, I believe in honesty and I post very recent pictures. I've never had a complaint about my pictures before, even after meeting in person. I believe in the What you see is what you get policy. I'm no model, and neither is she nor do I expect her to be.

When you post pictures and wording that are skewed from the truth, it ends up leaving a bad impression. Me and that girl are still talking and very much still friends. Unfortunately, I don't see us dating anytime soon since we both have entirely different schedules.

 

[Latinababe]

Shit.... Latina, I understand how people don't want to get rejected. Hell, I get rejected all the time and I sure as hell don't like it. When I'm on those dating websites, I believe in honesty and I post very recent pictures. I've never had a complaint about my pictures before, even after meeting in person. I believe in the What you see is what you get policy. I'm no model, and neither is she nor do I expect her to be.

When you post pictures and wording that are skewed from the truth, it ends up leaving a bad impression. Me and that girl are still talking and very much still friends. Unfortunately, I don't see us dating anytime soon since we both have entirely different schedules.

Very understable hun......and I do understand what U mean.

 

[TirelessTongue]

Very understable hun......and I do understand what U mean.

THANK YOU ! ! ! Finally someone does!! I had a feeling it would be you !

 

[Latinababe]

THANK YOU ! ! ! Finally someone does!! I had a feeling it would be you !

Your welcome!!

 

[KaliGrrl]

I'm glad to hear that you are still speaking to the woman you met online. It seemed to me as if you two had a good phone relationship going, and it would have been a shame for it all to end on such a down note.

Good luck, TT!

 

[shelleb4]

if i had a choice of two photo's of myself to post to a dating agency, im gonna take the good one, every time.

i think with my clit, so go ahead, think with your dick. We are not always the cerebral entities we grandiosely prefer to think we are.

because a lady lies about her age and weight, does not make her a compulsive lier, it makes her average. For you to draw the conclusion that she wont be trustworthy in other areas, well that smacks of being hurt somewhere along the line, by a fat, 29 yr old.

 

[BirdsWife]

When you post (pictures and) wording that are skewed from the truth, it ends up leaving a bad impression.

With what you have written here, please go back and objectively reread your first post on this thread.

To the majority of people it appeared that you canceled your plans with this woman because she "lied" about her appearance. Is it any wonder they got a bad impression of you?

 

[Owlz]

Mini-hijack here to wave to my friend BirdsWife & say 'hello.'

I now return you to 'Ain't that a bitch ! ? !'

 

[TirelessTongue]

With what you have written here, please go back and objectively reread your first post on this thread.

To the majority of people it appeared that you canceled your plans with this woman because she "lied" about her appearance. Is it any wonder they got a bad impression of you?

Yeah, I appologize. I know the whole story wasn't told in the beginning, I was in a hurry.

Me and that girl are still talking.... Now If I can only delete this thread.

 

[midwestyankee]

Yeah, I appologize. I know the whole story wasn't told in the beginning, I was in a hurry.

Me and that girl are still talking.... Now If I can only delete this thread.

Yet another lesson: this thread is now part of the How To Forum history. You cannot delete a thread nor can you completely delete a post.

 

[BirdsWife]

Yeah, I appologize. I know the whole story wasn't told in the beginning, I was in a hurry.

Me and that girl are still talking.... Now If I can only delete this thread.

Sorry to tell you that you are too late to hit the delete key now, so why don't you bend over and accept your punishment like a good boy?

 

[TirelessTongue]

Sorry to tell you that you are too late to hit the delete key now, so why don't you bend over and accept your punishment like a good boy?

Sounds like fun

 

[TirelessTongue]

Yet another lesson: this thread is now part of the How To Forum history. You cannot delete a thread nor can you completely delete a post.

Yeah, yeah....... Whatever ! ! !