AIDS has made me not want to date so much anymore.

[madmanmike]

i just moved to baton rouge, LA. baton rouge has just been anounced as the #2 city in the US in new aids cases. it wasnt very far from being numero uno. now i dont go sleeping withanything witha hole. im pretty damn selective. but with BR being #2 im more worried about even kissing. i know its not easy to get aids that way but it can still happen. maybe im just being phobic but i dont know. does anyone else have this problem.

most people get offended if you ask them to get std tested before sex. i know i would. maybe i'll stick with pumping the pope for a while i guess.

 

[glamorilla]

i dont see why asking someone to take an hiv test is wrong. if they're offended its a sure sign they lack respect for your health.

your best bet is to play as safe as you can, not give in to fear and try and develop a few ongoing fuck buddies.

 

[madmanmike]

i dont see why asking someone to take an hiv test is wrong. if they're offended its a sure sign they lack respect for your health.

i understand that but asking someone for a negative blood test for a date is kinda bad. i know it sounds stupid but once you have aids your fucked. i dont mean to sound paranoid although im sure do it just feels awkward. i went from a town of less than 5000 to a town of over a million. and there are several thousand new aids cases in baton rouge a year. that is one scary ass prospect. and somehow i doubt having several fuck buddies would quelch my fears.

 

[shy slave]

i dont see why asking someone to take an hiv test is wrong. if they're offended its a sure sign they lack respect for your health.

your best bet is to play as safe as you can, not give in to fear and try and develop a few ongoing fuck buddies.

Not giving in to your fear sounds like a good plan.

On the downside of asking about blood tests, the first fuck after that test could be the one that gives you an STD.

Condoms are one option or playing until you find someone you want to be long-term with, then both get tested.

Wish you both luck and joy whatever you do

 

[madmanmike]

does anyone else want to chime in?

i know its a downer topic but i need some advice damnit. thanks. first person to make me feel better gets a full massage with sacred indian oils and gets their pussy eaten or dick sucked for an hour. (that last part isnt a joke either)

 

[John Doe]

You could move.

 

[madmanmike]

but i kust moved here and signed a lease. any other ideas. or is anyone from BR?

 

[SweetErika]

Here's a thought...confront your fear by finding out everything you can about HIV/AIDS and its transmission. Do research and go talk to HIV educators in your area. I bet if you find answers to all of your questions (e.g. how many people have contracted HIV by kissing alone?), your fear level will diminish significantly. Yes, it's a bad disease, it's spreading, and it's scary, but if you take reasonable precautions, what are your chances of getting it, and even if you did contract the virus, you'd deal with it and probably live in good health for a very long time. A little fear is good because it causes you to protect yourself and others, but taking it to extremes is like locking yourself in a steel box.

The way I see it, we all have two choices when it comes to life in general:
1) Not live because we're consumed by fear about what MIGHT happen.
2) Confront our fears, do our best to stay safe, and live a rich and satisfying life.

Good luck!

 

[Lightning]

Digging Out Info from My Cobwebbed Brain...

i just moved to baton rouge, LA. baton rouge has just been anounced as the #2 city in the US in new aids cases. it wasnt very far from being numero uno. now i dont go sleeping withanything witha hole. im pretty damn selective. but with BR being #2 im more worried about even kissing. i know its not easy to get aids that way but it can still happen. maybe im just being phobic but i dont know. does anyone else have this problem.

most people get offended if you ask them to get std tested before sex. i know i would. maybe i'll stick with pumping the pope for a while i guess.

If memory serves, along the lines of SweetErika's suggestion of educating yourself, I do believe it can take in excess of 2 gallons of human saliva to run the same risk as transmitting HIV via a drop of blood. Needless to say, there's a risk, but much smaller when it's in the form of kissing. Granted, my information is way out of date, so continue to investigate on your own.

I agree with SweetErika though. Confront your fears by learning what you can, and then take whatever precautions you feel are necessary to maintain the health that you desire. It's like working out, or eating right. There are pros & cons, and you need to find what you're willing to "chance".

Good luck, and know that you're not the only one out there with similar worries or concerns. I'm sure you'll find someone(s) that share your views, and then you won't feel so distanced from everyone else.

Cheers!

 

[SweetErika]

Re: Digging Out Info from My Cobwebbed Brain...

If memory serves, along the lines of SweetErika's suggestion of educating yourself, I do believe it can take in excess of 2 gallons of human saliva to run the same risk as transmitting HIV via a drop of blood. Needless to say, there's a risk, but much smaller when it's in the form of kissing. Granted, my information is way out of date, so continue to investigate on your own.

I heard something like this too, so in the spirit of knowledge, I did a little investigating. According to the CDC, saliva, sweat, and tears have NEVER been found to be the transmission vehicle of HIV: Here's a great article on transmission and safety from the CDC

In terms of oral sex, only 30% of HIV positive semen samples and 20% of vaginal fluid samples contained the virus according to this article: http://www.thebody.com/oralsex.html

 

[Layne]

I am........................................

from Baton Rouge as well. Does that make you feel any better?

Layne