Chicklet
plays well with self
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Actually this is sort of a rave posting. But also some weird thoughts on stuff.
I've been talking to people via collarme.com for the last few months, trying to make connections with people as friends and see if anyone pops out as a potential romantic interest. Last week I got a message from this guy, and it really jumped out at me. Maybe it was just the right time of month and I was in the right receptive state of mind, but I responded, and we ended up taking it straight to yahoo and actually had a really good conversation.
When I meet people online that I think I might like, I try to get an in-person meeting ASAP. I don't want to find out two months down the line that I'm not attracted to the person IRL, even though I liked them through webcam and phone. So I drove up to Seattle this weekend to have brunch with him.
Luckily I have friends in Seattle, so it's not a big pressure deal to drive up just for a casual meeting. However, this guy was AWSOME. My first meetings with people always involve other people... I prefer to meet someone with me to meet someone offline. 1) I don't like to meet them alone, even in a public place. 2) even if my instincts don't pop something bad up about them, it doesn't mean they won't raise the suspicions of someone else. A second opinion is great. Anyways, so we hit it off, and he ended up hanging out with me and my friend all day Sunday. We played some board games - how better to get to know someone than by how good a loser they are?
- and even teamed up for pictionary (we won). We ended up going to Pan's Labyrinth, and the day was a great success!
The next day, he and I spent some time alone together, and had a fun scene in his room.
It's so funny, I think... we didn't have sex, but we did some D/s and some bondage, and it was rather great. The funny thing is that we both know what we want from a relationship in the end, and our urge to get that far is really strong. However, and he and I had this discussion, it's important to go through all the normal steps of dating and having the casual relationship we both want before we end up in bed together. And that's *if* we end up in bed together. So far so good, right, but we want to have a conventional relationship outside of a D/s relationship.
So, rant here.
It's so hard to not pressure myself, lol. Like, I really want this to work. And my fantasies make it seem almost perfect, right. Physical attraction, he's smart and witty and just the kind of friend I'd like to have, and he feels the same way about me. But, I don't want to pressure myself into jumping too far ahead too fast. On the one hand, though, if it happens it happens, right?
So we're trying to date conventionally and live 3 hrs apart! I'm going to go up there again this weekend (our schedules are enough of a mismatch that it's a lot more sensible for me to go up there, especially since my best friend is up there and can entertain me while he's working)
anyways. i'm excited. and i wanted to share. thanks for reading
I've been talking to people via collarme.com for the last few months, trying to make connections with people as friends and see if anyone pops out as a potential romantic interest. Last week I got a message from this guy, and it really jumped out at me. Maybe it was just the right time of month and I was in the right receptive state of mind, but I responded, and we ended up taking it straight to yahoo and actually had a really good conversation.
When I meet people online that I think I might like, I try to get an in-person meeting ASAP. I don't want to find out two months down the line that I'm not attracted to the person IRL, even though I liked them through webcam and phone. So I drove up to Seattle this weekend to have brunch with him.
Luckily I have friends in Seattle, so it's not a big pressure deal to drive up just for a casual meeting. However, this guy was AWSOME. My first meetings with people always involve other people... I prefer to meet someone with me to meet someone offline. 1) I don't like to meet them alone, even in a public place. 2) even if my instincts don't pop something bad up about them, it doesn't mean they won't raise the suspicions of someone else. A second opinion is great. Anyways, so we hit it off, and he ended up hanging out with me and my friend all day Sunday. We played some board games - how better to get to know someone than by how good a loser they are?
- and even teamed up for pictionary (we won). We ended up going to Pan's Labyrinth, and the day was a great success!The next day, he and I spent some time alone together, and had a fun scene in his room.
It's so funny, I think... we didn't have sex, but we did some D/s and some bondage, and it was rather great. The funny thing is that we both know what we want from a relationship in the end, and our urge to get that far is really strong. However, and he and I had this discussion, it's important to go through all the normal steps of dating and having the casual relationship we both want before we end up in bed together. And that's *if* we end up in bed together. So far so good, right, but we want to have a conventional relationship outside of a D/s relationship.
So, rant here.
It's so hard to not pressure myself, lol. Like, I really want this to work. And my fantasies make it seem almost perfect, right. Physical attraction, he's smart and witty and just the kind of friend I'd like to have, and he feels the same way about me. But, I don't want to pressure myself into jumping too far ahead too fast. On the one hand, though, if it happens it happens, right?
So we're trying to date conventionally and live 3 hrs apart! I'm going to go up there again this weekend (our schedules are enough of a mismatch that it's a lot more sensible for me to go up there, especially since my best friend is up there and can entertain me while he's working)
anyways. i'm excited. and i wanted to share. thanks for reading
