Age

[Croctden]

Has anyone been a relationship where the sub was much older (say 10 years) than the top? Was it odd?

Oh and AnelizeDarkEyes, I searched the library and found nothing so if this has been done just bump it and call me a moron.

 

[lark sparrow]

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=93147

But almost all of it has been done before, and a new conversation can be a good thing.

P.S. my answer is still the same.

I am involved with a younger Domme. I would have probably had much the same opinion before this, and still do to a certain degree. 15 years jr. would be a stretch for me, but I think there are probably a few individuals out there who could pull it off, though this would be a rare breed.

When I was 22, I began a 5 year relationship with a woman who was 16 years my senior. I have done it both ways, but generally tend towards people the same approximate age or older by about 5 years. Older women have always held some attraction for me.

My current Domme is 27, I am 34. She has the intelligence, sharp dominant instinct, empathy, strength of character, etc. that I need to surrender, despite being 7 years my jr. Within these age gaps there are probably going to be certain differences in life experience, but any relationship between individuals will have it's differences, either shared and celebrated, or causing a rift.

We all know examples of age and maturity having no parallel and being universes apart - it's really an individual measure.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Has anyone been a relationship where the sub was much older (say 10 years) than the top? Was it odd?

Oh and AnelizeDarkEyes, I searched the library and found nothing so if this has been done just bump it and call me a moron.

Call you a moron? as if, LOL. How about I just simply answer your question? My Dom is several years my junior (more than ten, less than 15), and I don't find it odd in the least. We simply have a relationship, like any other....we have certain things in common--movies, music, books; but more importantly, a general attitude about life and a straight up honest way of dealing with things.

How old He is, how old I am...*shrugs*, doesn't really matter much in the great scheme of things.

~anelize

 

[bunny bondage]

my last three "play partners" have all been at least ten years older than me. this odd propencity toward older men slightly disturbs my dad, but other than that, there's nothing peculiar about the relationships. it's just what feels natural for me. symptom of bizarre psycological problems? maybe, but i'm too relaxed to think about it.

 

[SilverHyperion]

My last two partners have been older than I am, the one I most recently met by over ten years. It doesn't bother me at all, I actually like it a lot. Age is less important than intent for me, so as long as they are good people that's what matters .

 

[Justina123]

I had one steady "play partner" Dom for a while (about 6 months) who was 27 and I was 45. I found it quite a turn on that this sexy young man enjoyed his time with me, and though we are no longer "dating", we are still friends. I do not think it would have worked for anything more serious or long term; but that was more a function of our personalities than our ages.

-justina

 

[Ebonyfire]

Has anyone been a relationship where the sub was much older (say 10 years) than the top? Was it odd?

Oh and AnelizeDarkEyes, I searched the library and found nothing so if this has been done just bump it and call me a moron.

I am older than all of my subs. I like it that way. The youngest is 33. I am 53.

BTW, I am not a top. I am a Domme.

 

[His Flower]

My sir is 7-8 years older than me. I find nothing wrong with it, and furthermore, I love the intelligence and insight that I guess age can bring.

His Flower

 

[SexyChele]

Has anyone been a relationship where the sub was much older (say 10 years) than the top? Was it odd?

Oh and AnelizeDarkEyes, I searched the library and found nothing so if this has been done just bump it and call me a moron.

Last year I attempted a relationship with a Dominant who was 8 years younger than me. It just didn't work for me. There were too many differences in things outside the bedroom that I needed and wanted. He was a nice guy and I sincerely hope he found the sub of his dreams. But my time with him taught me that I need that man who is the same age or older, for some reason. I guess I buy into society's ideal.

 

[Netzach]

All my sub guys have been older than me. My fiance by a little over a year, the others by at least 15 years.

It worked beautifully, I like the odd contrast. They had things to teach me about the way the world works, good advice on what to do in a pickle, I had things to teach them about not being so rigid and stuck and middle aged-angstful, and how to be more emotionally present.

Sub girls I've played with have been varied, 30's and early 40's for the most part, though recently I'm playing with some 21-25 yo's.

They remind me how very different it is to be 24 vs. 21. and 29 vs. 24 or 21!!!! A person does a lot of development in these 10 years.

 

[Ebonyfire]

They remind me how very different it is to be 24 vs. 21. and 29 vs. 24 or 21!!!! A person does a lot of development in these 10 years.

For that reason I do not take subs who are in their 20s. It is just too much like child molestation. The young men still have titty marks on their mouths.

 

[Netzach]

LOL...

well, I'm 29, so for now I can rule the playground sandbox.

I only hope to be turning out fine submissive young 25-30something men when I hit my 40's and 50's!

I think giving talented pleasers back to womankind is a kind of social service, and something I aspire to!

That's me. The junior Mother Teresa of perversion.

 

[Ebonyfire]

LOL...

well, I'm 29, so for now I can rule the playground sandbox.

I only hope to be turning out fine submissive young 25-30something men when I hit my 40's and 50's!

I think giving talented pleasers back to womankind is a kind of social service, and something I aspire to!

That's me. The junior Mother Teresa of perversion.

I fact, when a 18 - 25 year old contacts Me, I advise them to start with a Domme in her late 20s. They get that older woman /Domme vibe and I do not have to be a surrogate Mother/Domme.

 

[Ebonyfire]

my last three "play partners" have all been at least ten years older than me. this odd propencity toward older men slightly disturbs my dad, but other than that, there's nothing peculiar about the relationships. it's just what feels natural for me. symptom of bizarre psycological problems? maybe, but i'm too relaxed to think about it.

Women seem to be able to handle older men.

When I was 25, my lover was 55. My mother had no reason to be upset cause my Step Dad was 19 years older than her.

 

[Etoile]

I don't know why, but I also prefer older partners. I wasn't raised with a whole lot of skills to cope in the Big World, so my lovers have also been my mentors. (My girlfriend - 12 years older - has helped me learn living skills, and my Daddy - 20 years older - has helped me grow emotionally.) It was kind of amusing when I was 20 and Daddy was 40 because I was exactly half Daddy's age! "Oh, yeah, I'm dating somebody twice as old as I am...."

 

[catalina_francisco]

In former relationships I have usually dated men my own age or older, even double the age. This time Master is 9 years younger than me and it is I who is into Marilyn Manson, while he tends to be more conservative in some things. The mix works as he is mature in all ways, experienced, intelligent, and we share a love of politics, cultures, history, and a million other things, most importantly our lifestyle choices, ethics, and love. Think it is impossible to generalise.

Catalina

 

[Ebonyfire]

Generalization or not

Age does matter. And I know you young folks do not believe Me, but when it comes to certain things, like breeding, age does matter.

 

[His Flower]

Re: Generalization or not

Age does matter. And I know you young folks do not believe Me, but when it comes to certain things, like breeding, age does matter.

I certainty agree with you Eb. I just turned 21 a couple of days ago (yay for me), but besides that point, age does matter. And for me, it's not because of the sex, but more about the personal development. When I was 17, I had some 40 year old man hitting on me. Sorry, that much of an age difference doesn't do anything for me personally. We're just both at two different stages of our life. I think for me, 10 years my senior would definetely be my limit. But I don't think I need to worry since Sir is only about 7 1/2 years older.

His Flower

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Generalization or not

I certainty agree with you Eb. I just turned 21 a couple of days ago (yay for me), but besides that point, age does matter. And for me, it's not because of the sex, but more about the personal development. When I was 17, I had some 40 year old man hitting on me. Sorry, that much of an age difference doesn't do anything for me personally. We're just both at two different stages of our life. I think for me, 10 years my senior would definetely be my limit. But I don't think I need to worry since Sir is only about 7 1/2 years older.

His Flower

If a 40 year old man had hit on my daughter at 17, he would be shitting his nuts out his ass. And that's the truth!

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

A thought....


Somehow it seems more socially acceptable for a 40 year old woman to be with a man in his late 20s than it is for a 40 year man to be with a woman in her late 20s.

Interesting, no?

~anelize

 

[Ebonyfire]

A thought....


Somehow it seems more socially acceptable for a 40 year old woman to be with a man in his late 20s than it is for a 40 year man to be with a woman in her late 20s.

Interesting, no?

~anelize

Oh no, I think it is vice versa. A woman is looked down upon.

 

[MissTaken]

My girl is nine years older than I am.

I am not sure that the age has any relevance at all between us. It is what it is.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Oh no, I think it is vice versa. A woman is looked down upon.

I was thinking of the whole "dirty old man" theory. I guess I've never felt any flack about it, personally. It's always seemed to me the other way.....but when I think about it....You do have a point.

The older man with the young trophy wife and so forth....

 

[His Flower]

A thought....


Somehow it seems more socially acceptable for a 40 year old woman to be with a man in his late 20s than it is for a 40 year man to be with a woman in her late 20s.

Interesting, no?

~anelize

I don't know. I find that rather sort of disgusting as well.

His Flower

 

[Desdemona]

Master is 10 years younger than me. It isn't at all weird.