Age worries

mguk03

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Im a young Dom, and for the last month or so have been talking to a slave who is 8 years older then me. She has never been with anyone younger then herself before. I was just woundering wheather any Slaves/Subs on here have been controlled by younger Doms before and was it ever a problem? thx
 
my Master is 8 years younger than me and we have no problems where that is concerned. It doesnt really factor in, unless he wants to tease me about being an old woman
 
My own Master is 9 years younger than I, and we are also married (51/2 yearsso far). Dominance is not about age, but more so the ability to feel and be dominated by a particular person because of who they are, not when they were born.:rose:

Catalina:catroar:
 
I'm afraid my experiences are a little skewed... I'm only 26 so if I go much younger than myself we're talking about people who usually haven't had very much experience and probably aren't going to interest me in my daily life anyways.

My current guy is 2 years younger than I am, which is the youngest I've gone so far. I know it's not 8, but it seems like a considerable difference merely because I have never dated someone so much younger than I am.

It's not a problem with me, btw ;)
 
It isn't the physical age that comes in to play so much as the mental one. You can't put a limit on what age bracket the person you make the connection with will fall in to. Personally I am more comfortable with someone close to my own age be it a little older or a little younger. I have dated someone eight years younger than me. Had the timing been right, we could have easliy and happily spent our lives together. There has to be a compatibility. Just as in dating in the vanilla world, when it comes to adults age really isn't that much of an issue. It is only personal preference. I would not be concerned about the age difference. If she was having a problem with it, you would have picked up on it.
 
I am 28 and Master is 24. We have been together for over a year and moved in together a couple of months ago. It has all gone very well for us.

People mature at different rates whether male or female. I have met both men and women that I have considered to be immature. When I met Master he seemed very mature for his age but my friends called him my 'tamagotchi boytoy' because I met him online (also because they don't know about our M/s dynamic.) Now my friends accept him happily rather than treating him differently because he's a bit younger.

There are people on these boards of all ages and some of them seem like teenagers until they make a post that reveals their age and it surprises me. It also works vice-versa in that I am impressed by someone's post, check their profile and see they are younger than I thought (Marquis being a case in point when I first started posting.)

Bottom line is, if I am attracted to a man, if I can love, trust and respect him as a person and if he gives me that submissive thrill every time he looks deep into my eyes, I can happily date him, age is a irrelevance.

I hope that this slave sees past your age. If you've been taking a month and she knows how old you are it's a safe bet that she doesn't care.

Have fun. :rose:
 
Ages are just numbers.

As long as you want to make it work and it does work, that is all that matters.

(No, I haven't been with someone younger than me. Considering my age that would almost be practically impossible. But my Other has 40 years on me and its entirelly what you make of it.)
 
i couldn't be with someone younger than me. i'm 32 and generally get along best with people at least 10 yrs older than me. In my vanilla relationships, i never dated anyone younger or the same age, so a D/s relationship is no different for me. i prefer significantly older.
 
I've never been with a man younger than myself... not a conscious effort on my part, just seems to happen that way. I think though that age doesn't play a factor in a D/s relationship as long as the balance of power is there and both are happy. Now I do believe I would find it EXTREMELY hard to be topped by someone who is just barely allowed to vote or drink, but that's just my personal opinion.

~cc~
 
My first Dom was very young, 20 or so I think and I didnt mind at all. We have split, but age wasnt the reason why. My curent Master is more than 40 and I am 29, must admit I like this way much more tho, I always loved older experienced men instead of men of my age or younger.

I prefer older men yes, but as Catalina said it has nuthin to do with BDSM, its more about what you like etc etc. I like older men, 40-50 old men are just yummy for me. The oldest one I was with was 56 and I didnt mind at all. Relationships are not about the age, its about how two people mesh etc.
 
Im a young Dom, and for the last month or so have been talking to a slave who is 8 years older then me. She has never been with anyone younger then herself before. I was just woundering wheather any Slaves/Subs on here have been controlled by younger Doms before and was it ever a problem? thx


My last Mistress was 7 years older than I am and that didn't work out. I've had more success with Younger Doms, so from now on that'll be my preference!:)
 
I dated someone 6 years older than me for a long time. We had a fantastic relationship and I don't think our age difference had much of an effect on the D/s dynamic. What it did effect was where we were in our relative lives at the time and what we were looking to get out of a relationship.
 
Only issue I have with a significantly older Dom (and I prefer 40-55 yr old men) is the public's reaction.

Massive mean stars and literally some people can't stop staring. This makes he and I both equally uncomfortable. I wish it wasn't like that, but it is.
 
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I am 34 and my slave is 57.

However no one has as much to say about it because I'm the girl. Shitty double standard, really, don't know why your gig wouldn't work.
 
Only issue I have with a significantly older Dom (and I prefer 40-55 yr old men) is the public's reaction.

Massive mean stars and literally some people can't stop staring. This makes he and I both equally uncomfortable. I wish it wasn't like that, but it is.


Stare back!
 
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