Age-ism and the Effects of Six Years on a Mexican Penis.

[Joe Wordsworth]

So, after some months of throwing myself into my work, certain romantic options are coming up that are certainly outside of convention for me. Most notably being this foxy cute blonde that's been chatting me up for a week. Smart, charming, funny, definitely hot... but for the two problems, I think I might take some time to take some of her time.

She's (1) engaged and (2) six years my junior.

The former is definitely a "hmmm", the latter is more of a problem. I'm thinking its a poor idea, but then again--I don't have any solid reasons for that.

 

[R. Richard]

She's (1) engaged and (2) six years my junior.

In general, the only limits are those we put on ourselves. However, 1) if a babe will play around on her fiance, she will play around on you; 2) 16 will get you 20.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

In general, the only limits are those we put on ourselves. However, 1) if a babe will play around on her fiance, she will play around on you; 2) 16 will get you 20.

Joe is 26 according to his profile. Six years younger is 20, which is legal pretty much everywhere (unless you want to drink in the USA, which is just weird if you ask me).

And I'm not into breaking up other people's relationships, so I can't condone it on account of #1.

 

[Liar]

The former is definitely a "hmmm", the latter is more of a problem.

I'd be thinking the other way round, but that's me.

 

[JamesSD]

Joe is 26 according to his profile. Six years younger is 20, which is legal pretty much everywhere (unless you want to drink in the USA, which is just weird if you ask me).

And I'm not into breaking up other people's relationships, so I can't condone it on account of #1.

So she got engaged at 19 or 20, and probably has been dating the guy since high school. Probably her first serious boyfriend, possibly her only, same with lover.

I feel your instinct to stay away is a good one. It's quite likely that she's simply just a flirt. She's never really been "on the market" (high school doesn't really count, it's a beast in and of itself), and likely is just testing the waters to see what's out there.

So either 1) She's a tease (unintentional or not) or 2) She's seriously looking for some action on the side, but wants to keep her fiance or 3) She's looking for an excuse to end her engagement, and possibly to someone else to jump to in order to avoid being single, or most likely 4) she's not really sure what she wants and is just having fun.

I'm unclear if she's a co-worker. If so, definitely stay away as long as she works there. "Guy who hooked up with the 20 year old engaged chick" is not the guy anyone wants to be. If she's in your circle of friends, again, reason to stay away.

I dunno, if it was me I'd keep bringing up the fiancee to see what she says about him. But I wouldn't touch her unless she ended the engagement separately of anything I did.

 

[English Lady]

So, after some months of throwing myself into my work, certain romantic options are coming up that are certainly outside of convention for me. Most notably being this foxy cute blonde that's been chatting me up for a week. Smart, charming, funny, definitely hot... but for the two problems, I think I might take some time to take some of her time.

She's (1) engaged and (2) six years my junior.

The former is definitely a "hmmm", the latter is more of a problem. I'm thinking its a poor idea, but then again--I don't have any solid reasons for that.

Now I'm going to advice you to do something that is probably completely not your usual course of action - listen to that conscience.

You think it's a bad idea, you probably feel it's a bad idea -I'm suggesting therefore that it *is* a bad idea.

As James has just outlined above, there's seeral different reasons for her behaviour -all of them end up dropping you in the shit if you actually depart on this here relationship.

Also, if you feel the 6 year gap is a problem then it probably is - 6 years is not a big gap by any means, but if it seems like a problem before you even start then yeah, I think it probably will be a problem.

I find when someone asks for advice they often already know the answer themselves, they just want someone to back them up on their decision. It's not bad to go with your gut feeling here, I would say don't touch this with a 10 foot barge pole (who ownsa barge pole anyway?) it's just asking for trouble.

 

[TE999]

So, after some months of throwing myself into my work, certain romantic options are coming up that are certainly outside of convention for me. Most notably being this foxy cute blonde that's been chatting me up for a week. Smart, charming, funny, definitely hot... but for the two problems, I think I might take some time to take some of her time.

She's (1) engaged and (2) six years my junior.

The former is definitely a "hmmm", the latter is more of a problem. I'm thinking its a poor idea, but then again--I don't have any solid reasons for that.

To quote Monty Python, 'Run away, run away'.

This little lady sounds like trouble to me.

She may be trying to make her fiancee' jealous, or some shit like that.

Besides there's that age difference, not chronologically, but intellectually.

Most 20 year olds are like ones that were 16 back a few years ago.

What the hell do you talk about once you get your breath back?

My take on it is tell her to get lost.

 

[S-Des]

I would say don't touch this with a 10 foot barge pole

Damn, Joe really is unique...

I agree with TE999. It's dangerous to be messing with someone's fiancee. He might be the kind to hold a grudge. Since you're a big guy, he also might not bother with the idea of a fair fight. If she's willing to cheat on him, she's not worth your time. C'mon Joe, you're a logician.