After the Discipline is done

[quietwillow]

Dom/mes how do You respond after Your sub does something wrong and You have to discipline them?

subs, what punishment most benefited you and how does your Dom let You know the punishment is done?

My Master will tell me after a punishment and I am very remorseful that the deed is forgotten. He never brings that up again to me. I have learned to trust in His lessons and not be afraid to be open with Him because afterwards I know He will forget it.

 

[Ricckk]

Dom/mes how do You respond after Your sub does something wrong and You have to discipline them?

I let her know that a "deed" has been addressed, not her as a person. And that I may have disappointment or even anger occasioned by the deed, it has not affected the way I feel about her as a person or my love for her.

 

[bunny bondage]

i'm always trying to see how much i can get away with, pushing Him to determine His limits for me. i find that a punishment which is REALLY painful and pushes my pain barriers to be most effective. once i learn something that way, i never forget. as for letting me know when the punishment is over, it's usually very sweet. He'll stroke my hair and ask if i'm ok, hold me and repeat the lesson. the most usual one is "i've told you that you have to be quiet". i'm very noisy and find it difficult to withhold my screams and moans, and since He lives in an apartment with thin walls, this isn't very conducive to a friendly neighboorhood situation.

 

[Cirrus]

Same thing here...once I've been disciplined it's understood done and dealt with, never to be mentioned again. I actually like that. Most of the 'nilla relationships I've been in, when there's been a problem and I'm the "offender", it drags on and on and never seems to be totally forgotten. I'd rather deal with it, pay for it, and move on.

My ex Dom was very sweet, even when I was being disciplined. He helped me understand that it was for my own good...my usual infraction was nail biting. He hated it. He called it unattrative, unhygenic, and immature. And it is. If he'd catch me nibbling there was hell to pay.

 

[bunny bondage]

i feel you, cirrus. i'm currently being broken of the same habit. i never foresaw a riding crop being used on the backs of my hands....ow

 

[SensitiveSuccubus]

May I make a point?

The word discipline gets thrown around a lot, primarily to mean the punishment itself. It isn't. Discipline is the goal of punishment. Indiscretions are corrected, training is instilled, discipline (following the rules and principles) is gained.
Punishment by itself yields only anger and disassociation. Punishment without correction is useless.

Ok, lesson over. BTW I wasn't chastizing anyone in particular for word usage. Discussion in this thread of punishment and then correction afterward is accurate , I'm just very exacting. Very exacting.

 

[Ebonyfire]

May I make a point?

The word discipline gets thrown around a lot, primarily to mean the punishment itself. It isn't. Discipline is the goal of punishment. Indiscretions are corrected, training is instilled, discipline (following the rules and principles) is gained.
Punishment by itself yields only anger and disassociation. Punishment without correction is useless.

Ok, lesson over. BTW I wasn't chastizing anyone in particular for word usage. Discussion in this thread of punishment and then correction afterward is accurate , I'm just very exacting. Very exacting.

This subject is another one that had several threads written about it. Not all of the posters here need or desire a "lesson" on the semantics of punishment. Everyone has an opinion.

Of course you are certainly welcome to add yours to the mix, and I am sure many here will take note of it. But punishment is in the eye of the user.

Ebony

 

[SensitiveSuccubus]

I simply wouldn't trade the word discipline for punishment and vice versa. It's dangerous. But you're right, enough ink has been spilled elsewhere on the topic.

More to the point, Cirrus has a good point about lingering. In our normal relationships, unhappy thoughts fester, questions of trust arise and people tend to sulk.

After punishment in a Dom/sub relationship, a reapplication of training and an understanding of the transgressions (as well as ways to avoid them) eliminate the conflict. With the little bump smoothed out, they are free to continue with their relationship.

Pain is usually the driving force in punishment, and very effective, particularly when the punishment fits the crime (hand-rapping for nail biting), but what about fatigue? Humiliation?

 

[Ebonyfire]

I simply wouldn't trade the word discipline for punishment and vice versa. It's dangerous.

Yep, you will get no argument from me there! Punishment and discipline is used interchangably to a bad result!

I have always wondered why there is so much energy on punishment anyway. Punishment is negative.

Eb