After my Mom's passing

[pink]

My sister is the executor of Mom's estate. I've been going over there lately and picking up things that are mine or that Mom wanted me to have. I'm getting all kinds of things that I made when I was little. I even got an old newspaper clipping that had 25 Years Ago Today I was born. Mom kept it since I was 25 and I'm 49 now.


Being in the house is weird.


Today, I picked out a ring to keep, that was Mom's. She loved jewelry.


There is some tension in the family. My sister can be a bitch, easily. She has made some of the family mad. She yelled at me today for asking what was in a box. Open it yourself, she said. One of these day, I'll just bust and let her have it.


I have healed a lot since last month. I can talk about her now without crying.



I hope you all are doing well.

 

[GimpyIntellect]

I don't like your sister one bit.

Does she post here? I'd like to have a word with her.

 

[pink]

I don't like your sister one bit.

Does she post here? I'd like to have a word with her.

I don't like my sister either but she's my sister.


If she posted here, she'd bitch at everyone. Have at her.

 

[pete]

nice to hear you're healing so well from her loss, pink

it might not be perfect, there will probably be some days when you miss her so much it brings you to your knees. that's just a symptom of how much you loved her

 

[thør]

My sister is the executor of Mom's estate.

...............

I hope you all are doing well.

When my MIL passed away, my wife's sis was executor. Turns out sis got all the jewelry that mom wanted her to have and the few things that wife was supposed to get were "never found".

You can choose your friends, but not your family.

 

[Hard_Rom]

By law executors can claim 8% of assets too. Above and beyond what a will may entitle them to as a family member.

 

[pink]

nice to hear you're healing so well from her loss, pink

it might not be perfect, there will probably be some days when you miss her so much it brings you to your knees. that's just a symptom of how much you loved her

I loved her very much. She wasn't a very lovey touchy person though so she always took my cheek kisses kinda weird.


I just hate how she got sick. She looked so fragile, it broke my heart. I can't get her image out of my head, laying in the bed with the ventilator in her mouth. Her face looked so.......her cheeks were sunk in.

Anyway, thanks pete. Sorry to be such a downer.

 

[pensivepoet]

I went through that same mess last June.
I haven't heard from any of them
since.
Families ain't what they used to be.

 

[pink]

When my MIL passed away, my wife's sis was executor. Turns out sis got all the jewelry that mom wanted her to have and the few things that wife was supposed to get were "never found".

You can choose your friends, but not your family.

Sometimes it not what she says but how she says it. She is constantly getting little digs in. I don't know why she tries to make me feel stupid or like shit.

I know she's my sister and I shouldn't be saying this but....my mom's jewelry....there are rings missing. I got a diamond ring today but the ring my Mom promised me is missing. I can think of 3 or 4 rings that aren't there with the rest of the jewelry. I don't know.......

 

[pink]

By law executors can claim 8% of assets too. Above and beyond what a will may entitle them to as a family member.

I have no idea about this. No clue.

Mom's biggest asset is her house. When it is sold it goes 5 ways.

 

[pink]

I went through that same mess last June.
I haven't heard from any of them
since.
Families ain't what they used to be.

Our family is healing since Mom's death but since my sister's bitchfest, I don't know.


My brother and sister-in-law used to dislike me. I had made some bad decisions in the past and they never forgot it.


When Mom got sick, my sister-in-law came to me and said it was time for this family to heal. We've been texting ever since.

 

[Bert Notorius]

i haven't spoken to my brother
since my father died.
estate settlement
brings out the ass
in people.

my sister scooped all the family photos
thank god.

 

[Lancecastor]

I don't like my sister either but she's my sister.


If she posted here, she'd bitch at everyone. Have at her.

Disgustipated is your sister...?!

Makes sense.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Spilling my guts about Family.

We all see the other side of our families at times like these.
My grandparents on mom's side hated my dad and always swore he'd never get anything.
After grandpa passed then mom's mother my parents ended up moving into their nice home and getting everything. They had the will changed on grandma's death bed.
When my parents died my younger brother was executor. He was never there for the grandparents. I wasn't even allowed on the property yet my wife and I cleaned up the yard and mowed before being told to get off.

At least when my aunt died our adopted five year old got everything. I was executor and made sure all money went into a trust until he was 21.

When my wife and I die we left everything to the three natural children. The adopted boy has ripped us off for tens of thousands already. Our thanks for taking him from a fucked up home with our middle son and idiot wife.

Even the home we recently bought to move to is not ours. It belongs to our oldest son and wife with instructions to split three ways.
No government taxes to suck out of the estate.

So when we sell this home my wife and I will be homeless for the first time in our lives.

We choose our friends while families screw each other for a dollar.

 

[pink]

i haven't spoken to my brother
since my father died.
estate settlement
brings out the ass
in people.

my sister scooped all the family photos
thank god.

I got some photos today, they are wonderful. Man, Jennifer was adorable when she 1.


I hope we all can get through this estate thing and be ok. My sister won't let me or anyone help her clean out Mom's house. It's just strange. I guess her controlling side is coming out.

 

[pink]

We all see the other side of our families at times like these.
My grandparents on mom's side hated my dad and always swore he'd never get anything.
After grandpa passed then mom's mother my parents ended up moving into their nice home and getting everything. They had the will changed on grandma's death bed.
When my parents died my younger brother was executor. He was never there for the grandparents. I wasn't even allowed on the property yet my wife and I cleaned up the yard and mowed before being told to get off.

At least when my aunt died our adopted five year old got everything. I was executor and made sure all money went into a trust until he was 21.

When my wife and I die we left everything to the three natural children. The adopted boy has ripped us off for tens of thousands already. Our thanks for taking him from a fucked up home with our middle son and idiot wife.

Even the home we recently bought to move to is not ours. It belongs to our oldest son and wife with instructions to split three ways.
No government taxes to suck out of the estate.

So when we sell this home my wife and I will be homeless for the first time in our lives.

We choose our friends while families screw each other for a dollar.

Wow, just wow.


I am sorry your family history is so bad.

 

[pensivepoet]

Our family is healing since Mom's death but since my sister's bitchfest, I don't know.


My brother and sister-in-law used to dislike me. I had made some bad decisions in the past and they never forgot it.


When Mom got sick, my sister-in-law came to me and said it was time for this family to heal. We've been texting ever since.

I got thoroughly disgusted with the fights over who gets what.
Rusty flashlights, old hats, snow shovels....it was gross.
It reached the apex when my brother grabbed a half full box of kleenex off my Dad's nightstand, and then grabbed the toilet paper too.
I really hope the dead can't see us.

 

[neci]

Our family is healing since Mom's death but since my sister's bitchfest, I don't know.


My brother and sister-in-law used to dislike me. I had made some bad decisions in the past and they never forgot it.


When Mom got sick, my sister-in-law came to me and said it was time for this family to heal. We've been texting ever since.

i am glad things are healing with your brother, pink. i hope everything left is clear cut for your sister to work out. i already told my parents i did not wish to be executor of their will, so they assigned my sister. i think because she is more "controlling" and organized, it will come more naturally to her. either way, i pray that day is a long one off.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Wow, just wow.


I am sorry your family history is so bad.

Dollie---------- You'd never believe what I could tell about my own family. That's why my husband and I get along so well. We've been through hell.
We rarely discuss the sad things. We have so many good memories to share.

Thanks Pink. Stay strong.

 

[pink]

I got thoroughly disgusted with the fights over who gets what.
Rusty flashlights, old hats, snow shovels....it was gross.
It reached the apex when my brother grabbed a half full box of kleenex off my Dad's nightstand, and then grabbed the toilet paper too.
I really hope the dead can't see us.

My sister is not letting anyone go around the house, without her. 2 weeks ago, I wanted to go in my Mom's bedroom to look for her ring she wanted me to have, my sister wouldn't let me go.


I don't know.....she is just being very controlling. It's just weird.

 

[thør]

Sometimes it not what she says but how she says it. She is constantly getting little digs in. I don't know why she tries to make me feel stupid or like shit.

I know she's my sister and I shouldn't be saying this but....my mom's jewelry....there are rings missing. I got a diamond ring today but the ring my Mom promised me is missing. I can think of 3 or 4 rings that aren't there with the rest of the jewelry. I don't know.......

Family......some you can depend on and some you can't.

 

[pink]

i am glad things are healing with your brother, pink. i hope everything left is clear cut for your sister to work out. i already told my parents i did not wish to be executor of their will, so they assigned my sister. i think because she is more "controlling" and organized, it will come more naturally to her. either way, i pray that day is a long one off.

I'm not totally letting my guard down. They hurt me terribly for 22 years. Things are better and for that I am thankful.

 

[pink]

Dollie---------- You'd never believe what I could tell about my own family. That's why my husband and I get along so well. We've been through hell.
We rarely discuss the sad things. We have so many good memories to share.

Thanks Pink. Stay strong.

I'm trying. I miss my mom terribly.

 

[pink]

Family......some you can depend on and some you can't.

You can say that again.

 

[Minalick]

...You can choose your friends, but not your family.

Too true.
My sister and my mother are so alike, I have a real hard time with them.

Sorry to hear about your mother Pink.
It's important to remember the good times.