Affairs how long have they lasted

[toutdoors]

For those of you that have had an affair (male or female), how long did it last or what was the longest lasting one that you had. Was it purely sexual in nature or did it fulfill another area of your life that your partner was not fulfilling.
No need to hate bash the cheaters, everyone has their own moral compass and their reasons for their actions.

 

[sht4brains]

For those of you that have had an affair (male or female), how long did it last or what was the longest lasting one that you had. Was it purely sexual in nature or did it fulfill another area of your life that your partner was not fulfilling.
No need to hate bash the cheaters, everyone has their own moral compass and their reasons for their actions.

I've had several. I still have an on and off with a lady about 30 miles away. We see each other when we can.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

For those of you that have had an affair (male or female), how long did it last or what was the longest lasting one that you had. Was it purely sexual in nature or did it fulfill another area of your life that your partner was not fulfilling.
No need to hate bash the cheaters, everyone has their own moral compass and their reasons for their actions.

Longest lasting affair I've ever had was purely sexual and 2 and a half years...
The longest the wife had one last was not purely sexual as she was looking for a replacement for me and it lasted 18 months.

 

[sailgolf]

Had one last 20 years, on and off. Through two marriages. Sexual for the most part. She was 15 years older.

 

[muycurioso]

i was single

A married woman came to see me often for a few months, maybe 5? She said she had an open marriage.

 

[phil1955]

My wife had a 15 year affair. It started as an intellectual friendship but ended half and half, I would guess. I traveled a lot so they had plenty of time for sex.

 

[JulieAnn42]

We are well over 1,000 miles apart, so it is not real frequent.

 

[PEAKER44]

I think total time was close to a year...was never about the sex. There was a ton of sex but it was more emotional than physical at first. She deserved better than what I gave or could give her. Someday I hope to be able to tell her that!!

 

[KinoKe]

About 18 months. Sex was just the icing on the cake; it was more about romance. And, for most of the time, my wife was having a thing with her husband. In the end, it just got too messy.

 

[ShesInsatiable]

Eh, the middle

 

[Lost_Yonder]

My longest and most meaningful affair went for about 3 years - I nearly left my wife for her, it was deeply emotional. I can't even tell you why I didn't stay with her - fear, weakness, I don't know... It's hard to imagine what life would be like with her, but I do know one thing the sex was out of this world! whereas I remain sexless with my wife.

 

[newhere2learn]

So for me and the ex wife (ones I know of) it's as below;

Her: 4x that I'm aware of. 1st; ex bf. On/off for a few weeks. 2nd; random guy she met through work, again a few weeks. 3rd; older married colleague. Trainwrecked his marriage and ours. Went on for about 4-5months that was known. But there was obviously time before it came out, and some afterwards. And finally, she repeated #3 with a different guy for #4. Another job, another colleague. Months of texting etc. which evolved into dates etc. around the time we finally split. *Coincidence" she says.

Bullshit.


Me: only 1x female. During ex wife's #3 we split for several months. I'd been denied sex for ages. Met an older woman, who wanted fucking, NSA and nothing more. Late 30s early 40s. Curvy. As redneck as you can imagine. Fucked probably twice a month when schedules allowed for around 4months.

If we're classing an affair as while married, even though me and the ex wife have lived apart for a year nearly... Then the current FWB. We've been fucking 2-3 times a week on average for the last 6 months. But that started 6months after my wife moved out.

There was also a couple of 1nighters shortly after my ex wife left. NSA, pump dump situations. Helped clear my mind.

Been some MM meets too, since she left. Same story. One semi regular.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

For those of you that have had an affair (male or female), how long did it last or what was the longest lasting one that you had. Was it purely sexual in nature or did it fulfill another area of your life that your partner was not fulfilling.
No need to hate bash the cheaters, everyone has their own moral compass and their reasons for their actions.

I've never had an affair in the classical sense with a guy--, 'just a hit it and get it' sort of thang. Women--, the longest was 2 1/2 years. Sex, to me is NEVER purely physical. It filled every need I had... or it never woulda lasted that long.

 

[carln3346]

wife had 2 - one lasted maybe 4 months, the other only about 6 weeks.

 

[danielle140]

Being a shared wife it wasn't exactly an affair as hubby encouraged me . It lasted about 4 years. Danielle

 

[DesiredbyYou]

Longest was 5 years, physical and emotional. We had a great relationship and a lot of fun together.. I would have liked to find something similar (not exactly) but haven’t been able to. I’ve always needed both physical and emotional. One isn’t great without the other

 

[screwher]

I’ve never cheated on my wife. Mrs. Screwher has but I wouldn’t call them affairs. More like trysts and hook ups. So basically they lasted until they put their pants back on.

 

[Lucien_Al]

Affair

I have had an affair that has lasted more than 20 years. We live more than 1000 miles apart so only see each other about twice a year but without doubt the best sex I have ever had.

 

[DanbyDrive]

wife had 2 - one lasted maybe 4 months, the other only about 6 weeks.

My wife's first one came 11 years into our marriage. It lasted a year or so. It was hot and heavy for the first several months, then they tried to stop seeing each other but kept going back for more. She "fooled around and fell in love" and it was painful at the end for all concerned. I think she would have left me if it hadn't been for our kids. He had kids too and finally moved several states away. I think it was to save his family. I had suspected for a few months before I found out for sure what was going on. But, I don't think his wife ever really knew.

Her second came a few years later and lasted maybe 12 weeks or so. I knew from the beginning and encouraged her on that one. It was just sex with a heavily hung young guy who - in her words - made her "feel alive again."

 

[LordofChocolateSauce]

For those of you that have had an affair (male or female), how long did it last or what was the longest lasting one that you had. Was it purely sexual in nature or did it fulfill another area of your life that your partner was not fulfilling.
No need to hate bash the cheaters, everyone has their own moral compass and their reasons for their actions.

glad i am not the only one on here.. Only ever had one which went for two years but the distance was a killer - 25 hour flight time. I have to say it fulfilled a part of me and her that would have never been fulfilled. Things I had experienced were things only in my dreams.

 

[Kitschshaman]

It depends on how you define 'affair.' I've been in love with the same woman since about 1975, but our relationship has been frustratingly odd, because both of us seem to be the 'other one' for each other and have been for all those years. Is that an affair? Or is it simply recognition of an innate bond that goes beyond 'affair'?

 

[LekaSveta]

My partner and I are polyamorous so I don't know if anything counts as an affair, but I have been the other woman a couple of different times, the longest one lasting a little over two years, she was deeply closeted and married to a guy she couldn't stand, it lasted until he found out and forced her to go into conversion therapy and they moved away

 

[Justfantasies]

My partner and I are polyamorous so I don't know if anything counts as an affair, but I have been the other woman a couple of different times, the longest one lasting a little over two years, she was deeply closeted and married to a guy she couldn't stand, it lasted until he found out and forced her to go into conversion therapy and they moved away

Conversion therapy! That's sad. Sex is wonderful. Life is hard; especially right now, so why not a little fun, no matter how long it lasts

 

[Iris_66]

My partner and I are polyamorous so I don't know if anything counts as an affair, but I have been the other woman a couple of different times, the longest one lasting a little over two years, she was deeply closeted and married to a guy she couldn't stand, it lasted until he found out and forced her to go into conversion therapy and they moved away

For me, it's worse than sad, it's horrific. As a deeply closeted woman, she was obviously struggling to come to terms with her sexuality, and unhappy in her marriage from what you say

To force all that back inside can only put further mental pressure on her. I can't see any good outcomes coming from it

From her husbands point of view; divorce her; embrace it; both fine, but 'trying to correct her' makes me angry

Sorry for the rant

 

[Bigboobbabe]

5 months, so far. The first two were online and erotic. More recently physical and true emotional affair would best describe it.