Advice??

[LittleOne19]

I've recently started online role playing with a Dom. Its been a few weeks and he keeps pressuring me into sending him a dirty pic. I've told him before that i wasnt comfortable with that and yet he is still pressuring me...im starting to get uncomfortable. What should i do"?

 

[PartyMart]

Have you given yourself over to him online yet?

Does the photo have to include your face, if not are you able to comply with is command and send one that can not be linked to you other than on here?

 

[DVS]

I've recently started online role playing with a Dom. Its been a few weeks and he keeps pressuring me into sending him a dirty pic. I've told him before that i wasnt comfortable with that and yet he is still pressuring me...im starting to get uncomfortable. What should i do"?

It's not wise to send someone a picture like that if all you know of him is from online chat. You don't know who he is. Your picture could end up in any of a number of places that you wouldn't want it to.

It's all about trust. He will keep asking and eventually insist, if your relationship is to continue. But stick to your guns. In fact, if you never meet him any other way than on line, you might not ever send him a pic. It's not really anything against him, but you just have to cover your own ass...so to speak.

If he continues to pressure you to the point you keep feeling uncomfortable, tell him you are uncomfortable and will break off the relationship. That might stop him, but I doubt it. If it doesn't, then you'll know it's time to break it off, for sure. You are your own person and your body is yours. Your feeling uncomfortable should tell you something.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Um.

How about you tell him to respect your decision or he can fuck off?

Seriously, if you're not comfortable doing it then DON'T do it. He only has as much power as YOU give him. If he can't respect your wishes then he does not respect you and it might be best to find someone else who will.

 

[Stella_Omega]

I agree with DVS.

It might be relatively innocent-- he might just be the kind of person that needs something graphic to feel a connection with you.

If you are the kind of person that doesn't feel comfortable giving that-- then you and he might be incompatible. No blame, but also-- no compatibility.

 

[LittleOne19]

Thanks, i will seriously think it over and if he keeps persisting i will cut it off.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thanks, i will seriously think it over and if he keeps persisting i will cut it off.

There's always another Dom, or anyway, another guy who wants to be one.

Like busses, right around the corner

 

[evilthought]

Is it text chat "friend" only? How about a few minutes of web cam session with him? Or you can tell him that you will talk to him on the mic at lest once?

 

[FurryFury]

How about no because she is not comfortable with cam or mic and he is pushing on a reasonable and wise boundary that she has.

Is it text chat "friend" only? How about a few minutes of web cam session with him? Or you can tell him that you will talk to him on the mic at lest once?

 

[LittleOne19]

Following what furryfury said,

the whole point of this was that i am not comfortable with him. Under any circumstances i will not cam or mic with him. Im just not comfortable.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Following what furryfury said,

the whole point of this was that i am not comfortable with him. Under any circumstances i will not cam or mic with him. Im just not comfortable.

Time to look around for a better playmate.

 

[LittleOne19]

Time to look around for a better playmate.

Can't wait to get started lol

 

[Stella_Omega]

Check out fetlife.com. It's like facebook for pervs. You might meet people in your area.

 

[evilthought]

Following what furryfury said,

the whole point of this was that i am not comfortable with him. Under any circumstances i will not cam or mic with him. Im just not comfortable.

What "advice" were you looking for then?

I believe his demand is reasonable. Without at least some confirmation (live audio or video), he can't even be sure if he is talking to a female, a male pretending to be a female, or a highschool troll.

I would never engage in a longterm chat with anyone online without at least one confirmation (audio or video).

 

[CutieMouse]

What "advice" were you looking for then?

I believe his demand is reasonable. Without at least some confirmation (live audio or video), he can't even be sure if he is talking to a female, a male pretending to be a female, or a highschool troll.

I would never engage in a longterm chat with anyone online without at least one confirmation (audio or video).

And one doesn't need to send a "dirty pic" to prove gender.

Once a nude/compromising image is online, it's online. Forever. She has no way of knowing if he'll respect her wishes and keep things private, share with with friends, sell it to a porn website, etc. It's been a "few weeks". It isn't unreasonable to want to know what each other look like; it also isn't necessary to insist on "dirty pics" to confirm someone is who (or what) they say they are.

 

[evilthought]

And one doesn't need to send a "dirty pic" to prove gender.

Once a nude/compromising image is online, it's online. Forever. She has no way of knowing if he'll respect her wishes and keep things private, share with with friends, sell it to a porn website, etc. It's been a "few weeks". It isn't unreasonable to want to know what each other look like; it also isn't necessary to insist on "dirty pics" to confirm someone is who (or what) they say they are.

That's true, but note my earlier post. I specifically said that she should have at least one webcam/audio session. Even if it's just "hello, how are you".

 

[LittleOne19]

That's true, but note my earlier post. I specifically said that she should have at least one webcam/audio session. Even if it's just "hello, how are you".

I have already sent him 3 pictures of myself, to prove it. I think thats proof enough?

 

[FurryFury]

That's bullshit. Anyone can send a picture that isn't even of them.

This sort of thinking is just an excuse to demand something the other person doesn't want to do on the excuse it verifies anything.

And really what does it matter as long as both parties are getting the chat that they want. Why should you care if it's a one eye purple people eater.

What "advice" were you looking for then?

I believe his demand is reasonable. Without at least some confirmation (live audio or video), he can't even be sure if he is talking to a female, a male pretending to be a female, or a highschool troll.

I would never engage in a longterm chat with anyone online without at least one confirmation (audio or video).

 

[FurryFury]

I have already sent him 3 pictures of myself, to prove it. I think thats proof enough?

I'm sorry to hear you did that when you were not comfortable with it.

 

[LittleOne19]

I'm sorry to hear you did that when you were not comfortable with it.

*shruggs* They were pictures i had already posted online, so it wouldnt be a suprise if i found them up. they were just off my facebook lol

 

[evilthought]

I have already sent him 3 pictures of myself, to prove it. I think thats proof enough?

I won't take pics as proof of anything. I have pics of Pope John Paul II, but that doesn't make me the Pope!

 

[evilthought]

That's bullshit. Anyone can send a picture that isn't even of them.

Exactly. That's why I said she should do live audio/video session -- at least once.

That's my advice.

She posted to a public forum for "advice," and I gave it to her.

 

[LittleOne19]

I won't take pics as proof of anything. I have pics of Pope John Paul II, but that doesn't make me the Pope!

well, thats your opinion then

 

[FurryFury]

*shruggs* They were pictures i had already posted online, so it wouldnt be a suprise if i found them up. they were just off my facebook lol

See, to me, my face and real name, is the last thing I'd want associated with online kink and on the internet as such. It was your decision though and you made it your way.

 

[subwannabe]

I've never really understood this whole online dom/sub relationship thing. I've never done it. My only experiences have been in person only. I just don't see how you can have a dom/sub relationship online with anyone unless you really, really, trust this person. It just doesn't seem like there is much you can possibily do unless you do things that really wouldn't be smart to do with a stranger over the internet. Like I said, the only way I could see a successful online dom/sub relationship thing would be to do it with someone you knew implicity you could trust - and that wouldn't be a stranger. Oh, I forgot to give advice. Get out of this relationship!!!!!! Don't let him force you to do something that any smart person would realize shouldn't be done.