Advice

[MavrickEberhardt]

I am Randy and need some advice from women I have a very close female friend and we have had sex before a while back we both now are single and still see each other from time to time last night we was in the same bed nothing happen
she says she does not want nothing but she keep throwing different singles.
Any advice

 

[bondagegirl007]

If she's saying she doesn't want anything then I'd assume you'd be better off looking somewhere else.

 

[MavrickEberhardt]

Advce

If that is the case then why last night she called me up and wanted me to spend the night with her

 

[bondagegirl007]

Bored? Lonely? Only she can tell you that.

As people, we're not always of one mind. But words matter, and if her words are saying it's not something she wants then that's what I'd go with.

 

[Jada59]

Maybe she just didn't be alone. Sometimes people just want to snuggle up next to another person, but they don't want sex.

 

[Rosa2019]

If you like her , talk to her. If you don't, don't hang on to the relationship just for sex. It'll turn sour very soon , and it'll be bad for yourself too.

 

[PluviophileAnonymous]

If that is the case then why last night she called me up and wanted me to spend the night with her

Emotional support perhaps? Can't go assuming it was for sex. Or that just because it has happened once before, that it'll happen again.

If it's bothering you (which it clearly is), your best bet is asking her about it. A little bit of communication goes a long way. What's the worst that can happen? Her telling you she doesn't want sex? Well, you're not getting sex right now anyway, so

 

[MavrickEberhardt]

Its not the sex im looking for it what we had at one time the we had at one time
I am still in love with her and have been for years but when i bring something up she keeps saying friends friends friends. She has said she is happy in her life where she is at being single but as i said before she is saying one thing and making me feel like she still loves me by what she does!!!!!!!!!!

 

[LikeableMe]

Its not the sex im looking for it what we had at one time the we had at one time
I am still in love with her and have been for years but when i bring something up she keeps saying friends friends friends. She has said she is happy in her life where she is at being single but as i said before she is saying one thing and making me feel like she still loves me by what she does!!!!!!!!!!

She could love you in a close friend way, rather than a romantic way? My advice would be to be there for her as a friend, and have a conversation with her at some point. I know it’s not easy, but it’s better than the turmoil you’re going through, trying to interpret her words and actions. We all have different boundaries, and different ideas of what friendship is - perhaps this is hers, or she could be heading to wanting a relationship later on, just not feeling ready for one right now. There’s no way of knowing, without having an open, honest dialogue with her.

I understand how that can feel, as I’m going through something similar with someone I really care about, and waiting for answers also. It’s tough, but communicating what you want, and asking her these questions is the only way to understand what she is thinking and feeling.