Advice, PLEASE!!!!

[Nathon_88]

My brother, who's 17, has decided that he's going to "stand up for his rights" (don't ask me how he interprets this as doing that), and screw his girlfriend.

2 minor things conflict with this.

1. She's 14.
2. Her father is one of the few lawyers in town.

HELP! I'm 3 hours away, without a car, so I can't do anything personally.

I'm probably just going to end up telling Dad, and letting him straighten things out, but.....I wish I could do something that didn't involve me selling him out.

 

[cymbidia]

Sometimes what feels like "selling out" is actually the pain of making a rational and adult decision.

If you honestly feel that your brother could end up badly hurt by this, could end up making a gigantic mistake, then you owe it to him to be a good brother (as opposed to being a cool brother) and do that which will force him to slow down, at least, before he makes the mistake.

So, tell your dad.

Your brother will hate you for it, at least for now.
After he grows up a bit, though, he might thank you.
Even if he never thanks you, one must still do what is right, most especially for those we love. Being a good brother, like being a good parent, sometimes comes at the cost of a popular decision.

Don't sweat it.
Do what is right for you, for him, for the situation.

 

[MissTaken]

As I am sure you probably tried this, I am sorry to waist your time. But thought I would give it a shot anyway.

At 17, he would be charged as an adult. The charge may not be something like statutory rape. He could be charged with any number of sexual offenses. i,e, sexual misconduct, rape, even sodomy if that is something that occurs. These charges may seem like little risk now, but the ramifications of the charge can be long living.

A friend of mine's husband had sex with a 15 year old and I think he was 17 or 18. At 25, the charges still haunt him .

Anyway, I would try scaring him. Good Luck, I am sorry I can't be much help.

 

[Nathon_88]

As I am sure you probably tried this, I am sorry to waist your time. But thought I would give it a shot anyway.

At 17, he would be charged as an adult. The charge may not be something like statutory rape. He could be charged with any number of sexual offenses. i,e, sexual misconduct, rape, even sodomy if that is something that occurs. These charges may seem like little risk now, but the ramifications of the charge can be long living.

A friend of mine's husband had sex with a 15 year old and I think he was 17 or 18. At 25, the charges still haunt him .

Anyway, I would try scaring him. Good Luck, I am sorry I can't be much help.

You're a lot of help, simply because, after I go home for thanksgiving and come back with a leg in a cast, I can look at this and remember that I actually did a good thing.

The fact that he's gonna beat the shit out of me doesn't scare me.

The fact that he might fuck up his life because of this does.

Of course, this didn't work before.

"Mom, Dad, you shouldn't let Mike go out with Mike (One of his friends) to the lake."

"Why?"

"Because he's gonna go drinking."

"He wouldn't do that!"

5 days later, Mike gets brought home in a cop car. He was the lucky one. The other Mike was driving, and was sent to the morgue. The entire school was in shock, of course, but that didn't bring Mike back.

 

[lavender]