Advice on phone sex

[lilminx]

Ok everyone, this is really a serious thread. I need advice on how to give good phone sex, and I'm sure many of you here have plenty of experience with it. If you don't want to post it here, please PM me.

I have never been into it very much, but, uh, I have my reasons for asking about it.

 

[lobito]

I don't know if you've ever had cybersex Minxie, but it's not really much different than that. A bit less work, but maybe better(?).

 

[Rubyfruit]

Minxie, I'll give you personal instructions.

Very personal.

 

[Ice Cold]

Well try to make it as real as possible... since the person can't see you, it has to be imagined... but if you are very descriptive it helps, plus the sound you make for the other person to hear is quite intoxicating.

 

[TN_Vixen]

giving advice on good phone sex would be like trying to describe what it feels like when I have an orgasm. It's subjective, personal and pretty much depends upon the slut you're on the phone with.

Hey, you asked.

 

[Nathon_88]

See, what cha gotta do is.........er.......uh......

Vixen, you made me lose my advice........Your AV has caused a rather large problem!

 

[SXCRgirl]

Phone sex is all subjective between the two people concerned. I agree with everyone, the sounds that your partner makes is so intoxicating that it almost feels like you're there. Well, at least in my experience it is.

 

[TantaLiza]

Second the motion...

One of the best things I can say to do it be honest...tell everything you're feeling in as much detail as possible so they can "be there" with you....can even let them hear some of the "juicy details"....that gets 'em good!

Liza

 

[lilminx]

I don't know if you've ever had cybersex Minxie, but it's not really much different than that. A bit less work, but maybe better(?).

I know what you're saying, but when you're typing you have a little more time to think about what you're going to say next. With the phone, it's totally spontaneous, and I wouldn't want to say anything that would turn the other person off.

Minxie, I'll give you personal instructions.

Very personal.

Hey Rubes, I have free long distance on my cell. Don't make offers you may not be prepared to come through with.

giving advice on good phone sex would be like trying to describe what it feels like when I have an orgasm. It's subjective, personal and pretty much depends upon the slut you're on the phone with.

Hey, you asked.

Yes, but what if you don't really know the person at all?

 

[lavender]

 

[lobito]

if you don't really know the person at all, then there are two answers. 1 - what the hell are you having phone sex with them for, or 2 - Ask them what they dislike. I have a policy to ask first so I don't upset the other person. You may very well end up pissing the other person off anyway, without even trying. That's the best I can do for you dear.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Yes, but what if you don't really know the person at all?

Then I have no experience with that. Sorry. I would assume that it would suck bigtime.

 

[enjoyingitall]

It's imperative that you know the person with whom you are engaging in phone sex with. Several years ago, I tried it with a few people I didn't know, had only briefly chatted with..It was lacking in lots of ways. Later, I got to know someone pretty well, and we had tons of fun on the phone, but we already knew what turned each other on before we ever started phoning. It's easier than you might think if you have some sort of connection with the person before hand.

 

[Kelly_Liscious]

I agree with what " enjoyingitall" just wrote about really knowing the person you are going to have phone sex with ...

I also had a similar "phone session " with a guy I knew for a short time. He was all into it and frankly I was bored out of my mind. He was going on and on ... " Oh babe ... Oooooo ". The whole time I was polishing my toe nails.

Have a good time with your phone buddy but make sure you two know each others likes and dislikes.

That would be my little piece of advice.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Hey Rubes, I have free long distance on my cell. Don't make offers you may not be prepared to come through with.

I actually suck at it. But I'd be willing to practice with you, Minxie.

I've never had lesbian phone sex. Can you believe it?

 

[talk2024]

Yes, but what if you don't really know the person at all?

If you don't really know the person then what's the big deal? Just go with the flow. I think it's good to be descriptive, and repetitive, because the focus is on the sound of the other person's voice.

If you're usually quite vocal, then that helps. It is a two-way street on the phone, though; it's not all up to you.

 

[WhiteRose]

Yes, but what if you don't really know the person at all?

Like Lobito said, if you don't know the person at all, think about why you're doing it.

As someone who spent five months getting paid VERY well for phone sex with strangers (people I had no relationships with), I can tell you that unless you're very much into casual sex (which I'm not), you won't get much out of it at all. The only thing that turned me on about it was getting the guy off using my voice and my creativity, but that was more of a creative high than anything else. There were only two guys in all those hundreds of calls that stimulated me even a little bit sexually, and only because those two guys KNEW how to give good phone sex. They were extremely descriptive, very detailed, and explained up front what their fantasies were. The rest of the guys wanted me to do the driving with little or no input on their part...EXTREMELY BORING, and no, I never once masturbated during any of those calls. It was a job, I was a fantasy actress, that's all. After five months, I was not only burned out on the calls, I really didn't want anything to do with sex or men for quite awhile (this was 13 years ago, and I'd never have casual phone sex again. It was an experiment I tried when I first moved out of my parents' house for kicks, that's all.) If you have questions about this, you can pm me.

However, engaging in sex via phone with someone you care about (if he's creative and descriptive)...the only thing that compares to that is actually making love with them. The sounds they make, the closeness you feel in an already established relationship are only heightened by sharing something so intimate with them. Because you aren't there physically, you're forced to create an illusion using your voice, your words, your sounds, and your mind. That can be very powerful. You can set whatever scene you want, wear whatever you want, be in whatever situation you want, and never have to leave your room. You aren't bound by the four walls of your bedroom, like you usually are when you have sex physically together. You aren't caught up in performing just one act for the other person, because at the same time you're talking, you're pleasuring yourself however you wish to be pleasured, without having to deal with a partner who might not touch you in the right spot at the right moment or who doesn't take that extra 10 seconds to do it just right. And knowing that you're pleasuring your lover at the same time because you can hear him responding, can be as rewarding as being there in person.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Spank your arse so he can hear yoyu, that was nearly enough for me.

 

[Lasz]

Give me a call and I will give you all the advice you need!

 

[ShyGuy68]

Minx I think it's different from person to person what they consider good phonesex.

I for one likes it when It's easy for me to hear that my partner is enjoying herself.

Now if you need somebody to practice with, let me know