Advice Needed

[flirtygirl]

I was refered here to you guys from one of the other boards. I am definately new to this whole thing. Maybe you all can help me. My boyfriend and I were experimenting with new things, we are both very open and curious to bring our lovemaking to different heights. Long story short, he handed me one of his neckties and told me to tie him up and do whatever I please with him. I was absolutely flustered, I didn't know what to do. When we make love, I am more apt to let him "lead" as I am on the passive side. This was stunning. I tied his hands as he wished, but I don't think the whole experience was what it could have been, had I had some ideas or creativity with this. Please help.

 

[jon.hayworth]

Flirtygirl, It looks as if you have a problem. You say that you are passive in love-making. Now it appears that your b/f wants to surrender control to you - something that some men and women find very liberating.

How can being tied-up be liberating? Well they are freed of guilt whatever happens they had no choice the person in control was dictating what goes on.

The question you have to confront is - are you able / willing to take control during sex.

If you decide yes - then experiment - but before you tie him up again do 2 things:
# 1. establish a safe word and how it will be used.
# 2. do some reading - a few BDSM stories some of the threads and see what turns you on.

Try this site http://www.sexuality.org/bdsm.html

If you are unwilling / unable to take on this dominant role then maybe the 2 of you ought to go your seperate ways because neither of you will have a fullfilling relationship.

jon

 

[lovetoread]

Tie him up, and start exploring.

Lick,touch, taste everywhere you have ever imagined doing.

Have some toys handy to tease him with.

Rub your pussy juices all over him.

Start from his toes and work you way up.

The thing is to have fun. You'll enjoy it, and he will too.

 

[Ricckk]

The thing is to have fun.

It doesn't have to be a "lifestyle" decision; he may not want that either. Relax and have fun.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I was refered here to you guys from one of the other boards. I am definately new to this whole thing. Maybe you all can help me. My boyfriend and I were experimenting with new things, we are both very open and curious to bring our lovemaking to different heights. Long story short, he handed me one of his neckties and told me to tie him up and do whatever I please with him. I was absolutely flustered, I didn't know what to do. When we make love, I am more apt to let him "lead" as I am on the passive side. This was stunning. I tied his hands as he wished, but I don't think the whole experience was what it could have been, had I had some ideas or creativity with this. Please help.

One of the easiest ways to dominate a man without much effort, is to do the things you normally do, but require him not to move, and make him keep his eyes closed.

If he likes to be stroked, then stroke him all over, but tell him he cannot move one muscle or you will stop.

Then you find something to do to him as "punishment" if he does move. The "punishment" does not have to be painful, just something you like very much.



Ebony

 

[lark sparrow]

I was refered here to you guys from one of the other boards. I am definately new to this whole thing. Maybe you all can help me. My boyfriend and I were experimenting with new things, we are both very open and curious to bring our lovemaking to different heights. Long story short, he handed me one of his neckties and told me to tie him up and do whatever I please with him. I was absolutely flustered, I didn't know what to do. When we make love, I am more apt to let him "lead" as I am on the passive side. This was stunning. I tied his hands as he wished, but I don't think the whole experience was what it could have been, had I had some ideas or creativity with this. Please help.

If you are generally more passive, but want to explore, you could try doing things to him that you would like done to yourself.