Advice needed dealing with male virgin

[mistressastra]

Ok, I need some serious arguments/suggestions/advice to say to a 28 year old male who has not had sex yet and tells me he doesn't want anything ever to do with oral sex, period!!! I told him it was something nice and he'd be missing alot. BTW, I wasn't offering, we were talking as friends. Anyone?

 

[Nathon_88]

Speaking as a virgin, I honestly can't help that much.....I love the taste.......And, if it pleases someone.......it is MY pleasure.

*chuckles*

 

[cybergirly]

Is he opposed to receiving as well as giving?

 

[Shaq]

Leave it alone....at 28 if he's still against oral sex he's probably built up enough good reasons that nothing you SAY is going to change it....but since he's a virgin he may get caught in the heat of passion and it just happen so he still may experience it...

But it's not for all folks...

 

[Rubyfruit]

Why do you want to change his mind?

To each his own.

 

[DannyBoyUK]

Dontcha mean - to eat his own, Ruby ?

<s>

 

[mistressastra]

cybergirly wrote:Is he opposed to receiving as well as giving?

Both, Cybergirl, he said in any way shape or form. Sad to cut himself off from something he doesn't even know about.

 

[mistressastra]

Rubyfruit wrote:Why do you want to change his mind?

To each his own.

We were talking and joking as friends, which we are, Rubes. I was surprised he was so against it as he hasn't tried it. Like saying, I will never eat chocolate because I hate chocolate, and not ever having tried chocolate, how can you decide that? It ws just an odd thing to hear, especially from a man.

 

[cybergirly]

hmmmm then I'd say just leave it alone, at some point he's gonna have someone give him a blow job, and his mind will be changed forever. If he's so opposed to it, to not let anyone do it (although I imagine someone will sneak up on him at some point) then he's not going to change his mind.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Mistress, people are weird! Big time.

 

[becca80]

cybergirly wrote:Is he opposed to receiving as well as giving?

Both, Cybergirl, he said in any way shape or form. Sad to cut himself off from something he doesn't even know about.

My ex felt the same way until I just surprised him one night and went down on him. It took him 2 seconds to realise that it wasn't so bad. Actions speak louder than words, I guess.

 

[teddybear4play]

We were talking and joking as friends, which we are, Rubes. I was surprised he was so against it as he hasn't tried it. Like saying, I will never eat chocolate because I hate chocolate, and not ever having tried chocolate, how can you decide that? It ws just an odd thing to hear, especially from a man.

Well, if it doesn't turn him on, it doesn't turn him on. I'm not big on receiving oral sex. Granted, I'm not foolish enough to turn down a BJ like him, but if he doesn't want one, don't try to change his mind.

Besides, lots of us don't like things we'll never try just because the thought of it repulses us. For him, it's oral sex.

TB4p

 

[Siren]

 

[T.H. Oughts]

How well do you know him????

He may of been abused at a young age having to do or having that done and it might scare the hell out him doing it again. Maybe might explain also being a virgin at 28.

 

[mistressastra]

LOL Siren, not me, thanks anyway!

I know him somewhat but not completely well. He has low self-esteem and thinks he is undesirable. Hates himself but tries to make people laugh to compensate. He has few friends, and can count his dates on 2 hands. Funny thing though, he gives off no magnetic field waves (sneaks up on me without me knowing, not an easy thing for anyone to do), and there is something in his pheromones. LOL sometimes gets me ummmm, heated up. But I would not cross the line with him as I prefer him to be a friend. Only a friend!

 

[Guest]

Ok, I need some serious arguments/suggestions/advice to say to a 28 year old male who has not had sex yet and tells me he doesn't want anything ever to do with oral sex, period!!! I told him it was something nice and he'd be missing alot. BTW, I wasn't offering, we were talking as friends. Anyone?

Ignorance is bliss. What you don't know, judge not.

Moon

 

[medjay]

I don't think you ought to be worried about this guy getting laid. From what I can tell he's got some way more serious issues to work through. If his self esteem is so bad he's still a virgin at 28, then getting some pussy is the least of his problems. I'd be more concerned he might go on some sort of shooting rampage. Especially if he doesn't have an aura and can sneak up on folks like a phantom.

This guy needs to talk to a professional!

 

[SleepingWarrior]

Is the guy real religious? Because oral is suppose to be a no-no all of the time. In the Catholic Church anyway, not sure about others since I'm not those religions.

 

[mistressastra]

He talks to me, and no he isn't a psychotic. Just lives a closed life and I wish he'd get out more. Guess I've taken an interest in him, can't hurt maybe. If he can deal with me, might help him deal with other women he is interested in. It took being friends with a very friendly out going gay guy to loosen me up.

 

[mistressastra]

No, Warrior, he doesn't seem to believe in much religion-wise. I talk about it enough, being an atheist, yet he never says he is a religionist.

 

[Siren]

 

[Shaq]

One thread asks for advice on how to convince a guy oral sex is good...

Another asks for help raising a child....


Guess which got the most posts?

The answer will shock you....

 

[mistressastra]

Siren!!!! LOL I don't want to do that! Thanks for the laugh. Hot loins don't necessarily mean I want to go to bed with him. Or even give him a taste of anything so to speak. I work with him for goodness sake. Can't mess up office logistics.

 

[Siren]

 

[medjay]

I know him somewhat but not completely well. He has low self-esteem and thinks he is undesirable. Hates himself but tries to make people laugh to compensate. He has few friends, and can count his dates on 2 hands. Funny thing though, he gives off no magnetic field waves (sneaks up on me without me knowing, not an easy thing for anyone to do), and there is something in his pheromones. LOL sometimes gets me ummmm, heated up. But I would not cross the line with him as I prefer him to be a friend. Only a friend!

Being a shut-in is different from having deep seated esteem issues. I didn't mean to imply that he was a borderline psychotic, just that he will never be able to enjoy any type of sex life until he begins to feel better about himself. You have to crawl before you can walk and, in his case, he needs to believe that he is worthy of someone's attention before he dives headfirst into a sexual relationship. There's a lot of work that needs to be done here.