Advice for wife's odd blow job problem

[Seamus7575]

My wife has a small gap between her front teeth. She says it hurts for her to "suck" when giving me a BJ. Any advice on a solution, (other than wax teeth) would be helpful.

Thanks

 

[M's girl]

It hurts?

How?

 

[Seamus7575]

The suction in her mouth pulls part of her lip into the gap between her teeth.

I feel bad even calling it a gap ( makes it sound like shes a rake) but I have to call it something.

 

[M's girl]

Hmmmm, I understand...

What to do? At this moment all I can think of is filling that 'gap' with something, although most everything (I can think of) will be a bit awkward. First thing that comes to my mind is this thing you pull over your teeth to whiten them (I never use them) but that 'looks' like something that could work. Still, it will be (if you use this or any other similar thing) like putting a condom on before you start and even staying aware it doesn't slip off.... hmmmm, so I don't know if it's such a good idea.

On the other hand... does she need to, or do you want her to, suck that hard? I mean.... there are so many things she can do which make it very enjoyable for you anyway is my guess...

 

[bisexplicit]

A retainer? Heh.

Another possibility is not focusing on sucking, but doing other things...if she could deep throat you, close her mouth, and use her tongue to caress your cock while making a 'swallowing' contraction with her throat, that should still be orally pleasurable.

Another possibility is that this is her way of getting out of giving you head...?

 

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[Seamus7575]

As far as other things, she has a tilted uterus so most intercorse is painful and I don't think she is interested in learning to deep throat. She also has almost no labido. I read the how to's on incresing her sex drive and am going to help with more of the house responsabilities and my communication skills (lol)

 

[Straight-8]

Another possibility is that this is her way of getting out of giving you head...?

In view of your subsequent comments I think Bi is on to something here. Sounds like the probelms go a lot deeper than a sore lip!

But, for what it is worth, I've always thought some women take this 'cock-sucking' thing too literally. As others have said, the sucking part is really minimal. It is the friction and stimulation that count. Most women who are really good at it use their hands at least as much as their mouths. Get her some good info on 'how to'; watch a good blow-job porn movie together, work on those old communication skills to let her know your needs....and, most importantly, express your gratitude for what you get, tell her how sexy she is and suggest changes helpfully and tactfully. Direct criticism=no more blowjobs!

By the way, do you go down on her to even up things? How good a job do you do? Maybe she's just as keen on you working on tehnique!

 

[Eilan]

In view of your subsequent comments I think Bi is on to something here. Sounds like the probelms go a lot deeper than a sore lip!

After reading through the posts, that's what I was thinking as well. There's definitely more going on here than blowjob issues.

FWIW, I don't think I've ever sucked while giving a BJ.

 

[Seamus7575]

I don't doubt what you guys are saying about "something deeper", I have thought about that on occasion myself. I don't think she has been traumatized (sp) anymore than any of us have. The only thing that comes to mind is the fact that intercourse is painful for her and when we were dating and first having sex she waited to tell me about the pain. At that time she seemed "disconnected" mentally. After she told me about the pain I encouraged we try alternatives to vanilla intercourse. When we started dating we drank alot more than we do now, and when she is drinking she looses almost all her inhabitions but she would be in pain the next few days if we had sex. It wasn't long before we almost completely quit drinking becuase neither of us want her in pain or sick. I have always tried to be supportive and not demanding although at times she probably wanted me to be more decisive (sp). As far as me going down on her it was several months after we were sexually active that she would allow me to go down on her (unless we were drunk). I enjoy doing it for/to her and think it is my best skill in the bedroom. I get aroused by pleasing her so by nature i'm going to give it my all. She is open to me doing it now and has made non-prompted comments about enjoying it.

 

[Straight-8]

I don't doubt what you guys are saying about "something deeper", I have thought about that on occasion myself. I don't think she has been traumatized (sp) anymore than any of us have. The only thing that comes to mind is the fact that intercourse is painful for her and when we were dating and first having sex she waited to tell me about the pain. At that time she seemed "disconnected" mentally.... She is open to me doing it now and has made non-prompted comments about enjoying it.

Two things stand out to me about this.

First, the fact that she 'disconnected' suggests that sex itself is a problem for her. And not only a physical one. If she was into it, you might be able to find positions and styles of intercourse that would minimize her discomfort (others who have some experience of this may be able to jump in with their suggestions). Maybe not full thrusts or doggie style, for example. Also she may be able to look into medical help. I believe a hysterectomy is usually the remedy of last resort for this problem.

But second, if she's into you going down on her you have a definite 'in'. Build on that. Most people like to be able to at least 'return the favour' to their partner. Discuss the 'less sucking' approach to BJs suggested in some of these posts.

 

[emap]

Perhaps point he to this thread, because seriously, you don't suck in a cock, you take it in yoru mouth and swirl all over it with your tongue, sometimes taking it out and blowing on it softly, which is in fact where the blow in blowjob comes from, the person down there breathes on the cock.

As a matter of fact, I get more groans out of licking around on the end of him than I do with him in my mouth, simply because my tongue gives him better sensations than being in my mouth. It is entirely possible, I assume anyway to get a man to cum with just your tongue and hand on him.