Advice for a bi-curious guy?

[Shywong]

I know this cute guy at my old job who's openly gay and very flamboyant. That kind of thing is very attractive to me, when they have the looks to go with their personality. He has a cute face, long hair and big butt that I'm dying to get in to. How should I approach this him? I've never been with a guy and I'm thinking about asking him to 'be my first.' I'm not sure if he has a boyfriend or not, assuming that matters.

I have a few questions for any fems out there:

Would a straight guy asking you to be his first affect your decision?
Would it offend you if he got straight to the point and said "I want to fuck you?"
Would you be willing to do it just once with no strings attached so as to give him a taste.
If you're openly gay, and he's bi-curious does it bother you if he wants a discreet relationship?

 

[Starra]

I noticed nobody had responded to this thread and i really feel you wanted some advice. I am not a gay man i'm afraid. Actually i'm a bisexual female, but i suppose i do have some insight into how to approach someone of the same sex that i might be attracted to.

Maybe try some flirting with him first. Gentle touches when you chat and compliment him on how he looks that day. If he is 'into' you, he will flirt back. This will provide you with an 'in' to get chatting more about your burgeoning desires to be with another guy. As a woman, i would really not like someone to just tell they wanted to fuck me, i'd feel like they saw me as a piece of meat. I cannot, however, speak for the male perspective. I dunno, asking my husband (who is bi btw), he said that he'd love it if a guy said that to him, so i guess gender boundaries are different.

In terms of your questions regarding discretion and no strings relationships, i think there you might want to be careful. I know that i would be willing to have a no-strings relationship with someone but only if i didn't feel like they were 'using' me for the experience of being with someone of the same sex. This, by the way you describe it, might be what you're hoping for. Just to try it out let's say. That isn't fair on the other person is it? They're a human being not an item of clothing you're not sure about. So maybe you really need to think about what it is that you want from this man. Do you like him, or the idea of being with a man? If you answer in the latter, then really you might want to seek someone else who is simply curious and wants to have one experience to see what it's like, because the guy you mentioned is at least an aquaintance of yours and deserves to be respected as himself, not just a cock.

 

[GMC56]

I know this cute guy at my old job who's openly gay and very flamboyant. That kind of thing is very attractive to me, when they have the looks to go with their personality. He has a cute face, long hair and big butt that I'm dying to get in to. How should I approach this him? I've never been with a guy and I'm thinking about asking him to 'be my first.' I'm not sure if he has a boyfriend or not, assuming that matters.

I have a few questions for any fems out there:

Would a straight guy asking you to be his first affect your decision?
Would it offend you if he got straight to the point and said "I want to fuck you?"
Would you be willing to do it just once with no strings attached so as to give him a taste.
If you're openly gay, and he's bi-curious does it bother you if he wants a discreet relationship?

I was fortunate enough to find someone who was interested in being my first. I didn't openly come out and ask the "do you want to fuck" question, but expressed my curiosity with him. I didn't want him to think that I was that easy...

We did have quite a bit of discussion, at first, because of my lack of interest in having a boyfriend, per se.

I didn't have any problems with the discreet relationship. I was worried at first, but he too was interested in upholding his reputation.

But I do agree with Starra that you don't want to come across too aggressive as you may be sending the wrong message.