Adieu

[HB1965]

I have no idea what this is about nor do I know any of the history. I do know that some of the gossip and backbiting here of late has made me keep my distance so I guess I can understand a little of what's going on here.

Best of luck guys. I've enjoyed your posts. What you share is awesome

 

[A Desert Rose]

I have no idea what this is about nor do I know any of the history. I do know that some of the gossip and backbiting here of late has made me keep my distance so I guess I can understand a little of what's going on here.

Best of luck guys. I've enjoyed your posts. What you share is awesome

Boy I'm glad I don't know anything about all that. I'm in no one's loop and nobody's clique.

It's a good place to be. ;-)

 

[serijules]

Boy I'm glad I don't know anything about all that. I'm in no one's loop and nobody's clique.

It's a good place to be. ;-)

Damn right it is!

 

[DeservingBitch]

I never know whether to be offended or happy to be absolutely clueless about what is going on that everybody is talking about.

 

[callinectes]

Heh..this is why when I screw up and say thoughtless crap I try to clear the air privately with the person I have wronged. No drama that way.

 

[coyotepondering]

As someone totally and absolutely outside the circle of fighting that has broken out in the last few weeks about all this, and having read some of the deplorable and foul comments made, I think lit is probably a (slightly, very slightly) saner place for two departures.

Oh, and I do have a life. I live with my slave, 24/7 and I'd beat her ass black and blue for a month if she posted some of the things I saw posted calling others cunts blithely and making ugly comments about unborn children. Mind you if she was that kind of person I wouldn't have taken her.

 

[HB1965]

Boy I'm glad I don't know anything about all that. I'm in no one's loop and nobody's clique.

It's a good place to be. ;-)

Good, because you missed whole threads where things got ugly. I would think though that they would have been hard to miss.

 

[Stegral]

I stayed out of the fray as I saw the aftermath only & felt it too late to respond because I just didn't want to do the research into what the fight was about...

I will miss the pics IYM takes of Sinn & the snakes tho
My snakes are all too small for my big body to place so erotically...

I will miss them

 

[Chicklet]

Boy I'm glad I don't know anything about all that. I'm in no one's loop and nobody's clique.

It's a good place to be. ;-)

*high five*

 

[twysted73]

*pulls out a tiny butane lighter refiller*

If he really didn't care and detested the drama, wouldn't it be more prudent to just silently send PM's to those he wishes to keep instead of the public drama of "storming out of the room"? I know when I'm done with something, it's treated as if it never existed.

We say one thing but our actions always betray us.

Just saying....

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I had planned to not comment since I didn't have "a dog in this fight," but it's gotten to a point where I just can't.

I hate to see IYM feel it necessary to withdraw from the board. Over time, I've developed a great deal of respect for him - as a person, for fighting the fight he's had to deal with for the past years; as a source, for the excellent and expert advice and opinion he's offered on, among other things, the "care and feeding" (so to speak) of his scaly little friends; and as a member of the BDSM culture, for having the strength of his convictions and the fortitude to live his life in the manner which his personality requires, rather than trying to stifle that and conform to the majority.

In this instance, it seems to me that there has been a sad lack of communication, and an unwillingness to even try to communicate. Was BF wrong in specifically mentioning Sinn/h_i_s as an example of the type of body/person her man seeks out and apparently prefers? Yes, but that is as least partly forgivable since she obviously wasn't aware - as some of us "older" members here are - that h_i_s has, due to some previous health issues, struggled to put and keep on weight, and that she is very sensitive about and because of that struggle. Was BF also wrong in the tone of her apology? Not so much, in my opinion, for the simple reason that no one bothered to explain to her why h_i_s would have felt insulted by her reference. Thus, to her, it was not a big deal, and she replied in a light-hearted and somewhat sardonic manner.

Was h_i_s wrong in her reaction to the comment? I think initially she was only slightly wrong, in that she responded without an explanation as to why she was insulted in an open thread, though there are not many who would feel insulted that they were mentioned as follows:

I won't ever become a 40 kilos girl he like that much for sex. I look more like EmpressFi, BiBunny or Kitty while he loves girls like your Sinn for example.

When that (light-hearted, somewhat sardonic) apology was posted, BF still not understanding h_i_s's issue, h_i_s grew vituperative.

That was the most fucked up empty apology ever
Why say sorry??.. when it's obvious A. You don't mean it & B. You haven't enough of a clue to even begin to understand WHO would be offended and/or why ....... renders the apology as 'null'.

And the name is h i s , and certainly it is not 'princess' so hold back on the condescending shit too please. And stick that rollseyes smiley up your ass sideways right along with the sarchastic 'geez' shit too.

.... even if I could spell it out in your preferred or original native language, I'm fairly certain, and well convinced at this point that you won't and are not capable of 'getting it'....

BF even stated outright that she didn't understand why h_i_s was so incensed.

Compare you know who to sexy thin girls my man likes was meant as compliment, not as something that should make her mad. :/

If I said I am fat as X, Y, Z I would understand if they get mad about it, but when I say my man like thin girls like "you know who" and she gets mad about it I don't really get it yes. Say about someone that she's fat is insulting and I would never say that. I didn't know that say about someone she's nice, thin and sexy can be understood as insulting and ignorant too

This

I would say that the fetus you are carrying has sucked up any sense you have left, if I didn't have reason to believe that you were already a fucked up dumb cunt before you got knocked up....

you are a simple minded dumb cunt....

however, is quite simply beyond the pale. As someone said, BF threw a rock; h_i_s launched a nuclear strike with no attempt, ever, to explain to a relative newcomer who was not aware of the efforts h_i_s has made to put and keep on some weight, the underlying reason for her anger at being singled out.

In the past, I've agreed with h_i_s, disagreed with her, at times laughed at her, at times shaken my head in despair - in short, reacted to her much as I have to most other people. However, in this instance, I am somewhat flabbergasted and very ashamed that an adult and long-standing member of this community, one who is for the most part liked and admired, descended to such depths with such rapidity, and failed to make any visible attempt to communicate, as many of us - including both IYM and h_i_s, if I'm not mistaken - have always tried to advocate as the first step in issue resolution.

Personally, I would prefer to hang around with all these (mostly) like-minded people, resolve whatever issues come up, and have fun. But that's just me.

 

[Betticus]

I wish you both all the happiness in the world.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It was the big green words that convinced me.

 

[intothewoods]

It was the big green words that convinced me.

Oh yes. I don't mean to be petty, but ... yes.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I am always who I am

Exodus 3:14

 

[the_pet]

.....clueless here (and cares to stay that way)

but the dramatic exit is priceless on sooo many levels.....


on a serious note, it is sad that so many feelings were hurt and i hope we can soon return to happier times....


pet

 

[Etoile]

Here is what this all sounds like to me.

 

[nh23]

Here is what this all sounds like to me.

http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f375/sheilaekins/ANIMATIONS/ROFLMAO.gif

 

[Etoile]

http://i51.photobucket.com/albums/f375/sheilaekins/ANIMATIONS/ROFLMAO.gif

I think it's worth playing that file over and over while reading this thread.
(serijules and sexycaz, it's an mp3 file of cartman saying "screw you guys, I'm going home")

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Here is what this all sounds like to me.

Etoile... I love you!

 

[minx1]

I spoke out and I am glad I did. It needed saying.

Its unfortunate that you feel it necessary to withdraw in this manner iym. I'll be honest (again) it reeks of spitting your dummy out, just because it didn't go in Sinns favour and people felt enraged enough to speak out. It might have been a better option for sinn to just accept that people didn't care for her venomous attack and we could all get back to business. Still thats your choice.

Whatever the wrongs or rights of the disagreement between BF and Sinn, the bottom line is BF is literally about have a baby. She has been through the mill with her ex and her lack of judgement in her recent posts didnt deserve the vicious onslought that ensued from Sinn. It was nothing short of disgusting.

As you now say in your profile sinn;

''This is not an insult which targets an unborn child, it's me pointing out that the fetus and the pregnancy are not to blame for the mother being a dumb cunt. People see what they want to. Reality is often twisted to suit. Pregnancy is NOT an excuse. If a pregnancy (or her tough time with her ex ... fuck please, like no one here has had a tough time.. reality check please) renders a woman as too fragile to be here, she *shouldn't* be here.''

You're right people here have all sorts of issues and problems. Generally I have only ever seen advice and support dished out in those cases. I have been on the receiving end of it many times myself and have been very grateful for it. Yes sometimes the advice isn't sugar coated but nonetheless its not filled with hatred either.
You are right pregnancy isn't an excuse and neither is a bad time with an ex. Its not an excuse but it is a reason to treat others with some compassion.

Anyway I am letting this go. It is obvious you are beyond compassion or reason in this case.

Goodbye, or is that au revoir.......whichever.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Good, because you missed whole threads where things got ugly. I would think though that they would have been hard to miss.

Actually I only read about 3 threads. And I have so many people on ignore that I can't see their threads most of the time. That's probably a bad thing since I don't know all the bad things being said about me, around and about. As a matter of fact, I've always said privately (because no one gives a shit what I think and no one ever asked), that the Dear X thread is a passive/aggressive vehicle and I don't read it.

But I referred in red, in my post to your comment, about all the gossip and backbiting going on of late. Would ya mind filling me in on all that, but only that which pertains to me? ;-) I want to know all the bad shit being said behind my back. I don't care about anyone else.

Thanks.

 

[Etoile]

That's probably a bad thing since I don't know all the bad things being said about me, around and about. As a matter of fact, I've always said privately (because no one gives a shit what I think and no one ever asked), that the Dear X thread is a passive/aggressive vehicle and I don't read it.

Actually, I don't see anybody saying anything bad about you. And I don't have anyone at all on ignore.

Dear X thread? I am oblivious.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Actually, I don't see anybody saying anything bad about you. And I don't have anyone at all on ignore.

Dear X thread? I am oblivious.

No no, etoile. Half of my post was tongue-in-cheek... it all wasn't meant to be serious. Just part of it.

ha! What a dolt, huh?

 

[Etoile]

No no, etoile. Half of my post was tongue-in-cheek... it all wasn't meant to be serious. Just part of it.

ha! What a dolt, huh?

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I get it!

You know, we should stop hijacking this very serious temper tantrum thread.