Addicted?

[goodsonformom]

Otherwise, what would be the point?

*Nods*.......my point exactly.......

 

[goodsonformom]

That's the addiction I want! Great reflective philosophy Lexi.

*nods*......Exactly.....

 

[MmmMadam]

We all come here for a reason....some because we're in search of intimacy with another......some for companionship...a connection...some for the the shear desire to be lustful.....sexual....

Once here....can we escape the draw....the compulsion...the obsession to walk away...what keep's you coming back...is it a person...a fetish...an act...images....stories?

Are you addicted?....

If so when did you recognize it....do you find ways to rationalize your cravings....can you be humorous about it....do you have guilt ridden feelings? Share with us about it.......be honest......

it's a very interesting question.

On one hand, I wouldn't say I am addicted. If I can't get on to Lit, I don't worry about it or get antsy about needing to be here. I was an on/off lurker and, even now, I have to say that I post on Lit for a while and, for whatever reason, don't come back for a couple of months whether its due to my personal life, work or something else. I don't miss Lit during that time either, or really have any withdrawal symptoms that are associated with addictions (only if you can exclude sexual frustration...). I initially joined Lit when I was single, like I am again now, as I love erotic Literature but love discussing sexual desires with others. There's a special kind of comfort in finding out that other people have the same kinds of fantasies and desires as you do.

However, on the other hand, I have to admit (and I spoke to another Lit user about this recently), I do love to read the forums going to and from work - there's a special kind of thrill for me when doing that too. Also, this time I've been posting on Lit for much longer than my previous periods on Lit and just generally find it overly enjoyable. I don't feel guilty about returning to Lit frequently, either. I'd be sharing fantasies, desires and fetishes with a partner if I currently had one.

All in all, Lit is so enjoyable that it keeps me coming back but it's not a problem for me, it doesn't affect my life in a negative way and I can function normally; therefore I don't feel it is an addiction. However, Lit is a wonderful place and I return for all of the reasons you listed: the colourful personalities, the connections, the stories, the fantasies and the fetishes that you aren't always able to talk about so freely or easily in ever day life.

I guess I feel at home to talk about really personal things, sex is very personal. So, I see it this way, I come home every day and sometimes want to stay at home more than usual. That's what Literotica is to me, a home for my sexuality. It's a place for expression and I'm glad I found it.

I must add though, if I ever were addicted, I most definitely would not seek help!

 

[Lexi_6]

That's what Literotica is to me, a home for my sexuality. It's a place for expression and I'm glad I found it.

I so agree, well said!

 

[Lexi_6]

That's what Literotica is to me, a home for my sexuality. It's a place for expression and I'm glad I found it.

Sorry, still new and trying to figure it out.....

 

[goodsonformom]

it's a very interesting question.

On one hand, I wouldn't say I am addicted. If I can't get on to Lit, I don't worry about it or get antsy about needing to be here. I was an on/off lurker and, even now, I have to say that I post on Lit for a while and, for whatever reason, don't come back for a couple of months whether its due to my personal life, work or something else. I don't miss Lit during that time either, or really have any withdrawal symptoms that are associated with addictions (only if you can exclude sexual frustration...). I initially joined Lit when I was single, like I am again now, as I love erotic Literature but love discussing sexual desires with others. There's a special kind of comfort in finding out that other people have the same kinds of fantasies and desires as you do.

However, on the other hand, I have to admit (and I spoke to another Lit user about this recently), I do love to read the forums going to and from work - there's a special kind of thrill for me when doing that too. Also, this time I've been posting on Lit for much longer than my previous periods on Lit and just generally find it overly enjoyable. I don't feel guilty about returning to Lit frequently, either. I'd be sharing fantasies, desires and fetishes with a partner if I currently had one.

All in all, Lit is so enjoyable that it keeps me coming back but it's not a problem for me, it doesn't affect my life in a negative way and I can function normally; therefore I don't feel it is an addiction. However, Lit is a wonderful place and I return for all of the reasons you listed: the colourful personalities, the connections, the stories, the fantasies and the fetishes that you aren't always able to talk about so freely or easily in ever day life.

I guess I feel at home to talk about really personal things, sex is very personal. So, I see it this way, I come home every day and sometimes want to stay at home more than usual. That's what Literotica is to me, a home for my sexuality. It's a place for expression and I'm glad I found it.

I must add though, if I ever were addicted, I most definitely would not seek help!

Thank you MmmMadam for the very honest and wonderful post. You hit many of the things that we all feel.......but most importantly you said it was "a home for my sexuality".....what a wonderful way to describe this place and what it provides for you........and many of us as well.....Bravo!.......

 

[goodsonformom]

That's what Literotica is to me, a home for my sexuality. It's a place for expression and I'm glad I found it.

I so agree, well said!

*nods*.......You are so right Lexi......Thank you!

 

[tiedtits4me]

I wouldn't say i was addicted.
I've walked away before but i'll admit i hadn't made nearly as many friends as i have now.
Nor did i follow as many threads as i do now lol.

It was a liberating thing to find i wasn't alone in some of the things i like.
And being able to talk to people about those things can be pretty great too.

Could i walk away tomorrow?.....yes. Would i have to stop myself from coming back to check on things?....yes lol.

It's a great, safe way to let my sexual side out so even if i was addicted i think it would be a healthy addiction lol.
Plus there is some pretty FANTASTIC people here that i would miss if i left.

 

[DaddyJohn]

it's a very interesting question.

On one hand, I wouldn't say I am addicted. If I can't get on to Lit, I don't worry about it or get antsy about needing to be here. I was an on/off lurker and, even now, I have to say that I post on Lit for a while and, for whatever reason, don't come back for a couple of months whether its due to my personal life, work or something else. I don't miss Lit during that time either, or really have any withdrawal symptoms that are associated with addictions (only if you can exclude sexual frustration...). I initially joined Lit when I was single, like I am again now, as I love erotic Literature but love discussing sexual desires with others. There's a special kind of comfort in finding out that other people have the same kinds of fantasies and desires as you do.

However, on the other hand, I have to admit (and I spoke to another Lit user about this recently), I do love to read the forums going to and from work - there's a special kind of thrill for me when doing that too. Also, this time I've been posting on Lit for much longer than my previous periods on Lit and just generally find it overly enjoyable. I don't feel guilty about returning to Lit frequently, either. I'd be sharing fantasies, desires and fetishes with a partner if I currently had one.

All in all, Lit is so enjoyable that it keeps me coming back but it's not a problem for me, it doesn't affect my life in a negative way and I can function normally; therefore I don't feel it is an addiction. However, Lit is a wonderful place and I return for all of the reasons you listed: the colourful personalities, the connections, the stories, the fantasies and the fetishes that you aren't always able to talk about so freely or easily in ever day life.

I guess I feel at home to talk about really personal things, sex is very personal. So, I see it this way, I come home every day and sometimes want to stay at home more than usual. That's what Literotica is to me, a home for my sexuality. It's a place for expression and I'm glad I found it.

I must add though, if I ever were addicted, I most definitely would not seek help!

Thank you MmmMadam for the very honest and wonderful post. You hit many of the things that we all feel.......but most importantly you said it was "a home for my sexuality".....what a wonderful way to describe this place and what it provides for you........and many of us as well.....Bravo!.......

I had to quote both of you here.....MmmMadam and GSFM......she put it very eloquantly......and GFSM hit the highlights for me.....I have made a few very deep and intense connections through this site.....it is also a wonderful place to come and relax....knowing that you will not......for the most part.....be judged on your fetishes or kinks......I love the threads.....I love the stories........but like almost everyone else has said.......I love the people.....the personalities and the interactions between them.

And MmmMadam's closing line......SPOT ON.......if it is one.....I don't want to be cured either

 

[Holley]

We all come here for a reason....some because we're in search of intimacy with another......some for companionship...a connection...some for the the shear desire to be lustful.....sexual....

Once here....can we escape the draw....the compulsion...the obsession to walk away...what keep's you coming back...is it a person...a fetish...an act...images....stories?

Are you addicted?....

If so when did you recognize it....do you find ways to rationalize your cravings....can you be humorous about it....do you have guilt ridden feelings? Share with us about it.......be honest......

I'm sexually addicted, no secret. But I com here for lustful and sexual side, the stores keep me coming back.
I'm not here for a personal connection or companionship.
Not being a writer or a very good story teller, I appreciate those that are so good at it. They can take the simpless exprience and make it so exciting.

 

[goodsonformom]

I wouldn't say i was addicted.
I've walked away before but i'll admit i hadn't made nearly as many friends as i have now.
Nor did i follow as many threads as i do now lol.

It was a liberating thing to find i wasn't alone in some of the things i like.
And being able to talk to people about those things can be pretty great too.

Could i walk away tomorrow?.....yes. Would i have to stop myself from coming back to check on things?....yes lol.

It's a great, safe way to let my sexual side out so even if i was addicted i think it would be a healthy addiction lol.
Plus there is some pretty FANTASTIC people here that i would miss if i left.

Again, a great word......this site is "liberating" to many.....a great place to come and discover more about your self.....expand your sexual word in the company of like minded people....... thank you tiedtits4me........lovely....

 

[goodsonformom]

I had to quote both of you here.....MmmMadam and GSFM......she put it very eloquantly......and GFSM hit the highlights for me.....I have made a few very deep and intense connections through this site.....it is also a wonderful place to come and relax....knowing that you will not......for the most part.....be judged on your fetishes or kinks......I love the threads.....I love the stories........but like almost everyone else has said.......I love the people.....the personalities and the interactions between them.

And MmmMadam's closing line......SPOT ON.......if it is one.....I don't want to be cured either

Nuff said my friend........Bravo......"SPOT ON!"......

 

[goodsonformom]

I'm sexually addicted, no secret. But I com here for lustful and sexual side, the stores keep me coming back.
I'm not here for a personal connection or companionship.
Not being a writer or a very good story teller, I appreciate those that are so good at it. They can take the simpless exprience and make it so exciting.

Perfect!

BTW....it is a great place to meet people....like taking a leap into the darkness and finding the world is not so dark and alone........so many like minded folks sharing and hungering to share and engage......

 

[Boundlife]

I lied. I am addicted to Lit. There are times when coming here is painful, self torture...but I still come back

 

[goodsonformom]

I lied. I am addicted to Lit. There are times when coming here is painful, self torture...but I still come back

Guilty as charged!.........lol!

 

[DarkPleasures]

Now, if I could curb this addiction some, perhaps I could finish a damn story.

 

[goodsonformom]

Now, if I could curb this addiction some, perhaps I could finish a damn story.

*nods*.....you and me both.......

 

[peachesmelba]

*nods*.....you and me both.......

*Raising a hand* Yeah, I'm in that pool!!!!

 

[peachesmelba]

Perfect!

BTW....it is a great place to meet people....like taking a leap into the darkness and finding the world is not so dark and alone........so many like minded folks sharing and hungering to share and engage......

Makes you wonder sometimes doesn't it GS - who really IS normal (and what qualifies them as normal) when there are so damn many of us 'pervs' out here having a good time...... (Personally, sometimes I think they're all just a bunch of neurotic liars)

 

[goodsonformom]

I lied. I am addicted to Lit. There are times when coming here is painful, self torture...but I still come back

*BlInks*........

 

[goodsonformom]

*Raising a hand* Yeah, I'm in that pool!!!!

Yup.........Gotta an oar?....

 

[goodsonformom]

Makes you wonder sometimes doesn't it GS - who really IS normal (and what qualifies them as normal) when there are so damn many of us 'pervs' out here having a good time...... (Personally, sometimes I think they're all just a bunch of neurotic liars)

God I hope not Peaches......but I wonder a lot lately about the people here and the desire to make a connection and all of the sadness and anxiety.......seems there are a lot of us hungry for intimacy and so many are unhappy.....then I think about who had a hand in their unhappiness....was it the high expectations...or someone making promises not kept......I know I have had a couple of intense relationships here on Lit and with one I am still just friends with although she no longer visits.....but is a very honest woman.........and then......well the other is very special......and.....it is what it is........I'm sure you understand......

 

[peachesmelba]

Yup.........Gotta an oar?....

No oars, left them up the creek....but I have a bucket - I can bail

 

[goodsonformom]

No oars, left them up the creek....but I have a bucket - I can bail

Hurry up.....I think this boat is sinking........


BAIL!!!!!!!!!!............

 

[peachesmelba]

God I hope not Peaches......but I wonder a lot lately about the people here and the desire to make a connection and all of the sadness and anxiety.......seems there are a lot of us hungry for intimacy and so many are unhappy.....then I think about who had a hand in their unhappiness....was it the high expectations...or someone making promises not kept......I know I have had a couple of intense relationships here on Lit and with one I am still just friends with although she no longer visits.....but is a very honest woman.........and then......well the other is very special......and.....it is what it is........I'm sure you understand......

I find myself wondering sometimes if perhaps the same thing that makes us (to some) 'pervs' - our honesty, openness, adventurousness, willingness to risk and experience - doesn't also make us more willing to admit the loneliness at our core. Whereas those who cannot admit to lustful feelings and passionate emotions also cannot admit to their own vulnerability and need for another - cannot allow themselves to be 'out of control' in anything - in any way, While the rest of us understand - we are always two halves seeking to become one whole..........