Actions speak louder than words

[Cheyenne]

I believe this and this is how I judge what someone has said to me for truthfulness. You?

 

[Ally C]

I agree ...

... but any thoughts on how this translates to 'here', where 'actions' are in fact 'words'?

 

[Cheyenne]

Re: I agree ...

... but any thoughts on how this translates to 'here', where 'actions' are in fact 'words'?

Not necessarily true, I think. You still "do" or "don't do" things here.

 

[Ally C]

uh-huh,

yes, I'd agree with that too. There are 'rules and regulations' here just as in RL. I just wondered about any specific differences. I'm reminded of a similar subject I posted on before, but can't remember which one - if I come across it, I'll post it here.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

I agree 100%!!

For instance, when the hubby says he wants to "get it on" later in the evening after the kids go to bed (this said at 4 p.m. when I pick him up from work) - and then he spends that time starting a computer game, messing with his e-mail, talking on the phone, reading, or watching TV...I take it to mean he really doesn't want to.

When I say I want to have sex after the kids go to bed...I can't keep my hands off him all evening. I shoot him sexy looks across the dinner table. I talk suggestively to him. I rub against him or touch him whenever the opportunity presents itself. Then, after the kids are all sent to and/or tucked into bed...I pounce on him and we end up doing it on the sofa!

In this society especially, we learn to say whatever will make us look good or what we think the other person wants to hear much more often than we speak the truth.

 

[indyweasel]

action vs. words

its more fun to do it than to talk about it.

CountessD - Dont you and I have some unfinished business to take care of?

 

[Ally C]

lovely description:

In this society especially, we learn to say whatever will make us look good or what we think the other person wants to hear much more often than we speak the truth.

Wow! Never a truer word spoken Countess. Well said ...

 

[indyweasel]

In this society especially, we learn to say whatever will make us look good or what we think the other person wants to hear much more often than we speak the truth.

Then why do people get punished for speaking the truth, when it is not the answer that they want to hear!! And who is to blame for that?

The media, our instant gratification society, etc, etc..

 

[TonyG]

Originally posted by Cheyenne
I believe this and this is how I judge what someone has said to me for truthfulness. You?

Very much the same as you. The problem comes in when one misinterprets an action and becomes angry or hurt, which is what can easily happen on a BB. I know because I have done that and sometimes still struggle with 'actions' on the BB.

Originally posted by Countess DeWinterIn this society especially, we learn to say whatever will make us look good or what we think the other person wants to hear much more often than we speak the truth.

Yes, I agree that people have a tendency to do just that; E.G. getting that special job, making your in-laws like you, flirting on a BB.

When one is often in the company of certain people physically it becomes easy to detect truthful actions, The BB is a whole different story; we can only go buy what and how something is written. We can easily be misled and it is easier to mislead.

 

[Ally C]

That's what I think too Tony. I have to say that the amount of times I have been taken out of context has been surprising. It seems like it can usually be all or nothing here, given the lack of immediate everyday physical reference points. The 'permanence' of the written word carries a lot of force too. I've commented elsewhere about the difference between writing here and in Chat. Also, I seem to feel like I'm not using the same 'language' at times: you know, like an unwritten etiquette (beyond Lit's own 'Rules'). Everything's so much more open to interpretation ... but I continue to come back in the hope that I'll one day get the hang of this all.

 

[TonyG]

Ally C

I think you have the hang of it just fine.


Yes, the written word does have a lot of force, I agree. The same sentence posted in one thread can have an entirly different meaning when used verbatim in another thread. Also, words and phrases can sometimes become meaningless on the BB when used over and over within different threads because it is hard to tell when they are true or not.

 

[Countess DeWinter]

In this society especially, we learn to say whatever will make us look good or what we think the other person wants to hear much more often than we speak the truth.

Then why do people get punished for speaking the truth, when it is not the answer that they want to hear!! And who is to blame for that?

The media, our instant gratification society, etc, etc..

I've learned that if I'm not prepared to hear the honest answer...I don't ask the question.


and yes...we do seem to have so me unfinished business

 

[Ally C]

Do-Re-Me: Ally C

I think you have the hang of it just fine.


Yes, the written word does have a lot of force, I agree. The same sentence posted in one thread can have an entirly different meaning when used verbatim in another thread. Also, words and phrases can sometimes become meaningless on the BB when used over and over within different threads because it is hard to tell when they are true or not.

Thanks Tony. It's also hard to tell when something is said in fun (or not). Not all the time, but it can lead to misunderstandings ...

 

[Jade]

Depends on the situation but... I am pretty deeply into body language as far as one on one stuff goes.

 

[Cheyenne]

Depends on the situation but... I am pretty deeply into body language as far as one on one stuff goes.

That could be a perfect example of "actions louder than words."

 

[Isabella Thorne]

Deliver what You promise

well if it is an online friend ... there really is no reason to deliver what you promise ... right? i mean if it is all fantasy ...

but well yea in real life, if you talk the talk and walk the walk ... deliver what you promise
___________________________
ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS

You exploded into my life
A shot heard around my world
You changed everything

It took some time to find the ground
I think my reason
Has caught up with me

Love is strong, but life is long
Decision is upon us
You can kick my tires girl
I'll deliver what I promise

Action speaks louder than words
Action speaks louder than words
Action speaks louder than words
It's sink or swim
We won't find out
Till we jump in

Will our love keep us afloat
Here come the rapids girl, to test our will
And if the weather tips our boat
We might lose everything can we pay that bill?

~Southside Johnny and the Asbury Jukes~

 

[Cheyenne]

For all the Democrats here who complained about the political threads, feeling that any attack against a Democrat was an attack against ALL Democrats: Actions speak louder than words.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=26236

 

[Thomas Paine]

Isabella

A woman who frequents an erotica site AND quotes Southside Johnny? Will you marry me?

 

[Never]

One vague statement after another.
What actions and which words? Circumstance is 9/10th of what I judge both on.