Abusive relationships

[SheaLima]

There has been a pattern with me for a few years now with dominant men. I didn't realize it at first, but most of these relationships have been abusive. Being taken advantage of has been a strong theme in my life. I have mistaken ownership and fascination over me for love many times. Only recently with a counselor have I been able to see this as true. Does anyone else feel the same or have experienced this in relationships? Thank you.

 

[ms_ann_thrope]

There has been a pattern with me for a few years now with dominant men. I didn't realize it at first, but most of these relationships have been abusive. Being taken advantage of has been a strong theme in my life. I have mistaken ownership and fascination over me for love many times. Only recently with a counselor have I been able to see this as true. Does anyone else feel the same or have experienced this in relationships? Thank you.

I think it takes a very special type of person to repeatedly find themselves in an abusive relationship.

 

[Queersetti]

There has been a pattern with me for a few years now with dominant men. I didn't realize it at first, but most of these relationships have been abusive. Being taken advantage of has been a strong theme in my life. I have mistaken ownership and fascination over me for love many times. Only recently with a counselor have I been able to see this as true. Does anyone else feel the same or have experienced this in relationships? Thank you.

You are paying a therapist, but you want advice from us for free?

Honey, you ain't that fascinating.

 

[SheaLima]

You are paying a therapist, but you want advice from us for free?

Honey, you ain't that fascinating.

I'm not paying for a therapist and not once did I ask for advice.

 

[SheaLima]

I think it takes a very special type of person to repeatedly find themselves in an abusive relationship.

Can you expand on that please.

 

[Setanta84]

People always kidded me that I liked my women "hot and crazy." And I was able to laugh it off for a while--until I got engaged to a seriously disturbed woman who more or less drove me to a complete breakdown during a personal health crisis.

It's good you're seeing a counselor. Eventually, you'll get to the part where you realize the reason you're drawn to these people is that you are, on some level, trying to change/relive the past.

It'll take time and pain but eventually you'll learn to forgive yourself, let go of things, and move on to healthier relationships.

 

[Queersetti]

I'm not paying for a therapist and not once did I ask for advice.

So, when you said counselor, you meant, like, a camp counselor or something?

 

[SheaLima]

So, when you said counselor, you meant, like, a camp counselor or something?

There is a student counseling center where I attend college. Students receive help for free as long as they are enrolled.

 

[Aella_]

There is a student counseling center where I attend college. Students receive help for free as long as they are enrolled.

Gosh, I thought you were much older than that. Your posts in the other thread (as well as this one) were v. mature.

 

[SheaLima]

Gosh, I thought you were much older than that. Your posts in the other thread were v. mature.

I've always felt like an adult.

 

[Aella_]

First born, huh.
My sis is just like that; and she achieved things much quicker than I did.

 

[SheaLima]

First born, huh.
My sis is just like that; and she achieved things much quicker than I did.

I was forced to be independent at a young age. It's been good though. I'm not complaining

 

[Queersetti]

Gosh, I thought you were much older than that. Your posts in the other thread (as well as this one) were v. mature.

Yeah, I definitely thought she was older.

 

[Killswitch1]

Find a guy who's a pussy. Become dominant or domineering.

 

[SheaLima]

Find a guy who's a pussy. Become dominant or domineering.

I don't want to be dominant. Being a good person is my goal, and I want this to be true of the next person I date.

 

[Killswitch1]

I don't want to be dominant. Being a good person is my goal, and I want this to be true of the next person I date.

Well relax for a while. You're 22 and from "out of town". I fear everyone you meet is going to be a tool.

 

[snugglestruggle]

Well relax for a while. You're 22 and from "out of town". I fear everyone you meet is going to be a tool.

Before the night is over, someone is going to accuse you of being a White knight lol

 

[Magicscreen2]

This reminds me of the Vicky Mendoza Diagonal.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Too young for that shit.

 

[SheaLima]

Too young for that shit.

It's been a learning lesson, but I'm understanding now.

 

[smoothg103rd]

It's been a learning lesson, but I'm understanding now.

Hope so.

 

[PoppingTom]

I don't want to be dominant.

Prefer to be submissive?

Being a good person is my goal, and I want this to be true of the next person I date.

You're the best person that's possible if you are yourself and love yourself for that.

Maybe you need 20 more years to realize that.

 

[smoothg103rd]

Prefer to be submissive?



You're the best person that's possible if you are yourself and love yourself for that.

Maybe you need 20 more years to realize that.

Stfu.

 

[PoppingTom]

Stfu.

What's the eleven?

 

[smoothg103rd]

What's the eleven?

10+1,9+2,8+3, 7+4, 6+5