About virgins...

[lovetoread]

I know that there is alot of teasing about having a virgin and teaching that person all that you know,but would you really want one?

I guess by now most of you know that I am a sub,I accept that and go on with life,but for me to have a virgin (this is only in theory dear Tiger) I would have to be the dom and tell this person what to do. Not a turn on at all.


What about you? Would you want to take on the job of "teaching" sex to another person?

 

[lobito]

How does a guy answer this honestly, without people thinking he's lying?

I guess some would say, yep, it's an honor to be someone's first, in some cases I guess it is. Would I want to? That's a hard call. I'm not naturally a very good teacher at all. I hate explaining things to someone, when I can just show them. Maybe that's the key, showing instead of explaining...

This is a tough question, that I should have thought about more, before trying to type something out just yet.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Nah, I long-ago outgrew any fascination with totally inexperienced partners.

 

[*bratcat*]

No

 

[Nathon_88]

Would I want to teach someone? I don't think so......not as I am.......I mean, I'm still looking FOR a teacher.....My tongue knows what to do, but the rest of me is sort of iffy......

*smiles* But.....don't start coming on to me, offering to teach me. I've signed up for classes.

 

[juicylips]

YES!! YES!!

I just need some volunteers to raise their hands.


I would have no problem with it, ltr. I would hope I would get a fast learner.

But..not too fast

JL

 

[AzureAngel]

I'd rather take on the job of teaching the person good communciation. Even an experienced partner could give you the worst sex of your life without some adequate communication - which would be teaching.

 

[lovetoread]

I thought,and this is going to sound sexiest,that all the guys would be saying that they wanted a virgin. That the thought of a hot, tight pussy would be calling out for them.....

But looking back at when I lost my viginity...man I would not want to go through that as a guy.

 

[Nathon_88]

I thought,and this is going to sound sexiest,that all the guys would be saying that they wanted a virgin. That the thought of a hot, tight pussy would be calling out for them.....

But looking back at when I lost my viginity...man I would not want to go through that as a guy.

Bah....a tight, hot pussy doesn't mean NOTHING if they're too afraid to use it right.......

 

[AzureAngel]

Oh wait, I really didn't answer the question, did I? Heh. I don't think it'd matter. For a one-off deal, hit and run... I'd rather not have a virgin. Placing all of the attachment issues aside and the trauma involved... I'd prefer someone with range.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

What about you? Would you want to take on the job of "teaching" sex to another person?

Well if someone is going to take the time and teach me. why Not me teach them at the same time?

 

[badasschick]

Couldn't do it. I'd end up feeling that I'd have to mother them, rather than turn that ass out.

then they end up getting attached to me, and I'm no good at that.

Then afterward, it's years of therapy for them.

I can see it now, being served by some law clerk with flowers and a suit for bodily harm and emotional distress. I'd probably end up "serving" the law clerk myself if he was hot.

Nope no virgins for me.

 

[Pixie]

I did and wish I hadn't.

 

[Nathon_88]

Makes a mental note to get a job as a law clerk in Southern California.

 

[tn_8tiv]

No thanks LTR. Experience is soooo much better than complete innocence. I don't believe I could undertake the responsiblity of transforming a totally inexperienced person into a sexual being.

But then again, sexual satisfaction is more a state of mind than physical anyway. Funny how fucking for the sake of fucking leaves you wanting something more. If love strikes and it happens to be a virgin, I guess everything else would find a way!

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Nah, I long-ago outgrew any fascination with totally inexperienced partners.

Same here. No more virgins, thank you. Young, inexperienced, and eager to learn more is okay.

 

[Lasz]

Re: YES!! YES!!

I just need some volunteers to raise their hands.


I would have no problem with it, ltr. I would hope I would get a fast learner.

But..not too fast

JL

Raises Hand!!!

Ooo pick me, pick me!!!

 

[lovetoread]

Ok if the cherry was on the other foot...


thinking back to how you lost yours,would you change it in any way?

 

[Pixie]

Ok if the cherry was on the other foot...


thinking back to how you lost yours,would you change it in any way?

No, I had fun that night
It was a good experience with a friend.

 

[unclej]

i have and would again...the first time i was young and a jerk and didn't know she was a virgin until it was over...

the second time i was 35-36 years old and she was 24 and still a virgin...you cannot imagine what an honor it was when she asked me to teach her...the first night we played for a long, long time and when the time came she got scared so we just cuddled...the next night she had a couple of glasses of wine and relaxed and we made love 'til damn near dawn..we dated casually and continued the sex for about six months and then she met someone that she eventually married...that sucker should still be sending me dividend checks....

it was a thrill and an experience i won't forget and if i knew it could be like that again i wouldn't hesitate for a second...

 

[virginleo20]

Well to me its not a matter of dominance any relationship is a partnership of equals...

Personaly since im a "virgin" i would rather have a relationship with one whom is that way as well...
Mostly just to avoid all of the power games "more experienced" women/ people would play with me... but then again thats my experience and a completely different story.

As to sex the lack of an actual experience does not mean the lack of knowledge, confidence or understanding on the subject...
and anyone whom thinks otherwise has propably never read a book, fantasised about it or anything else like that etc...

AS well as with someone whom has had several partners... and with that experience it does not mean that he/she has any actual knowledge or understanding on the matter...

So the question of dominance vs submissive behavior has nothing to do with a persons virginity but rather their personality type... or shall we go on to a psychological analysis of S&M play etc...

but the again the question is propably based on some stereotypical view of virginity and all that...

 

[virginleo20]

just to pointout an other thing

Just to throw an other bone to the equation...

A perfect mate for me

Someone who has confidence
-someone who is unasuming
-someone who is friendly and intelligent
-does not drink
-does not smoke or use any other drugs
-in nonreligious
-is not afraid to aproach the opposite sex
-someone whom has neverhad sex
-someone whom values long term relationships/ friendships over all else
And most important of all is that she is that way due to her own experiences and understanding of the world around her and not because she was brought up that way.


but the again i just described my self there...

and whats the propability of finding a woman like that...

Pretty much none huh


By the way every time i have mentioned that i have been verbally assaulted by people reading it and all i can say is that
relax i dont care about your mistakes and insecurities... and try to
think of that in terms of its well countradictory reality to the
usual stereotypes of "virgins" ...

I just find it funny.

 

[Ishmael]

I know that there is alot of teasing about having a virgin and teaching that person all that you know,but would you really want one?

I guess by now most of you know that I am a sub,I accept that and go on with life,but for me to have a virgin (this is only in theory dear Tiger) I would have to be the dom and tell this person what to do. Not a turn on at all.


What about you? Would you want to take on the job of "teaching" sex to another person?

Nope, I wouldn't want the responsibility. Call me old fashioned, but I think that a woman surrendering her virginity to someone is a special gift. I wouldn't want to deprive her of the pleasure that she might have giving herself to someone that could truly make a commitment to her. The probabliity of my finding a virgin in my acceptable age range is mighty slim. So, no I'll pass on this one.

Ishmael