About the term "switch"

[AG31]

Is it only used for dom/sub situations? Or can it also be used when a top takes the bottom role?

 

[Winter_Fare]

Is it only used for dom/sub situations? Or can it also be used when a top takes the bottom role?

No, in gay vanilla situation you want "vers" I think x

EDIT: abbreviation of versatile

 

[Kumquatqueen]

If you mean top/bottom as in S/M, yes. If you mean penetrator and penetratee, no - you want vers, versatile, flexible, etc.

 

[lc69hunter]

Is it only used for dom/sub situations? Or can it also be used when a top takes the bottom role?

I am a switch, and not into the BDSM scene. To me, it is meaningless unless you are in a loving trusting relationship with another switch, who understands the dynamics of each role. I was in an almost two year relationship with one, and probably once a month or so, one of us would give up control for a weekend. It is a different headspace to be in. We had safewords, but neither of us ever used them. It never was about BDSM or anything close. It was all about sexual power and who was doing what to whom.

 

[MillieDynamite]

The switch is all about what I whip your ass with. Remember, words can have more than one meaning.

 

[gunhilltrain]

The switch is all about what I whip your ass with. Remember, words can have more than one meaning.

Would birch rods be best for that? It has yet another meaning.

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[Altissimus]

Is it only used for dom/sub situations? Or can it also be used when a top takes the bottom role?

The correct answer is 'yes it can', but the other answers are more entertaining.

 

[AG31]

The correct answer is 'yes it can', but the other answers are more entertaining.

Oh, dear.
Can you give me a hint of your credentials?
How many people would agree with the earlier respondees if I name my gay story Switch?? I like it a lot better than Versatility.

 

[AG31]

No, in gay vanilla situation you want "vers" I think x

EDIT: abbreviation of versatile

It looked like the responses were going in a clear direction, but then @Altissimus pops up with a different take.

So I'm asking each of you to give me a picture of your background. Are you a gay male? A member of a bdsm community? Etc., etc.

As I said to Altissimus, I much prefer Switch over Versatility as a story title, but not if it makes me look stupid.

Thanks much!

 

[AG31]

If you mean top/bottom as in S/M, yes. If you mean penetrator and penetratee, no - you want vers, versatile, flexible, etc.

It looked like the responses were going in a clear direction, but then @Altissimus pops up with a different take.

So I'm asking each of you to give me a picture of your background. Are you a gay male? A member of a bdsm community? Etc., etc.

As I said to Altissimus, I much prefer Switch over Versatility as a story title, but not if it makes me look stupid.

Thanks much!

 

[AG31]

No, in gay vanilla situation you want "vers" I think x

EDIT: abbreviation of versatile

It looked like the responses were going in a clear direction, but then @Altissimus pops up with a different take.

So I'm asking each of you to give me a picture of your background. Are you a gay male? A member of a bdsm community? Etc., etc.

As I said to Altissimus, I much prefer Switch over Versatility as a story title, but not if it makes me look stupid.

Thanks much!

 

[Altissimus]

I missed the part where you said it was gay. I have no experience in that domain and bow to the wisdom of my learned colleagues. I was responding purely from a D/s T/b perspective in traditional BDSM parlance.

 

[MillieDynamite]

More of a top-and-bottom thing on LGBTQ. But still has the same meaning: someone is in control, the other one isn't.

I missed the part where you said it was gay. I have no experience in that domain and bow to the wisdom of my learned colleagues. I was responding purely from a D/s T/b perspective in traditional BDSM parlance.

 

[Winter_Fare]

As I said to Altissimus, I much prefer Switch over Versatility as a story title, but not if it makes me look stupid

I'm not into labels myself but my 100% gay nephew assures me that switch is distinct from verse, and they aren't interchangeable.

 

[MillieDynamite]

I don't know about others, but versatile implies to me trying things in different places, different positions, or she has a very flexible body. Trust me, nothing wrong with any of that.

I'm not into labels myself but my 100% gay nephew assures me that switch is distinct from verse, and they aren't interchangeable.

 

[theWollstonecraftWoman]

I have no idea what you people are talking about. Oh, my G*d, you're all so nasty! I love that about y'all.

 

[Altissimus]

How many people would agree with the earlier respondees if I name my gay story Switch?? I like it a lot better than Versatility.

How about naming it "Top and Bottom"?

 

[Kumquatqueen]

It looked like the responses were going in a clear direction, but then @Altissimus pops up with a different take.

So I'm asking each of you to give me a picture of your background. Are you a gay male? A member of a bdsm community? Etc., etc.

As I said to Altissimus, I much prefer Switch over Versatility as a story title, but not if it makes me look stupid.

Thanks much!

It's not that you can't refer to changing top/bottom sexual positions as switching or being a switch, but it can be confusing (to anyone at all into BDSM, at least).

Vers seems to have become a common term in the last five years or more - in my days reading the ads in gay male mags it wasn't used - I think 'flexible' or 'switcher' or 't/b' was. So age of characters and location may be relevant.

I think you could use Switch as a title as long as it was clear from category and the first few paragraphs of your story what kind of switching you mean.

(I'm not a man, not surrounded by as many queer men as I used to be, and have a BDSM queer background)

 

[MillieDynamite]

Bottom and top are more common to LGBTQ than switch. Some of us switch between them, some of us don't, and some of... never mind.

 

[JaxRhapsody]

Switch is pretty much s bdsm term. Period. It's not that deep.