About that prostrate...

[cymbidia]

He he, I kinda figured that , but I bought one , and never used it. It's kind of intimidating me...when do you take it off, was more what I was wondering. This is cool, thanks woman

Kinda depends on the power exchange relationship between you and him, darlin. Are you Domme or Top? Then you decide when the thing comes off - often that's way after all the fireworks have died down for both of you, so i hear.

If, however, you've got an egalitarian thing going between you and he has an equal say in the matter, i guess he'd be the one to say when the thing should come off.

 

[Texan]

The body isn't a baseball field or a football field. There aren't any foul lines or out-of-bounds lines.

I say, get naked and take a shower together, or get into the hot tub or pool.... that should wash away any boundaries that prevent the whole body from being a playground.

 

[lavender]

 

[CRaZy]

I learned all about the prostate years ago from a friend who used to be a prostitute. She said it was an old trick - the guy pays for 30 minutes but you do the old prostrate massage and he's finished in three minutes. She also vouched that in most cases it finished him for good - no chance of a repeat effort for his money - LOL. I have had partners who really enjoy the stimulation. Unfortunately Panadolboy is adverse to all things anal. Ooops, I forgot, he's adverse to ALL things to do with sex. LOL.

 

[Coggie]

(If he's homophobic at all [~yawn~ what a boring waste of time homophobia is, hmmm?] THIS is when it'll show up, After all, nice boys aren't supposed to like anything feeling good while it pokes into his ass, right? Only queers like that kinda crap.)

cym

I may be having a touchy day, excuse pun, but isn't that a little damming?

It doesn't seem like you actually, clearly you have strong views but normally you're so careful not to condemn.

While I'm not into anal sex, prostrate stimulation or arse play I would hate to be labelled a homophobic. Just as importantly though I think homophobic men have a right to be just that. Although, of course, you are certainly entitled to your opinion your comments seem pretty close to ridicule, it's not like you at all.

I thought I'd play Devils Advocate, live and let live etc.

Coggie

PS....... ROFL....... I switched off my normal sig line for this thread

Coggie

 

[Guest]

I absolutely LOVE to have the prostate stimulated! I've had fingers and a vib back there several times. Without question some of the greatest orgasms I've ever had!

Just remember to be gentle, and use plenty of lube. If you think you've got enough -- add a little more.

Geez, I've got a boner just from thinking about this.

 

[cymbidia]

I may be having a touchy day, excuse pun, but isn't that a little damming?

You're right, Coggie, i chose my words thoughtlessly and without care for their injurious nature. I'm sorry.

Everyone has a right, of course, to enjoy sex in whatever manner they like it (excluding anything forced upon unwilling partners). If it includes ass play - or toe sucking - or just plain straight missionary sex - so be it. There's at least a couple people in the world for all of us, a few people who will not only like what we like but crave and want and love it.

Again, i meant no offense to anyone who doesn't want his prostate touched during sex, only offered the original idea because it's such a misunderstood source of pleasure for many.

Coggie? I've been waiting for someone to ridicule me for using "prostrate" instead of "prostate" in the thread title (which one cannot change after hitting "enter"). Please, feel free to do the honors and get it over with. I'll take it as penance for posting while bitchy (which should be against the law round here).

You're a good egg, Coggie. Thanks for calling me on this.
cym

 

[Coggie]

1 - I'm sorry.

2 - I've been waiting for someone to ridicule me for using "prostrate" instead of "prostate" ...............

Hey cym

1 - Nobody reading your posts would make anything of it other than you're having a "bad day at the office". I just wanted to add balance.

It's a testament to you that you apologised so sincerely and that the post was below the normal even handed high quality you have set yourself.

2 - Yeah right, like I noticed?

You're a great asset to Lit and I have continued to enjoy your posts during my visits, thanks.

 

[Expertise]

Lavender, yet again, reaffirms why I find her enchanting.

 

[beckbabe]

I like this thread. I'm actually learning something my mom never taught me. In other cultures they teach sexual secrets...here it is a secret. Screw the spelling. Thank you Cym

 

[lavender]

 

[mars99]

cym(or anyone),

I enjoy anal stimulation very much but I don't know if I've actually found my prostate. Where exactly is it and how do you find it? It sounds quite enjoyable. Hoping you can shed some light on the situation for me(pun intended, sorry.)

 

[cymbidia]

I enjoy anal stimulation very much but I don't know if I've actually found my prostate. Where exactly is it and how do you find it?

1. Put your finger inside your anus (you'll probably be more comfy if you use lube first).
2. Your prostate gland will be somewhere in the vicinity of 2" - 4" up, along the wall that is toward your bellybutton.
3. Press with some firmness; you'll know it when you find it.

Here's a pic of your insides, including your prostate:

 

[mars99]

Thanks cym! Can't wait to try it out I enjoy your threads and find them very educational. Are there any other "hidden" pleasure spots on a man or woman that you can share?

 

[willywanker]

I find myself on the opposite end of this than several of the fellows who have answered this thread. Yes, I know where it is, how to stimulate it and do enjoy it. But my wife is homophobic and seems to think me wanting anything up or even around my ass is going to turn me gay!!!!!

I really don't understand because she really enjoys and gets turned on by anal play on her. Fingers, tounge, toys and my penis have all been used to some great moments but try to talk to her about My Ass, and the discussion is over.

It is trully something I hope to experience with a partner. It feels good solo but I can just imagine the feelings when we are going at it hot and heavy in a sweaty 69, each of us mostioning a finger and letting it slid slowly up the hershey highway.

 

[Felsen]

Prostate stimulation

I have a latex probe, about 5" long and 1" around with 8-10 "ripples" on it, which attaches by suction to the end of a vibrator. Lubing this up nicely with "Wet" or similar water-soluble lubricant, I insert it in my rectum while masturbating. It reaches at least as far as my prostate and I turn the vibes off and on frequently while fisting myself. When I feel myself getting close to orgasm, I turn it on and leave it vibrating until the orgasm begins. At that point, I slowly slide the thing out. It intensifies the orgasm immensely, and the feel of my rectal sphincter squeezing the tube as it exits my body adds immeasurable pleasure to my orgasm.

I finally got up enough nerve to show the thing to one of my girlfriends and she got very excited about it. She gave me the most fantastic blow job she'd ever given me while doing what I've described above. As soon as my semen began spurting into her mouth, she eased it out and I thought my orgasm would go on forever. (Wishful thinking!)

I've also tried a vibrating "egg," which is a bit handier than the tube attached to a vibrator, since you have the control more readily available, but my sphincter contractions were so strong that I couldn't get the egg to exit my rectum.

Girls, unless your guy is violently homophobic, he'll grovel at your feet if you stimulate his prostate during sex or a blow job.

 

[shadowsource]

.

 

[cymbidia]

Perhaps some really graphic talk with one or more of them *before* the deed, maybe by way of verbal foreplay, would help?

Lots and lots of lube is really necessary there, i know, for men and women. You gotta just speak up about that one. Speaking up isn't complaining if you treat it only as a little snag in the action.

Think of it this way: don't you deserve to get some of what you give?

 

[lavender]

 

[vlvtelvis]

Stray thought:

I've always wondered if the exitence of the prostate gland in males has anything to do with the fact that many more males want to have anal sex with women than vice versa.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Stray thought:

I've always wondered if the exitence of the prostate gland in males has anything to do with the fact that many more males want to have anal sex with women than vice versa.

I wouldn't think so. For me the allure of anal sex with women (non-existant to have with men) is partially the taboo, partially the variety, partially the view and partially the pleasure for both partners - especially the latter; I don't think it would be fun at all if it wasn't fun for the woman also.

I do enjoy anal play also - both receiving and giving; assuming proper cleanliness is observed.

STG