A Womans Perspective

[pussyhammer2021]

Ok ladies...as a man, i am in need of a little insight from you. My wife and I have an amazing sex life, however, there is one area that I either dont trust her answers, or just cant wrap my head around the logic. We have a lot of discussions during sex about adding others into our bed...whether it be a MFM or an FFM or even another couple. We both get really turned on, and i have even bought her a fuck machine that we have used for DP with very positive results.

So here is my dilemma. After the post sex high, when we talk about the sex or our next adventure etc....she says she can really enjoy getting into these roles and truly finds them sexxy, but she has no desire for an actual other cock. Full disclosure, I used to not be able to make it this far with her so there has been a ton of progress. What I cant wrap my head around is that she says she only wants my cock, however, when we scroll thru lit and look at pics or i show her other cocks, she tells me what she likes about them. As a man, I see another woman I find attractive and of course I want to fuck her too. So I xant wrap my head around her admiring other cocks or other guys, and then believe she wouldnt want to enjoy them. Makes me feel like she thinks she will be judged, even tho I am the one that has brought her this far in our discussions. Is it possible that some women truly feel this way or am I right in thinking its just BS. I have told her numerous times that the only way I would feel betrayed would be if she went behind my back, but things we discuss and are on the same page with are all fair game. If it is possible that this is how a lot of womans brains can work, then women need to cut us men some slack bc that is an odd concept to us.

 

[Plasmaball]

Did you name your machine?

 

[pussyhammer2021]

Did you name your machine?

No...not yet haha. Only had it a little over a week so were just gettin started down that path

 

[ConstanceEvermuse]

That's a line in the sand for me. Nothing to do with judgement or trust, just not how I'm wired. If it doesn't belong to me, I don't wanna touch it, and I don't want it touching me.

Caused some ugly issues in my marriage due to pushing for what I couldn't give, but that's simply a step too far for me personally.

If you've got a ballot box for naming the machine, I vote for "Stanley."

 

[Glassnslate]

Ok ladies...as a man, i am in need of a little insight from you. My wife and I have an amazing sex life, however, there is one area that I either dont trust her answers, or just cant wrap my head around the logic. We have a lot of discussions during sex about adding others into our bed...whether it be a MFM or an FFM or even another couple. We both get really turned on, and i have even bought her a fuck machine that we have used for DP with very positive results.

So here is my dilemma. After the post sex high, when we talk about the sex or our next adventure etc....she says she can really enjoy getting into these roles and truly finds them sexxy, but she has no desire for an actual other cock. Full disclosure, I used to not be able to make it this far with her so there has been a ton of progress. What I cant wrap my head around is that she says she only wants my cock, however, when we scroll thru lit and look at pics or i show her other cocks, she tells me what she likes about them. As a man, I see another woman I find attractive and of course I want to fuck her too. So I xant wrap my head around her admiring other cocks or other guys, and then believe she wouldnt want to enjoy them. Makes me feel like she thinks she will be judged, even tho I am the one that has brought her this far in our discussions. Is it possible that some women truly feel this way or am I right in thinking its just BS. I have told her numerous times that the only way I would feel betrayed would be if she went behind my back, but things we discuss and are on the same page with are all fair game. If it is possible that this is how a lot of womans brains can work, then women need to cut us men some slack bc that is an odd concept to us.

Just my opinion….

Kudos to you for being able to have the discussions that you have. Talking about other men and women together, looking at pictures, fantasizing, and role-playing about them is pretty fucking hot. That is a big step. There are not a lot of couples that get to that point.

Going beyond the conversations and including another person or people is a big step. Sometimes it is best to leave certain things as a fantasy and role-play. Other times couples are able to make moving forward work out well for them.

My husband and I were married for 17 years before we had a threesome. We were very particular about who we wanted to participate with. When we finally decided to go for it, it was awesome. That threesome morphed into a foursome. We had many many good times with that couple over a four month period. Then it sort of fizzled out.

Our experience started well, went well, and when it ended, it ended well. It does not always go that way for a lot of couples. We would like to do it again and more, but finding the right person or people is not easy in my opinion.

Glass

 

[pussyhammer2021]

Just my opinion….

Kudos to you for being able to have the discussions that you have. Talking about other men and women together, looking at pictures, fantasizing, and role-playing about them is pretty fucking hot. That is a big step. There are not a lot of couples that get to that point.

Going beyond the conversations and including another person or people is a big step. Sometimes it is best to leave certain things as a fantasy and role-play. Other times couples are able to make moving forward work out well for them.

My husband and I were married for 17 years before we had a threesome. We were very particular about who we wanted to participate with. When we finally decided to go for it, it was awesome. That threesome morphed into a foursome. We had many many good times with that couple over a four month period. Then it sort of fizzled out.

Our experience started well, went well, and when it ended, it ended well. It does not always go that way for a lot of couples. We would like to do it again and more, but finding the right person or people is not easy in my opinion.

Glass

How long did yall discuss it before it happened? I know that it may not happen tho and thats ok with me, im just curious if women can be aroused by the thought of something, but not have the same desire to actually want it.

 

[Glassnslate]

How long did yall discuss it before it happened? I know that it may not happen tho and thats ok with me, im just curious if women can be aroused by the thought of something, but not have the same desire to actually want it.

Prior to being engaged, we had both had threesomes and experience with multiple partners while at our respective colleges. We both were very open with each other about our experiences since day one. That openness led to fun, role-play, and discussion since before we were married.

Not that screwing around with some friends in college, and maybe losing a friendship is a good thing, but that is a very different scenario than having things go south in a marriage. For both my husband and I, there were some rough feelings and hurt feelings during our college experiences. We wanted to be very careful about avoiding similar situations in our marriage.

Glass

 

[pussyhammer2021]

Prior to being engaged, we had both had threesomes and experience with multiple partners while at our respective colleges. We both were very open with each other about our experiences since day one. That openness led to fun, role-play, and discussion since before we were married.

Not that screwing around with some friends in college, and maybe losing a friendship is a good thing, but that is a very different scenario than having things go south in a marriage. For both my husband and I, there were some rough feelings and hurt feelings during our college experiences. We wanted to be very careful about avoiding similar situations in our marriage.

Glass

Yeah, we are definitely cautious as our marriage comes first and foremost. The trust between us is definitely there also, which is why this is confusing to me. One part of me doesnt think she is being dishonest, but the logic in MY brain cant wrap my head around not wanting to at least try and see if its as good as we think or not as good as the fantasy.