A very lesbian question

[wetandcute]

Hi guys! I have a rather serious question/problem. I'm a woman in her early 20s and I feel like I'm only attracted to women even though I've never been with one (kisses happened but nothing more). In theory I'd be fine with dating a man but whenever I'm about to meet up with one, I feel insane anxiety and I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I'd really really love to date women, I know that I'm attracted to them and I feel like I'd be honestly the happiest and truly like myself with women. However, I'm insanely inexperienced and idk how to do anything. Any advice?

 

[Terrylipstick]

Hi guys! I have a rather serious question/problem. I'm a woman in her early 20s and I feel like I'm only attracted to women even though I've never been with one (kisses happened but nothing more). In theory I'd be fine with dating a man but whenever I'm about to meet up with one, I feel insane anxiety and I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I'd really really love to date women, I know that I'm attracted to them and I feel like I'd be honestly the happiest and truly like myself with women. However, I'm insanely inexperienced and idk how to do anything. Any advice?

I wish I had some advice to give you other that just put yourself out there and have fun

 

[BillyWalrus]

Hi guys! I have a rather serious question/problem. I'm a woman in her early 20s and I feel like I'm only attracted to women even though I've never been with one (kisses happened but nothing more). In theory I'd be fine with dating a man but whenever I'm about to meet up with one, I feel insane anxiety and I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I'd really really love to date women, I know that I'm attracted to them and I feel like I'd be honestly the happiest and truly like myself with women. However, I'm insanely inexperienced and idk how to do anything. Any advice?

My advice is to admit that you lack experience and you are a complete novice. No one is going to hold that against you in the search for love and connection. Just be yourself and put yourself out there. It will be ok.

 

[Sounding22]

My advice is to admit that you lack experience and you are a complete novice. No one is going to hold that against you in the search for love and connection. Just be yourself and put yourself out there. It will be ok.

I know what you mean. From a man’s perspective when I meet up with a woman she’s beautiful but inside I just don’t feel what I should feel.
When I see a man I get weak in the knees, took me awhile to accept it but my feelings are percent gay just remember it’s only sex. Hope it helped

 

[ColtonWrites]

At your age you are more likely to find other inexperienced women than experienced ones, IME. You are completely normal in developing your identity as an adult.
Are you connected to your local lesbian community? There are usually queer events you can attend and then you can put yourself out there as single.

 

[SmilingLez]

Hi guys! I have a rather serious question/problem. I'm a woman in her early 20s and I feel like I'm only attracted to women even though I've never been with one (kisses happened but nothing more). In theory I'd be fine with dating a man but whenever I'm about to meet up with one, I feel insane anxiety and I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I'd really really love to date women, I know that I'm attracted to them and I feel like I'd be honestly the happiest and truly like myself with women. However, I'm insanely inexperienced and idk how to do anything. Any advice?

Find some lgbtqa events and go. Connect with people.

 

[420rando69]

Find some lgbtqa events and go. Connect with people.

Yes, getting yourself involved in your local lesbian and queer community will do wonders for your dating and social life! I can't say I retained all the friends I made in my twenties, but they were fun and helped shape me.

 

[MountainMan406]

I second the attend LGBTQ events. The community is super accepting of everyone and not pushy. And many of them have had or may have some of those feelings you have. And if you don't have a group like that locally look at a surrounding town or city. Or plan ahead and attend Pride events in June.

 

[Michael_Keaton]

Hi guys! I have a rather serious question/problem. I'm a woman in her early 20s and I feel like I'm only attracted to women even though I've never been with one (kisses happened but nothing more). In theory I'd be fine with dating a man but whenever I'm about to meet up with one, I feel insane anxiety and I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I'd really really love to date women, I know that I'm attracted to them and I feel like I'd be honestly the happiest and truly like myself with women. However, I'm insanely inexperienced and idk how to do anything. Any advi

Ok, you're 22 years old and.... you didn't say anything about your relationship with guys. Are you still carrying around that V-card? Does that have anything to do with your anxiety about men?

Whether or not you've got the aforementioned card my best guess is that there are lots of young ladies who'd LOVE to show the ropes to someone who's wetandcute. Just go someplace where you're going to meet the people you're looking for, meet a few, let things take their own course, and don't be self-conscious. Everyone has had a first time and anyone you'd want to be with would be willing to be very patient with a newbie.

But what do I know? I'm a guy!

Good luck.

 

[OralAllOver]

A fundamental principle of decision making:
1) If decision need not be made now, and
2) information at present insufficient for a reasoned choice

Then do not decide now
Collect information in as clear-minded fashion as you can

 

[OralAllOver]

And if prior to a guy-date you exhibit unusual anxiety, you may be making poor first date choices

Try a beachy mellow dude, man
Smile

And CHARACTER most important thing