a thought here.

[freakyone4u]

is it in mans nature (meaning male and female alike) to cheat and or have more then one partner?


if you break it all down to basics we are all but animals ourselves. in the animal kingdom we are one of the only ones that do choose one and only one partner. well atleast thats what everyone would idealy think. so i kinda want to know. do you think we are really just wasting our time trying to find that one person? should we really be pushed into being made to have just one person? the goverment already says we cannot have more then one wife. we do get punished by the courts if we do have an affair during marriage (mostly the men in the wallet department).


ok so lets say for a minute it is true and we should only be with one person. then why does most men and women look and sometimes stray? why do they let others even have the chance to turn them on? why does so many marrages end in divorce?




ok so just kinda wanting to see what you guys out there think about this topic.

 

[Brinnie]

cheating is perfectly acceptable.

 

[Illusionz]

I think that humans, as a whole, are very monogamous. On the other hand, you're asking in a group of highly sexually charged people, so your responses may vary, mostly with age. But, as your want, I'll give my opinion and views.

As a general rule of thumb, most people are raised to find that one person with whom they can be completely monogamous, both physically and emotionally. However, in todays time, it seems that we, as society, have made it harder on ourselves to find that person. Even though there are means to find your significant other out there that our parents didn't have (internet, dating services, etc), some of us are still either too scared to try those methods or just don't want to. For some people, it is how they were raised. I know of a few of my friends that were raised with fathers that strayed on their wives, but at the same time, demanded the wife's loyalty to them and only them. That leads to a generation of young men and women that think cheating is acceptable.

Then there is the group whose parents were completely loyal to each other and passed that on to their children (as mine did). While I am not saying that I have never cheated, I can honestly say that I love my girlfriend beyond anything in this world and will never cheat on her. But, she is my soul mate. Both she and I understand that and we have both promised that we will never cheat. I won't get into the specifics of her life, but she has admitted to me that she has never been in love like she is with me and has cheated on many of the people she has been with. I have never felt for someone the way I feel for her and I have also let myself stray.

I was married for two years, now divorced. While I was married, I had the respect for my wife to not cheat on her. It wasn't for a lack of opportunity, either. I'm not saying that I was the man all the women wanted, but I did have some very close friends that did want to have a special night. Anyway, moving on. Even while we were seperated and I was working on the divorce, I did not cheat. I did not take off my wedding band until the divorce went final, either. Took it off in court and handed it to my attorney, but that's a different story.

My ex-wife, however, did not have the same respect for me that I had for her. She cheated on me just enough to get herself pregnant by another man. I mean, I may be a high school dropout, but I do know basic math. I know that if she is three months pregnant and we haven't had sex in 8 months, there is no damn way it's mine.

"Illusionz, get to the damn point." Okay.

A monogamous attitude is based on many factors, not the least of which is how the person was raised. If you take two children by two seperate sets of parents and observe them, you will find differences in their most basic personality traits. A child that is raised in a home with two loving parents will be less likely to cheat on his/her significant other when he/she grows up. If you have a child that is raised in either a divorce home or a home where the father or mother are blatantly unfaithful, then he/she is likely to be unfaithful when he/she grows up.

It's simple psychology. A child will become the adult that they were around the most when younger. Observe the parents and you'll know how the child will be as an adult.

Monogamy is natural. That's all there is to it.