A Silent Sceam!

[FurryFury]

*hugs*

Sorry honey.

Why next month? Why not sooner?

Oh and IMO women don't normally get excited about men shaving there unlike men do when women shave there.

I've been having some ups and downs too. Sometimes I really hate myself.

If you need clarification of that statement and want to check out this thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=398358

 

[complicity]

*hugs*

Sorry honey.

Why next month? Why not sooner?

Oh and IMO women don't normally get excited about men shaving there unlike men do when women shave there.

I've been having some ups and downs too. Sometimes I really hate myself.

If you need clarification of that statement and want to check out this thread:
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=398358

Why next month? Just the way my lady's sexual clock works! *sulks *

Interesting that you say that. The ladies that I have spoken with about this seem split on the idea. Some have said that it was sooooo hot and would love their partner to surprise them, others like yourself have said it wasn't such a turn on, so I decided to go with it for once because it was different from the norm for me. As I said earlier in the thread I was trying to spice things up a bit and bring back the spark. I remember what the butterflies used to feel like... I miss them!

 

[SweetErika]

Why next month? Just the way my lady's sexual clock works! *sulks *

Interesting that you say that. The ladies that I have spoken with about this seem split on the idea. Some have said that it was sooooo hot and would love their partner to surprise them, others like yourself have said it wasn't such a turn on, so I decided to go with it for once because it was different from the norm for me. As I said earlier in the thread I was trying to spice things up a bit and bring back the spark. I remember what the butterflies used to feel like... I miss them!

I think it was a good idea even though it didn't work out, Complicity. It's the thought that counts, right? I don't really like the look of completely shaved -- I always giggle at the the funny "alien worm" look when my hubby does it -- but it IS a turn on because feeling and licking smooth skin is so fantastic, I think it shows a little confidence, and it's different from the norm. I'm most happy with a close trim on top and everything else shaved (there's nothing remotely arousing about licking or sucking hairy balls, IMO), but completely smooth is a fun variation once in awhile. I have the same preferences for myself and other women.

Oops...didn't mean to go off on a shaving tangent.

"Once a month" sounds like there's a hormonal component. Might be worth some investigation with her doctor and perhaps a specialist.

 

[FurryFury]

Why next month? Just the way my lady's sexual clock works! *sulks *

Interesting that you say that. The ladies that I have spoken with about this seem split on the idea. Some have said that it was sooooo hot and would love their partner to surprise them, others like yourself have said it wasn't such a turn on, so I decided to go with it for once because it was different from the norm for me. As I said earlier in the thread I was trying to spice things up a bit and bring back the spark. I remember what the butterflies used to feel like... I miss them!

I LOVE that you call her "my Lady." That's lovely!

I do love smooth skin but I'm not much on the visual, "look what I did" aspect. It's cute though when they do it. It's go a very cute little boy looking for approval thing going on.

Sweet Erika is a very wise lady with some great ideas.

Her worm analogy made me laugh but I again thought of a little boy bringing a worm to his mother thinking it would just be the coolest thing and all she does is look horrified and tell him to get that thing outta here.

*Hugs*

I feel for you. I really do.

Fury

 

[complicity]

I think it was a good idea even though it didn't work out, Complicity. It's the thought that counts, right? I don't really like the look of completely shaved -- I always giggle at the the funny "alien worm" look when my hubby does it -- but it IS a turn on because feeling and licking smooth skin is so fantastic, I think it shows a little confidence, and it's different from the norm. I'm most happy with a close trim on top and everything else shaved (there's nothing remotely arousing about licking or sucking hairy balls, IMO), but completely smooth is a fun variation once in awhile. I have the same preferences for myself and other women....

I LOVE that you call her "my Lady." That's lovely!

I do love smooth skin but I'm not much on the visual, "look what I did" aspect. It's cute though when they do it. It's go a very cute little boy looking for approval thing going on.

Sweet Erika is a very wise lady with some great ideas.

Her worm analogy made me laugh but I again thought of a little boy bringing a worm to his mother thinking it would just be the coolest thing and all she does is look horrified and tell him to get that thing outta here.

*Hugs*

I feel for you. I really do.

Fury

Thank-you ladies for your kind words.

I never did much like "the Wife" label, it sort of implies that she is a wife like thousands of others, and I have always tried to impress on her that she is different and unique. Not just to me, but to the outside world as well. Sexy and intelligent is a rare quality. (Present company excepted of course) *Kisses both ladies on the cheek*

I agree with you about the smooth skin thing, and in that respect I should have known better. My Lady is not the most tactile of people even on a normal daily basis let alone sexually. I also agree with the worm analogy *laughs*, although I was never looking for approval. The whole idea was to discover the newley shaved smoothness in the dark, but I sacrificed that for the bath idea. In hind sight not one of our better thoughts!

 

[complicity]

..."Once a month" sounds like there's a hormonal component. Might be worth some investigation with her doctor and perhaps a specialist.

It is a real pain, but she accepts it as part of getting older and I don't think she realises the extremes we are at. But judging by a recent conversation maybe that’s something she may look into in the near future.
My sex drive has gotten stronger as I get older. Combine that with me having a greater awareness and understanding of my own sexuality because I have gone out looking for answers… well I suppose sexually we have just grown apart in a manner of speaking.
She was abused when she was younger and that has left its scars, and is one of the dynamics in out sexual relationship. It's also part of the reason I went looking for answers. She has always resisted getting help insisting that it isn’t causing a problem, but it does. There are certain things I can and cannot do with her unless she initiates them. If I do, her reaction can be extreme and she will shut down sexually on the spot. This part of our relationship I have been dealing with for years. There are no quick fixes (if there is one at all), its a slow and sometimes painful journey. I hope that we complete the journey together...God knows that I'm trying!

 

[FurryFury]

Thank-you ladies for your kind words.

I never did much like "the Wife" label, it sort of implies that she is a wife like thousands of others, and I have always tried to impress on her that she is different and unique. Not just to me, but to the outside world as well. Sexy and intelligent is a rare quality. (Present company excepted of course) *Kisses both ladies on the cheek*

I agree with you about the smooth skin thing, and in that respect I should have known better. My Lady is not the most tactile of people even on a normal daily basis let alone sexually. I also agree with the worm analogy *laughs*, although I was never looking for approval. The whole idea was to discover the newley shaved smoothness in the dark, but I sacrificed that for the bath idea. In hind sight not one of our better thoughts!

Once again it sounds like you are relationship wise. I find few people are. Sure we get frustrated but that doesn't mean we don't love, respect and even like the person we still plan to spend the rest of our lives with.

*blows kiss*

Fury

 

[complicity]

Once again it sounds like you are relationship wise. I find few people are. Sure we get frustrated but that doesn't mean we don't love, respect and even like the person we still plan to spend the rest of our lives with.

*blows kiss*

Fury

Darling thank you for the kind words.

 

[complicity]

Liar liar pants on... oooh... shaved pubes!

Well… my lady has made a liar out of me!
Without going into too much detail, last evening she was warm, wet and willing. Which is nice because I don't think that I could have survived another month without her. Masturbation is ok, but when you sleep next to such a sexy creature you start to think "'ang on a mo'... this cant be right?"
She loved one of her new toys (the slim vibe) His bigger brother didn't get an outing this time round. We ended sucking and fucking.. she tasted gorgeous. IN the end my lady came with the slim lil fellow in her arse and me eating her out… Yum! Like I have said before… what she lacks in quantity she makes up for in quality!

As for the shaved unshaved issue, we have spoken and she has said that it doesn’t do it for her. It was in her words “…as if something was missing!” So I am now letting them grow back, which is a shame in a way because I quite liked the feel of it… all that fresh bare skin… Actually I’m starting to think that I was turning myself on most of the time! I found myself having a quick feel every so often! Lmao

Later all!

 

[FurryFury]

I still do that and I've been shaving since last February. It's a wonderful sensation.

I'm glad you had a great time with your lovely lady!

Fury

 

[complicity]

I still do that and I've been shaving since last February. It's a wonderful sensation.

I'm glad you had a great time with your lovely lady!

Fury

Mmm... would like to do it for you! *winks*

 

[chauderlos]

I never said marriage was about sex, but good sex would / could be the blue that binds, being an integral part of the whole.

I think you've put some interesting and true point here.
If you build a relationship, name it marriage or else, only on sex, it will only last as long as sexual relations are fulfilling for both.
If you build a marriage, or any other king of relation, on other aspects, such as family, mutual respect, understanding, and so on... on true, deep, long lasting LOVE, then even if the sexual aspect of the relationship is sometimes low, the mutual closeness remains, even if, true, one can miss sex and intimacy.
From what I've read over here (thanks to have started this thread), both men and women experience the same from time to time.
It would be so easy to say "Oh, you're no longer interested in sex? Good bye, and take good care of the kiddies". Leaving is the easy option. Staying, and fighting, and stuggling, to regain all the intimacy one expects, one dreams of is a challenge that is worth the try.
It hurts sometimes, it takes long, long hours of talk, mutual understanding, frankness (and that can hurt too), introspection... It's really hard work. But the reward is so magnificent, so beautiful, so breathtaking...
Go on, show your lady all the love, desire, tenderness, ... you feel for her, and you'll win.
Good luck to both of you.
And to all the others that are in the same situation.

(FYI, save a few details, my situation is more or less the same as yours)

 

[complicity]

I think you've put some interesting and true point here.
If you build a relationship, name it marriage or else, only on sex, it will only last as long as sexual relations are fulfilling for both.
If you build a marriage, or any other king of relation, on other aspects, such as family, mutual respect, understanding, and so on... on true, deep, long lasting LOVE, then even if the sexual aspect of the relationship is sometimes low, the mutual closeness remains, even if, true, one can miss sex and intimacy.
From what I've read over here (thanks to have started this thread), both men and women experience the same from time to time.
It would be so easy to say "Oh, you're no longer interested in sex? Good bye, and take good care of the kiddies". Leaving is the easy option. Staying, and fighting, and stuggling, to regain all the intimacy one expects, one dreams of is a challenge that is worth the try.
It hurts sometimes, it takes long, long hours of talk, mutual understanding, frankness (and that can hurt too), introspection... It's really hard work. But the reward is so magnificent, so beautiful, so breathtaking...
Go on, show your lady all the love, desire, tenderness, ... you feel for her, and you'll win.
Good luck to both of you.
And to all the others that are in the same situation.

(FYI, save a few details, my situation is more or less the same as yours)

chauderlos -
Thank you for your kind words and thoughts. You are right in much of what you say… but how long can one last when the " …love desire and tenderness” only manifests itself in one direction. I know my lady isn’t tactile, and I also am aware that she has some baggage /issues to deal with, but there is only so much you can do.

 

[complicity]

Life is very much ebb and flow at the moment. Some days I feel really good about what I am trying to achieve here and other days I feel like throwing my hands in the air (pretty much like some of you also feel out there)! I still love this sexy intelligent woman, and crave for her physically, But if you imagine you are a kid in a sweet shop (candy store for my friends over the pond) with a very sweet tooth. But all the jars containing the object of your desire are just out of reach on a shelf and there isn’t a set of ladders in sight. Every day your favourite confection is there right in front of you in that glass jar, but you aren’t allowed to get to it. Well that’s pretty much how I feel for most of the time. Don’t get me wrong, its not all about sex, but a little overt show of affection wouldn’t go amiss. I come from a very close family and have been used to a family that show affection and can be very tactile, my lady’s problem is that her lot do not show affection that much and as a result it doesn’t come easy to her. That said we have been together for a long time now, so you would have thought that we would have grown together. But whilst my sexuality and awareness has increased over the years, her doesn’t seem to have evolved at all.

For the record my pubes are now growing back, after a frank exchange of views she decided that it did nothing for her, but appreciated the attempt at doing new things.

Anyone have a step ladder handy?

Later

 

[chauderlos]

Anyone have a step ladder handy?

Later

Sorry, mate, should I have one I would use it for myself
But, again, when I read your lines, I feel that the situation I face is not so uncommon.
I feel that quite often, women do not function the same as men do. They need to be in a complete state of openness (not worries about work, household, kids, ...) to open to sexual/sensual approaches. As opposed to us men who are 'everready'.
Try to drag her out of her everyday environement, maybe for a week end to some quiet and cosy hotel nearby, no kids, no laundry, no other worries than just the two of you. Would that work?

One important thing I've discovered (again, it's just so obvious, but needs to be stated) is that one have to love his/her SO like she/he is, and not like one could wish she/he was.

Hang on, and best wishes to you two.

Oh, and just to lift your mood, the toys you mentioned in your previous posts are off-limits in our bedroom. You're not alone...

 

[complicity]

Am feeling somewhat knackered today, and no amount of caffeine is doing any good. My eldest (bless ’im) decided that he was going to stay up ‘till 2am (ish) and watch a film on the box. Not a problem in itself you may say, but then he moves on to bleedin “Pimp my ride” or some similar bollocks. The end result is my lady rising in not too good a mood to read him the riot act and pointing out that some of us don’t laze around at collage all day doing sod all, some of us have work to go to! The whole house suitability woken, she comes back to bed muttering something about he says its nearly finished and he’ll be up in a minute. Very reasonable thinks I, and drop back off to sleep. Sure enough (my lady says, as she was keeping watch by now) the TV went off… only to be replaced by sounds of the computer being cranked into life. To my lady this is the final straw and I am summoned from my slumber (yet again) to deal with my wayward offspring, and point out the error of his ways at what is now 2.30. Suffice to say the computer ceased its clicking and wering at 2.32 precisely, and my offspring retired to his room muttering about unreasonable “olds” and didn’t we realise that he was getting older? No we’re not and yes we do… but bloody hell play the game will you? Now I am fully awake and insomnia has kicked in with a vengeance as I am fully wound up by now. So… the end result of that little outing is that everyone in the household is now soundly asleep… except me, and its 3am!
Aaaarrgh!

 

[complicity]

...
Oh, and just to lift your mood, the toys you mentioned in your previous posts are off-limits in our bedroom. You're not alone...

*smiles* I wouldn't say ours are off limits but she has to be in the right mood for them to cum out and play. Indeed only one of them has seen the light of day this far, but it is early days yet!

 

[Com9licity]

It is intriguing and quite cathartic to re-read these old posts of mine from years gone by.

My lady and I are still together and the kids have grown. Some things remain the same, and some change.

If anyone is around who remembers me and would like to catch up, just holler!

Comp'

 

[Kindude]

It is intriguing and quite cathartic to re-read these old posts of mine from years gone by.

My lady and I are still together and the kids have grown. Some things remain the same, and some change.

If anyone is around who remembers me and would like to catch up, just holler!

Comp'

I hope your pubes have grown back in the last 14 years.

 

[Oliver_Klozoff]

From the ending of Sci Fi (time travel) novel, "Now Wait for Last Year" by Philip K. Dick:

To the cab he said suddenly, 'If your wife were sick-'

'I have no wife, sir,' the cab said. 'Automatic Mechanisms never marry; everyone knows that.'

'All right,' Eric agreed. 'If you were me, and your wife were sick, desperately so, with no hope of recovery, would you leave her? Or would you stay with her, even if you had traveled ten years into the future and knew for an absolute certainty that the damage to her brain could never be reversed? And staying with her would mean-'

'I can see what you mean, sir,' the cab broke in. 'It would mean no other life for you beyond caring for her.'

'That's right,' Eric said.

'I'd stay with her,' the cab decided.

'Why?'

'Because,' the cab said, 'life is composed of reality configurations so constituted. To abandon her would be to say, I can't endure reality as such. I have to have uniquely special easier conditions.'

'I think I agree,' Eric said after a time. 'I think I will stay with her.'

'God bless you, sir,' the cab said. 'I can see that you're a good man.'

'Thank you,' Eric said.

The cab soared on toward Tijuana Fur & Dye Corporation.​