A scenario and a question about cunnilingus

[lilminx]

A guy and girl have sex for the first time after a few weeks of dating. They've discussed sex since they started dating, but waited a bit to actually do it. He's bragged about his love for cunnilingus and about how he's good at it.

They have sex. It's not bad, it's not great. He goes down on her during the course of foreplay and it's fine- nothing to write home about.

He sleeps over. The next morning he makes a move to have sex again. She is dry down there and hints about him going down on her to moisten her up. She figures it would be no big deal since he's professed his liking for it. He says, "I'm not big on eating pussy in the morning". She then tells him that since he isn't going to do anything to make her wet, they can't have sex because she's sore from the night before (the same problem occurred the night before, but since he uh, helped to make her wet, it wasn't too bad).

Now, she KNOWS it's not because of any smell or anything emanating from her. He's just being lazy. Do you think the girl should be annoyed and find that a turnoff?

 

[Guest]

Yes.

 

[lobito]

Sounds like he got what he was really after, and nothing else matters anymore, but then that's just me thinking out loud.

The last time I had sex, it was me going down on her, and it didn't matter to her if I got off, it was only about her being satisfied. She rolled over, and went to sleep, while I was left to take things into my own hands, so to speak.

 

[Lancecastor]

Do you think the girl should be annoyed and find that a turnoff?

The whole thing sounds more transactional than romantic to me.

The way you've written the post, he sounds indifferent towards her and she sounds like she's looking to be assured that she doesn't stink and that he's a mediocre lover.

Consequently, they both sound cold and selfish to me.

Prediction: They'll probably be together for a long time and hurt each other well & often.

Ha!

Lance

 

[lilminx]

Re: Re: A scenario and a question about cunnilingus

The whole thing sounds more transactional than romantic to me.

The way you've written the post, he sounds indifferent towards her and she sounds like she's looking to be assured that she doesn't stink and that he's a mediocre lover.

Consequently, they both sound cold and selfish to me.

Prediction: They'll probably be together for a long time and hurt each other well & often.

Ha!

Lance

He wasn't indifferent to her at all. I was just trying to give the scenario in a matter-of-fact way.

She needs no reassurance that she doesn't stink- believe me- lol. I inserted that comment before anyone else here could suggest that.

I just feel that if you're going to play yourself up about something, follow through with it.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I was in a similar sitiuation. I had been chatting with a woman online for about a year, and I finally decided to go visit her. She had bragged about how she gave head, and I of course bragged about my sexual performance. Well, I went down on her, and she came, and then she sucked on me for about 30 seconds, and then we had sex. She came again in about 5 minutes, and then she turned into a dead fish. Once she got hers, she was impatient for me to hurry up and finish. We had sex twice a day for a week, and it was the same pattern every time. Needless to say, I didn't bother to go back there again.

It wasn't just the lousy sex, mind you. She was inconsiderate in all sorts of ways, the sex part was only a symptom of deeper issues.

 

[Wiggles]

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[estevie]

I can only speak for myself. No, I don't believe I would be annoyed by that part of it. If he doesn't want to eat my pussy in the morning after a night of sex, I would not be surprised or insulted. While I've never had the opportunity to know first hand, I would think it would not be the most pleasant of tastes. Some men don't mind it, others do. I wouldn't be that upset over it. What I would be annoyed about is that he wouldn't find some other way to get me excited. To think he can just hop on and have his fun without a thought to me is what would be a turn off. While quickies can be fun and exciting at times, first thing in the morning is not usually the time for them, at least for me.

 

[estevie]

Re: Re: Re: A scenario and a question about cunnilingus

I just feel that if you're going to play yourself up about something, follow through with it.

LOL!

Every man you meet is going to tell you that they are the best lover you ever had. Few are.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Well, you would think they guy would be willing to engage in some sort of foreplay, right? Kissing, nuzzling, play with your nipples while he gently rubs you with his fingers, until you are nice and wet.

 

[Guest]

Yes.

 

[The Heretic]

Sounds to me like there are afew lazy and inconsiderate lovers out there of both genders (I am not talking about posters, but about the people they know). I don't brag about my sexual expertise which isn't extensive, but I am considerate and I am not lazy.

 

[lilminx]

What I would be annoyed about is that he wouldn't find some other way to get me excited. To think he can just hop on and have his fun without a thought to me is what would be a turn off. While quickies can be fun and exciting at times, first thing in the morning is not usually the time for them, at least for me.

That's what I found most bothersome. When I told him that I was dry and sore from the night before (which I wouldn't have been if things had been better), he still expected to simply have sex with me. He wasn't even trying to get me excited.

I've also never had a problem with a guy going down on me, whether I've just come out of the shower or after a night of dancing, or a night of sex. THis was a surprise to me- especially after he payed himself up so much. Most men who say they love doing it actually do love it.

I also think it's kind of funny that he wouldn't go down on me, yet wanted to kiss me with his really nasty morning breath mouth- eww. There was Listerine in my bathroom- he could have at least used some.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I also think it's kind of funny that he wouldn't go down on me, yet wanted to kiss me with his really nasty morning breath mouth- eww. There was Listerine in my bathroom- he could have at least used some.

Oh yeah, this guy is a keeper, isn't he?

 

[Guest]

I also think it's kind of funny that he wouldn't go down on me, yet wanted to kiss me with his really nasty morning breath mouth- eww. There was Listerine in my bathroom- he could have at least used some.

Bingo. His morning mouth would have welcomed any pussy power, be it sweet or not, and it would have been an improvement. This was a cop out. And he should have been kind enough to NOT want to kiss you and subject you to that.

Sounds to me like he was being inconsiderate and thinking of getting himself off instead of your pleasure. And that is not being a good lover. The lady always comes first.

 

[sexyguy2]

Well, you would think they guy would be willing to engage in some sort of foreplay, right? Kissing, nuzzling, play with your nipples while he gently rubs you with his fingers, until you are nice and wet.

Right, Johnny, that's the LEAST the selfish bastard should've done. If a woman likes a man enough to give herself to him, he should do his best to please her.

 

[estevie]

That's what I found most bothersome. When I told him that I was dry and sore from the night before (which I wouldn't have been if things had been better), he still expected to simply have sex with me. He wasn't even trying to get me excited.

I've also never had a problem with a guy going down on me, whether I've just come out of the shower or after a night of dancing, or a night of sex. THis was a surprise to me- especially after he payed himself up so much. Most men who say they love doing it actually do love it.

I also think it's kind of funny that he wouldn't go down on me, yet wanted to kiss me with his really nasty morning breath mouth- eww. There was Listerine in my bathroom- he could have at least used some.

I guess the next question to ask then is...is he worth training?

Men who don't need training are rare. Most think that their technique is perfected. It takes them awhile to realize that all women are different. Perhaps his last girlfriend loved to be banged first thing in the morning with no foreplay so he thinks all women must like that. Is he someone you really like and can work thru the issues with? Or do you think that he will always be inconsiderate? That would be the question I would ask myself.

 

[lilminx]

I guess the next question to ask then is...is he worth training?

Men who don't need training are rare. Most think that their technique is perfected. It takes them awhile to realize that all women are different. Perhaps his last girlfriend loved to be banged first thing in the morning with no foreplay so he thinks all women must like that. Is he someone you really like and can work thru the issues with? Or do you think that he will always be inconsiderate? That would be the question I would ask myself.

You know, I'm not sure. I haven't seen him since that night which was a few weeks ago. We've talked, but he's been having some family issues and been working overtime so he hasn't really had time to see me. I always seem to pick the ones with family problems

He seems really considerate when it comes to other things, so we'll see.

 

[Guest]

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Hey, I think my technique is nearly perfect!! Mostly, because my technique is no technique, I just pay attention to the cues my lovers give me. I personally don't mind going down on a woman in teh morning, but i wouldn't insist on a woman going down on me unless I've had a shower first. A considerate lover doesn't have to abandon his likes and dislikes, but should find a way to adapt them to his partner. If I had a thing about not going down on a woman before she showers, I would suggest a nice hot shower together, then I would clean her myself, slow and gentle, as a start to foreplay. That way, she gets the foreplay she needs, I am more comfortable about giving oral sex, and everyone winds up happy(plus, showering with a woman is a turn-on for me anyways!)

 

[estevie]

You know, I'm not sure. I haven't seen him since that night which was a few weeks ago. We've talked, but he's been having some family issues and been working overtime so he hasn't really had time to see me. I always seem to pick the ones with family problems

He seems really considerate when it comes to other things, so we'll see.

I wish you good luck. He may turn out to be the man you want him to be as the relationship progresses. keep us posted!

 

[lilminx]

I wish you good luck. He may turn out to be the man you want him to be as the relationship progresses. keep us posted!

LMAO- thanks but guess what? He just told me he met someone else!!!

Maybe she doesn't mind about the going down thing.

 

[islandman]

Not going down on a woman is like not having that first cup of coffee in the morning.

I just can't do without!

 

[MaggieH]

LMAO- thanks but guess what? He just told me he met someone else!!!

his loss, hon...

 

[kotori]

LMAO- thanks but guess what? He just told me he met someone else!!!

That's a funny kinda "family problem" to have. Sounds like you dodged a bullet any way you look at it.