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I came home this morning after taking care of an elderly woman who is being kept alive thru heroic measures. The most this woman can hope for is a life spent in a nursing home for the rest of her days, that is if she survives this grave illness. She previously lived independently and was happy. Now in spite of her stated wishes she is being kept alive only to face a life that she never ever wanted for herself.
Why do people not understand that there is a time to live and a time to slip gracefully from this life into another? Why do adult children who have been noninvolved suddenly show up and insist on these interventions? Do they want to punish their parent or is it just the selfish guilt that drives this cruel thoughtless behavior?
I looked into this woman's eyes and saw the frustration and pain because she is restrained so as to not pull out her tubes and felt such saddness. Holding her hand and trying to make her understand what was happening was futile because of her dementia. All she knows is that we are torturing her and it makes me ashamed to be a part of this process.
Please talk to your parents and others you love and ask them their wishes and then for God's sake have the courage to do what they ask of you when the chips are down. It is the greatest act of love you will ever show them.
Thanks for listening
Why do people not understand that there is a time to live and a time to slip gracefully from this life into another? Why do adult children who have been noninvolved suddenly show up and insist on these interventions? Do they want to punish their parent or is it just the selfish guilt that drives this cruel thoughtless behavior?
I looked into this woman's eyes and saw the frustration and pain because she is restrained so as to not pull out her tubes and felt such saddness. Holding her hand and trying to make her understand what was happening was futile because of her dementia. All she knows is that we are torturing her and it makes me ashamed to be a part of this process.
Please talk to your parents and others you love and ask them their wishes and then for God's sake have the courage to do what they ask of you when the chips are down. It is the greatest act of love you will ever show them.
Thanks for listening