A Question of Etiquette

[Bob Peale]

Guys, do you let a woman enter/exit first, even a stranger, and especially and elder? I'm just curious.

And women, if a guy steps aside to let you enter/exit first, do you? Or if he holds the door for you, do you walk through? Again, just curious.

In me, it's ingrained - I was raised to do this, and it actually makes me uncomfortable NOT to! But I understand that everyone doesn't feel the same way.

 

[April]

If anyone holds a door open for me, I take it and thank them. I also hold doors open for either sex. If you're fairly close, I'll hold the door for you, regardless of sex. It's just polite. Kind of startles men, though. Silly things.

 

[BigDawg69]

Raised a good Southern gentleman I always open the door for a lady and allow her to pass first. This applys to cars as well as buildings.

 

[mig]

Guys, do you let a woman enter/exit first, even a stranger, and especially and elder? I'm just curious.

In me, it's ingrained - I was raised to do this, and it actually makes me uncomfortable NOT to! But I understand that everyone doesn't feel the same way.

Yes.

Me too.

 

[JaymesBlond007]

Absolutely. I open the door for females and elderly. And always hold for the person behind me. Nothing pisses me off more than some inconsiderate bastard who lets the door close right in your face.

....fuckers...

 

[lovetoread]

I expect such treatment. It doesnt always happen though. I love it when a gentleman holds the door for me.

I do things for older people without thought as that is what you are supposed to do.

 

[lilminx]

I have no problem with men holding the door open for me, and I hold the door open for both men and women. To me, it's common courtesy- something that I think is sadly lacking in many people.

 

[fgarvb1]

Ditto!

 

[Moridin187]

If there's someone behind me I hold the door for them.

If there's a woman approaching the same door as I'm going to enter, I'll wait around for up to a minute and hold the door for her.

If someone's hands are full, or if they're elderly, I'll help them, it's just common courtesy.

 

[VanB]

Like others I always hold the door open for women and the elderly, and let them through first. I always hold the door open for a man but I'd pass through first. Just manners.

 

[Bigdog]

I open doors for women as a matter of being polite. I wait and hold a door for anybody behind me, if it looks like they need assistance I will wait as long as necessary.

On a similar note, if I see someone in the parking lot of Office Depot trying to load a bookcase into a Honda Civic-size car I offer the use of my truck. Have been taken up on it only once so far, but I feel it's the right thing to do.

 

[freakygirl]

I find alot of people are nice enough to hold a door when you are pushing a wheelchair.

If I go somewhere with my mom, people are more than happy to hold the door open until we get in.. I find when I'm by myself a few people will do it.. but more people don't.

I will hold the door for people.. male or female.

 

[horny_giraffe]

Somehow I almost always manage to walk a step behind everyone. It's a control thing, I think. I generally prefer to keep people where I can see them--women, men, everybody.

I usually open doors, though, because sometimes doors are heavy and I am stronger than most of my friends and relatives. But maybe it's a control thing, too.

 

[horny_giraffe]

Oh, but if someone is already holding a door, it's not as if I'm going to wrench it from their hands ...

 

[Dillinger]

Yes, I do. As a few here have said I will hold a door open for men, women, young or elderly. I will go out of my way to make an extra effort for the elderly and those who have small children with them. (ie, offer to help carry a stroller down the stairs)...

 

[Mischka]

I was actually griped at for not holding the door open for someone. A guy was about 10 yards behind me, and as I walked through the door, I heard him call out in a sarcastic tone, "Thanks for holding the door." How long are you supposed to wait to hold a door for someone? Like everyone else, I hold the doors for those in the immediate vicinity, but I'm not going to stand there while the person casually strolls towards the door. He wasn't even carrying anything that would have made it difficult to open the door.

 

[ExLimey]

Always hold the door open and let others go first. Doesn't matter age, sex, beauty. I used to get stuck holding the door at work sometimes, can't help it.

A "lady" once made a rude comment to me when I held the door open, but that was one time out of millions.

I'm also a car door opener, although now I have the remote key thing, it does feel a little odd to hit the button and still open the door. This one is gender bias though, don't do it for any guys that ride with me. Hmm?

 

[Countess DeWinter]

It's common courtesy like this that makes me feel like a lady.

I've had to train my husband, though, because his mother didn't. So...I've often stood outside our vehicle after he's gotten in. He gets the picture and gets back out to open my door. I also stand to the side or allow him to be a step ahead when we enter buildings so he can get the door.





Then I goose him on the way in!

 

[Rubyfruit]

I love it when a man holds a door for me on dates. My husband isn't very good about it, so I'll just stand there and wait until he gets the idea.

I always open doors for anybody who looks like they need a hand, women with stollers, the elderly, anybody loaded down with packages, or anybody behind me.

I am VERY grateful for anybody who holds a door for me when I'm pushing my twins in the double stroller.

 

[daughter]

And I appreciate it

Bob--

There are social graces that are gender-based, and frankly I find them attractive.

I walk on the inside of the street with my partner. I wait for doors to be held open. I love it when a man rises when I leave the table. I don't go dutch on first dates. If he asks, I expect him to pay.

Conversely, and let all the gasps escape from liberated women everywhere, I prepare and serve my man his dinner. If he wants a food or drink while watching football, I gladly bring it to him. I prefer to buy the groceries, and I expect him to bring them in.

Chivalry has a space in my heart. And I try to considerate and courteous towards others.

Peace,

daughter

 

[BlondGirl]

A man who does not hold the door for me automatically is out, no matter what else happens in the game.

The exception is my fave distant lover. He always walks through then steps back and opens the door. It really irked me at first. I commented about it on our first date and he apologized. He said he used to always let the woman enter first, especially since he was a fully born and bred Southern boy. But, when he had his military carreer and lived in various places around the world, he said he changed his habit to survey the safety of the environment before his lady enters. He was dead serious and I have never had any reason to doubt this. He tends to do it at the apartment door too. Leaving me outside holding whatever groceries and other stuff outside the door. It makes me laugh every time.

As for my son, he knows the rules and I will turn around and walk back to the truck with my keys if he does not do the gentlemanly thing.

 

[Texan]

my $.02

as a southern man, of course I hold the door for people. There are, however, a couple of refinements to how it should be done.

1. If you are entering a dark room or building, you should open the door and enter first. You should turn on a light and return to the door to let the woman walk past you into the room.

2. If the door needs to be PULLED open, you should reach past the lady on the "hinge" side of the door and pull it open, allowing the lady to walk past you through the door.

3. If the door is a heavy door that must be PUSHED open, you should push the door open and enter just enough to let a lady walk past you into the room, while you hold the door for her.

4. If a man is holding a door for a lady or an older person, they should continue to hold the door for others who are entering about the same time EXCEPT when another male of similar or younger age approaches the door. In that case, the door should be "given" to the younger male, as you enter the room to join your female companion.

These rules are a lot easier to follow when women also understand them.....

 

[lavender]

 

[Texan]

There are too many fucking rules in the south.

darlin.... you can open a door for me anytime.... and if it's dark inside..... just leave the lights off......

 

[Countess DeWinter]

Re: And I appreciate it

Bob--

There are social graces that are gender-based, and frankly I find them attractive.

I walk on the inside of the street with my partner. I wait for doors to be held open. I love it when a man rises when I leave the table. I don't go dutch on first dates. If he asks, I expect him to pay.

Conversely, and let all the gasps escape from liberated women everywhere, I prepare and serve my man his dinner. If he wants a food or drink while watching football, I gladly bring it to him. I prefer to buy the groceries, and I expect him to bring them in.

Chivalry has a space in my heart. And I try to considerate and courteous towards others.

Peace,

daughter

May I just sit in the presence of a real old-fashioned woman?
You go, girl!