A question for the ladies on underwater masturbation...

[Jmanchu]

So... I'm an unenlightened, dumb man-person. And I have some questions about underwater masturbation which I hope you beautiful ladies here could possibly offer some insight on the matter. I ask for research purposes, of course. And I mean like fingering or penetration in bathtubs or pools in particular. How would that work? Is it possible? Easy enough? Or more of a pain? I know that sex in the shower can be tricky for more than just the small space to work with, and also the water making things harder to stay, well, slick. Anyways, I'd love to hear some thoughts. Thanks.

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

It doesnt work. The vagina goes bone dry when submersed in water. And water is a terrble lubricant. Its the same reason we don't have to deal with pads and tampons at the pool (unless you're spending signifigant time out of the water)

 

[elizaloo]

Sent you a PM - I've got some pool experience.

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

Sorry if this crushes your dreams. I don't mean to shut you down, believe me I was dissapointed when I first tried.

It was gonna be so relaxing, hot water, steam, candles. I was wet going in. Stick one finger in underwater and the slimy rose petals very quickly turn to dry roast beef.

 

[SeraphNocturne]

It’s a no from me. The buoyancy, the friction, everything about penetration in water is the worst. I won’t even get into the realistic reality of discomfort/disturbing Ph balances/infections and other unpleasant side effects that can come from chemicals and what not when trying anything in water…

The most you can hope for is mutual masturbation, clitoral stimulation or grinding/tribbing… but as far as the act itself, DOA—do not recommend, absolutely avoid.

 

[Jmanchu]

Ouch. I was figuring that was the case, but I wanted to ask anyways. Well, thanks for the responses. I appreciate it. For real.

I'll go check out that PM right now, Eliza.

 

[MelissaBaby]

I've included it in my stories a few times, but it is best kept a fantasy.

Silicone lubes like Astroglide work...sort of. They will wash off, but it takes longer. The bigger problem is the heightened risk of infections and chemical reactions, as others have pointed out.

 

[MrPixel]

Silicone lubes like Astroglide work...sort of.

OK, I was wondering about that. My characters "successfully" use coconut oil, which is just slightly more soluble in water. Based on personal experience.

How about a really mild soap? Probably closer to a moisturizing cream than a soap.

What has me baffled in this discussion is everywhere we go in the swinger/nudist milieu are rules about or even signage around hot tubs and pools about "no sexual activity". No, nobody wants to swim or soak in ejaculate soup, but the implication is that sex in or around the water is anticipated.

 

[Djmac1031]

Interesting feedback.

In one of my early Jenna chapters, I described her getting "wet" during some underwater grinding. Not fingering, just rubbing up against his erection over his bathing suit while they were swimming in a lake.

It appears from the responses I was inaccurate in that detail.

"The More You Know."

 

[SeraphNocturne]

OK, I was wondering about that. My characters "successfully" use coconut oil, which is just slightly more soluble in water. Based on personal experience.

How about a really mild soap? Probably closer to a moisturizing cream than a soap.

What has me baffled in this discussion is everywhere we go in the swinger/nudist milieu are rules about or even signage around hot tubs and pools about "no sexual activity". No, nobody wants to swim or soak in ejaculate soup, but the implication is that sex in or around the water is anticipated.

I think people just really enjoy the fantasy of playing in water, when it comes to it, and sure, if you get drunk enough you might even try to hop on and ride someone in a hot tub… but I wouldn’t recommend it. And certainly know better now than to try it. I’ve had play at home in the bath. I would never in a public pool, or public use hot-tub. Any public use body of water, honestly.

As steamy as things ever comfortably became for me submerged it was with rubbing/clitoral stimulation, and yes mild soap is an acceptable applicant and it is pleasurable, but only so long… for earlier reasons many mentioned, it’s just too hard to maintain lubrication in the water and it goes from fun to uncomfortable extremely fast.

First and foremost though is rubbing foreign contaminants into an incredibly sensitive area. This doesn’t typically end well, (UTIs, Yeast infections) and sadly I know this first hand, because I am a water loving individual I have at least attempted foreplay in the water, and it has always been a mediocre experience. Likewise, ocean sex fantasy absolutely crushed by the realization of how disgusting the water is and not wanting to have to go to the doctor for giving myself BV or a Yeast Infection after getting freaky where I shouldn’t. My partner and I realized the balcony is our safest and most entertaining bet, in that instance. On a handful of occasions lucky patrons in the hotel adjacent agreed.

I enjoy bubble baths with salts more often than not, and had to express this to my partner that while it certainly makes for a hot fantasy, it’s really not as fun an experience in reality. I’d rather have attention on my more than glorious chest, or my shoulders massaged, than have anyone trying to arouse me below the waist while submerged. Ultimately the most erotic thing I’ve ever encountered was being fed chocolates and read poetry with a glass of wine during a soak.

 

[SeraphNocturne]

Interesting feedback.

In one of my early Jenna chapters, I described her getting "wet" during some underwater grinding. Not fingering, just rubbing up against his erection over his bathing suit while they were swimming in a lake.

It appears from the responses I was inaccurate in that detail.

"The More You Know."

I wouldn’t say inaccurate… it does feel good for a while. When it comes to situations like this though it’s the after effect of grinding all kinds of bacteria down there that really get me…

Oh, I do have one for you guys that has never disappointed. Water jets. A powerful shower head, or otherwise, and only focused on the clitoris. I’ve actually had some of my best orgasms masturbating this way.. almost painfully good. Mainstream media has often done this one justice, from personal experience, they got that one spot on.

 

[MrPixel]

Oh, I do have one for you guys that has never disappointed. Water jets. A powerful shower head, or otherwise, and only focused on the clitoris.

Heh. One of my FMCs has a thing for this. That's why she got to design the shower area during the remodel.

 

[Djmac1031]

Oh, I do have one for you guys that has never disappointed. Water jets. A powerful shower head, or otherwise, and only focused on the clitoris.

I had a character use the shower head recently, although it was really only a brief mention because I didn't need a full scene of it.

 

[SeraphNocturne]

Heh. One of my FMCs has a thing for this. That's why she got to design the shower area during the remodel.

Delightful… naturally with a remodel, you’ve just got to test out the new shower head and make sure the water pressure is top knotch.

 

[Djmac1031]

I wouldn’t say inaccurate… it does feel good for a while. When it comes to situations like this though it’s the after effect of grinding all kinds of bacteria down there that really get me…

During the scene, their bathing suits stay on. I'd assume no more bacteria or whatever would get inside her than through simply swimming.

Would grinding up against him force more of the lake water inside her?

 

[SeraphNocturne]

During the scene, their bathing suits stay on. I'd assume no more bacteria or whatever would get inside her than through simply swimming.

Would grinding up against him force more of the lake water inside her?

It absolutely would. I’ve gotten a yeast infection from literally only swimming in a pool that had heavy chlorination. No, it doesn’t happen often or every time I swim, but I certainly was only interested in exercise on this occasion and perhaps had only been slacking on probiotics when the pools reopened. The sad thing about contaminates is that most of the time they’re microscopic, and a bathing suit is going to do nothing to stop it. Just being in the water runs a risk. Rubbing/grinding increases that risk exponentially…

That said, my point of view is strictly speaking for the real world. If reading a scene like that I’d much rather ignore the what if aspects of reality, and just enjoy the fact that it’s fucking hottt. You’re not likely to get much negative feedback for writing a water sex scene unless the reader is a little overbearing and obsessed with realism.

 

[Djmac1031]

You’re not likely to get much negative feedback for writing a water sex scene unless the reader is a little overbearing and obsessed with realism.

Oh for sure; it's not like any readers ever brought it up.

I suppose I can internally justify my scene by the fact that the female character is young and probably naive to the fact, and the male character of course was as clueless about the potential problem as I was lol.

 

[SeraphNocturne]

Oh for sure; it's not like any readers ever brought it up.

I suppose I can internally justify my scene by the fact that the female character is young and probably naive to the fact, and the male character of course was as clueless about the potential problem as I was lol.

You’re speaking lived experience for a lot of young lovers, spot on excuse if you want to cover realism.

I personally enjoy reading most water sex scenes, even if they’re getting it on in the ocean. I would NEVER… but it’s fun to fantasize about, and sensually erotic to read.

 

[MrPixel]

Fortunately for my story series there are no oceans close to Kansas.

But I cannot imagine for a moment intercourse or masturbation in ocean water near a beach. The wave action suspends sand in the water. Not only "Ouch!", but "Fuckin' OUCH!" Sure, I've contemplated it under certain over-the-top erotic moments at the beach, but that thought passes in about two seconds... NOT in the water, thank goodness!

 

[Imperfect_Guy]

You’re speaking lived experience for a lot of young lovers, spot on excuse if you want to cover realism.

I personally enjoy reading most water sex scenes, even if they’re getting it on in the ocean. I would NEVER… but it’s fun to fantasize about, and sensually erotic to read.

There are many things that are erotic to read and fantasize about and result in wonderful releases during self pleasure. Then when actually trying them out in the real world they are supremely disappointing. It's funny (and wonderful) how our minds can make some mundane things so erotic.

 

[ColetteJulie]

What about the

So... I'm an unenlightened, dumb man-person. And I have some questions about underwater masturbation which I hope you beautiful ladies here could possibly offer some insight on the matter. I ask for research purposes, of course. And I mean like fingering or penetration in bathtubs or pools in particular. How would that work? Is it possible? Easy enough? Or more of a pain? I know that sex in the shower can be tricky for more than just the small space to work with, and also the water making things harder to stay, well, slick. Anyways, I'd love to hear some thoughts. Thanks.

Underwater jets, they can hit the clit. Job done excellently, specially if your other half is holding you in front of it, works for him too

 

[Trionyx]

What about the

Underwater jets, they can hit the clit. Job done excellently, specially if your other half is holding you in front of it, works for him too

Just be careful not to direct the jets into you. Could cause some serious problems.

 

[jsmiam]

… And I mean like fingering or penetration in bathtubs or pools in particular. …

Running water from the spigot down onto the clitoris (bathtub more so than pool.) Discuss.

OP’s wording locked in on penetrative topics, but if the bathtub is to be included, I do believe running water deserves to be included, as should handheld showerheads. Different sub-topic, but the lines are blurred.

 

[onehitwanda]

as should handheld showerheads.

my personal kryptonite, followed at a close second by pool filtration outlets - though you have to be careful with, er, alignment.

 

[Athalia]

Oh, I do have one for you guys that has never disappointed. Water jets. A powerful shower head, or otherwise, and only focused on the clitoris. I’ve actually had some of my best orgasms masturbating this way.. almost painfully good. Mainstream media has often done this one justice, from personal experience, they got that one spot on.

What, mainstream media gets a detail of erotica right? Alert the media!

But seraph is right. Shower heads, Jacuzzi nozzles, you betcha.

I might add that I had an experience once where we made love in a pool, and I got off. (He did, too.) But it wasn't from penetration, but from having his penis sliding agains my clit. It was quite pleasant. But I've never tried underwater penetrative sex, and from what others have been saying, it seems I haven't missed much.